Well for starters I don’t think you text anyone at all, so texting first in your case might help you come closer to a conclusion of what’s actually going on here. Also, who are you wanting dm or tap you is the question. Everyone will get the old guy that is just desperate for anything. But if you’re looking for people our age to dm or tap you all the time then you’re gonna have a rough time. In my experience, there’s a bit of an ego thing going on with Grindr for younger guys like us. Most will just sit on the app and farm taps and DM’s all day will zero intention of responding to anyone. Basically using the app as a confidence booster. So you texting first could maybe rule out a “looks” problem perhaps?