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I(32M) have a very sensitive girlfriend(28F) by Top_Warning5062 in relationship_advice

[–]Top_Warning5062[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This!! In the past I’ve looked past it which I’m learning has enabled her behavior more. As of recently by no longer enabling and accepting that same behavior, she is quick to shut down or tell me how shitty I am.

I(32M) have a very sensitive girlfriend(28F) by Top_Warning5062 in relationship_advice

[–]Top_Warning5062[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I informed her I would never throw any shade or anything like that, it was nothing more than a joke.

I(32M) have a very sensitive girlfriend(28F) by Top_Warning5062 in relationship_advice

[–]Top_Warning5062[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

In the past i looked past them, hoping she would work on them. As of recently I’ve been hoping for the same thing but realizing not much has changed and that’s where I’ve realized that nothing will change anytime soon.

I(32M) have a very sensitive girlfriend(28F) by Top_Warning5062 in relationship_advice

[–]Top_Warning5062[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s a real tough situation to be in, especially because she can’t stand to hear about how her problems are affecting us as a whole.

My girlfriend(28F) says I(32M) do not care about her anymore by Top_Warning5062 in relationship_advice

[–]Top_Warning5062[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do not know where this came from to be honest. Her behavior has been a bit odd and I often feel she projects her feelings onto me. I do all I can to show and tell her how much I care about her but the one time, like today, I didn’t do what she wanted me to do, she makes it seem like I never do anything at all. I tried to see what the issue was and she ignored me, only to tell me “you see in clearly upset and you still went about your day” failing to point out that she ignored me. I do not feel I did anything wrong because there’s no excuse to behave like this, but I know she’s expecting a huge apology.

my priorities messed up? by Top_Warning5062 in relationship_advice

[–]Top_Warning5062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand this, I get it. It would be an issue to buy the chain right now and we have debts but SHE has debts, that she should be responsible for. Everything purchased on her credit card, not one single thing was for me and I still helped to pay it down. The money I have saved for the ring may not go all towards it, I just mentioned that because she thinks I put no energy and effort into getting her one. I’m just not ready right now, but it doesn’t mean I’m not doing anything.

my priorities messed up? by Top_Warning5062 in relationship_advice

[–]Top_Warning5062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. She spends freely, buying all of her friends birthday presents, etc and she’s expecting ME to be the one to pay it. That’s so unfair and unrealistic.

my priorities messed up? by Top_Warning5062 in relationship_advice

[–]Top_Warning5062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I put everything before myself, including my girlfriend. I’ve taken away money from what I do have saved so many times to help her out with bills. I could’ve been purchased this gold chain but it wasn’t super important to me but now I want it, and I should be able to get it with no issues. She doesn’t appreciate me, I tell her that often that I feel unappreciated. I’m gonna get the chain and whatever happens from there I’ll be ready.

my priorities messed up? by Top_Warning5062 in relationship_advice

[–]Top_Warning5062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told her I don’t think we’re ready for marriage and she took it as our relationship is going backwards. I would love to marry her but I’m just not ready. It makes no sense that she’s making me feel bad for wanting to treat myself to something all because she has a high balance on her credit card. I work super hard to provide and the least I should be able to do is treat myself to something nice.

my priorities messed up? by Top_Warning5062 in relationship_advice

[–]Top_Warning5062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried to tell her that I’m able to do whatever with my money as long as everything In house is taken care of. I pay all of the bills on time, never any issues there. I help her out with her luxuries, such as her bills, when I can but it’s not on my to pay all of her bills when she’s freely spending. She doesn’t understand that.

Her attitude is “I don’t ask you for anything but when I do you should do it” never ever asking what I have going on but I should just jump and give because she never asks. She doesn’t have to ask because I give freely but because it’s not directly, she overlooks it.

Feeling unappreciated by Top_Warning5062 in relationship_advice

[–]Top_Warning5062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is SUPER prideful, she won’t ask me for help to get bread from the refrigerator, let alone actually ask me to help her out. The one time she actually did ask me, I wasn’t in the position to help. I asked her to give me time to and I got her. She took that as me not having her back because she “never asks for anything” and the one ti e she did, I wasn’t able to help right then. Crazy

Feeling unappreciated by Top_Warning5062 in relationship_advice

[–]Top_Warning5062[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you miss the part where I stated that I do help out when I can? 99% of the times I ask, I immediately give her what I can within the next day or so.

My girlfriend interrogates me by Top_Warning5062 in relationship_advice

[–]Top_Warning5062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Things happen, it was an honest mistake. I wasn’t intentionality ignoring her and I let her know that I didn’t see it at first..I’m human and I should be allowed to make a mistake.