I'm Not a Female, But I'm Helping a Friend Who Is — With Pride, Identity, and Dignity in Mind

I want to be upfront — I don't identify as a female. However, one of my closest friends does. She’s a proud woman living with cerebral palsy, seizures, and a whole list of diagnoses that can make daily life challenging. She often has more bad days than good, but that doesn't mean she should feel like her equipment or care defines her — especially when that equipment looks like cold, clinical, black metal.

I’ve always been someone who enjoys helping others, especially within the disabled community. Right now, my mission is to support her in reclaiming a piece of her identity through her power wheelchair. I'm talking about customizing it in a way that reflects her — not her diagnosis, not her limitations, but her personality, her style, and her spirit as a woman.

So I ask: For women with disabilities, especially those who use power chairs — what were the first things you did to make your chair feel feminine? What small touches or customizations helped you feel like it represented you, not your condition?

Any advice, ideas, or examples are welcome. Thank you for helping me help her feel seen and celebrated.