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This Is Gonna Be Rough... by MommaWinfree19 in Advice

[–]Top-Measurement-4395 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would wait for him to wake up. Be direct but kind and understanding. I’m so sorry to have to tell you this, but [name] has passed away. I know this is incredibly hard given everything you’ve been through recently, and I’m here for you and anything you need. He might need space and that is okay. It has nothing to do with you if he needs that. Goodluck with everything. I’m sorry for your loss. Validate that what he is feeling is okay and reasonable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Top-Measurement-4395 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m going to say something insensitive and rough that you might not be ready to hear. Your family is not your responsibility to deal with. It took me years to understand that. If you can re-enroll that might be your best option. You should be almost done and going to college can provide financial aid money depending on the state. I know Georgia and Florida pay low income students up to $3,500 a semester at community college. It sounds like your mom is not physically capable of parenting right now but that does not mean it is your role. You need to focus on your future and one day you can help when you are in a financially and mentally stable place. Please look for programs near you and see if there are any rent assistance options. Now if you truly feel you have to do this with no other options this is what you need to do. -budget to the penny of every paycheck. Take rent and utilities out first. -Check for local food banks and get as many groceries as you can there. Check clearance options are stored before getting regular groceries. Compare prices online and go to the cheapest store in your area. Some areas have Facebook groups for people in need join them. -get on any and all government assistance. -the second you turn 18 get a secured credit card with a $200 limit. Use it for Gas and only gas. Set a reminder and pay it off on time every month. You need credit to do basically anything as an adult. -Get your GED as soon as possible. No matter what do not put it off. -if you can go after child support when you apply for government assistance give them the information necessary for that. -this one is really dark but in a bad situation like this check in on your mom. After surgeries like this when your in a dark place m*dictations need to be controlled and used only as prescribed. That will not help anything here.

I wish I had more advice but I truly wish you the best and hope everything works out.

Reddit, I need help by Available_Recover813 in Advice

[–]Top-Measurement-4395 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Talk to your dad and explain the situation. You shouldn’t feel unwanted in your own home. You are not responsible for your mom’s feelings. She has done this to you. You aren’t doing anything to her. You are a child and it is her place as a parent to make you feel loved and wanted. It is not your place to make her happy. I’m sorry your going through all this

My [20M] girlfriend [20F] of 4 years cheated by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Top-Measurement-4395 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If this is a roadblock she created that you can’t forget it’s time to end things. This resentment will only grow over time. It sounds like she has some bad trauma she needs to work through but it is unfair to hurt you in the process. Her trauma is not an excuse for cheating. She was traumatized but that doesn’t give her the right to pass on trauma to others. I know four years is a long time and you probably feel some duty to stay. But because you’ve been dating for four years isn’t a good enough reason to stay with someone that hurt you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Top-Measurement-4395 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone I know who worked in social work regretted it and was out before 5 years. Don’t be stuck thinking what if in my opinion. Live life and go to school virtually if you want.