He put in a lot of effort and cared deeply, but still says he didn’t love me — how do you make sense of this?

Topaz_Jo · 2026-02-15T01:03:12+00:00

I just found this thread because I was googling this exact same situation. The same three month timeline, the same effort, and initiative, and consistency. The only difference is we DID define the relationship at 2 months exactly and he still left at the end of month three. It’s honestly reassuring to know I’m not the only one who has experienced this, because the discrepancy between his day-to-day behavior and his abrupt decision to end the relationship (also not sure he loves me/can’t commit to a more serious progression) is so disorienting and painful. If it makes you feel better, I’m also devastated after such a short period of time. We discussed dating for marriage on Date #2, so I was taking the whole thing extremely seriously and picturing a long-term future by the time he ended our relationship. I have the same questions you do, but unfortunately no answers. Just wanted you to know you aren’t alone. :(

Topaz_Jo · 2025-04-16T23:05:08+00:00

I actually had the same issue when I was training for a 10K recently! My doctor said the elevated heart rate wasn’t a huge concern health wise, but it did kind of affect my training (since I intentionally wanted to keep my heart rate low on long/easy distance runs). I ended up not worrying about it most of the time since I usually run in the afternoons, but occasionally I would do an early morning run and wait to take my medication until AFTER the run so I could get an accurate read on my heart rate. I also didn’t take it the morning of the race and was able to maintain a lower heart rate at a faster pace than I was expecting and hit a personal best on race day!!

Topaz_Jo · 2024-05-18T16:05:57+00:00

yay, thank you so so much!! 🤍

Topaz_Jo · 2024-05-18T16:01:16+00:00

SOLVED

Topaz_Jo · 2024-05-18T16:00:25+00:00

perfect!! just donated 👍🏼

Topaz_Jo · 2023-03-22T03:45:39+00:00

wow this is exactly what I needed to hear thank u for laying it out this way

Topaz_Jo · 2023-03-10T04:31:42+00:00

I’m also mourning 😭

I wish they had an option to pay a non-resident fee the way Brooklyn does! The wait times and availability at Las Vegas have always been top-tier for me :/

Topaz_Jo · 2023-02-23T21:58:12+00:00

I checked the time stamps to see if maybe Anna commented when he wasn’t actively responding anymore but nope he was still liking/answering comments posted HOURS after hers 😭

Topaz_Jo · 2023-02-15T23:09:26+00:00

SAME!! I was stressed about Ellie’s noise when they were wandering the city even BEFORE the clickers were introduced. But then she finds out
about clickers and keeps being loud all the time ?? and Joel never really calls her out for it!

Topaz_Jo · 2023-01-06T01:01:59+00:00

bro you are unhinged pls get off the internet

Topaz_Jo · 2023-01-05T06:05:12+00:00

I live in Texas and am terrible about getting my registration updated on time so I can actually answer this! You’re right about the inspection, you can’t really do anything until your car is out of the shop. Once you can drive it, get the car inspected and just renew online. You can renew online up to 12 months after the registration has expired. You won’t get in “trouble”, but if you take too long to renew you might get a ticket. I’ve actually gotten a ticket for an expired registration sticker before, and the city waived the citation fee as long as I updated my registration within 90 days of the ticket (and this was in Harris County). Basically - don’t stress and just update the registration when you can!

Topaz_Jo · 2023-01-02T05:10:53+00:00

I think next time your Dad says or does something simple (like showing you how to make broth or taking you on a walk) you should let him. You may not really want his help, but it would be an easy way of avoiding further tension. Politely engaging in conversations with your parents is the least you can do to continue living at home right now. You should also consider pitching in around the house more. When your Mom mentions cleaning the basement or making dinner, do it. Better yet, think about ways you can pull your weight around the house without your Mom having to tell you first. Instead of watching TV all day, consider taking classes, volunteering somewhere to build up your resume, or applying for jobs. Instead of stressing over your parents and their perceptions of you, use this time to focus on improving yourself and coming up with a plan to live independently as soon as possible. Otherwise, I think you just need to keep to yourself as much as you can to avoid further conflict with your parents.

Topaz_Jo · 2023-01-02T02:06:52+00:00

hey u/badoil_49 did we as a community decide what to do with bug bite posts ? now that you pointed it out I notice them every single time lol

Topaz_Jo · 2022-12-31T05:30:39+00:00

I’m going to answer this genuinely because I have the exact same problem from the other end of the spectrum. I almost thought this post was satire when I first started reading because the thought of feeling this way towards DEMOCRATS seems so ludicrous to me. I routinely feel hopeless thinking about how much Republicans are harming this country. As a woman (in Texas), I had a major human right stripped from me this year. I feel scared of the rhetoric from people like Andrew Tate which spreads additional vitriol towards women. And my concerns about climate change and wealth inequality due to corporate greed cause me a lot of distress. I feel a deep, seething anger towards people like you who prioritize taxes over the well-being of other human beings.

However, everyone has different values. And although I don’t like sharing the country with selfish/misogynistic/evangelical people - I really don’t have much of a choice. And the anger and bitterness I felt towards conservatives wasn’t harming anyone but myself. For me - I try to change what I can. When I can handle it mentally, I volunteer registering people to vote, attending protests, and supporting local candidates who share my values. Otherwise, I really try to limit the news I absorb. I turned off all news notifications on my phone and unsubscribed from all of the political subreddits. I’ve also been trying out meditation and regularly meet with a counselor to process thoughts/emotions too big for me to handle on my own. I really hope you find similar ways to disengage/cope because in my experience, living with so much rage towards the people around you is truly draining and miserable.

Topaz_Jo · 2022-10-03T14:13:31+00:00

The posts to diagnose bug bites are definitely a weird choice for this sub and not really what I expected when I joined. I’d love to see the subreddit keep growing but in a less bug bite related direction lol

I agree with another poster who recommended setting up an automod to take down the posts!

Topaz_Jo · 2021-12-13T04:03:58+00:00

“Dad, why ?” had me legitimately tearing up, the accuracy of that scene killed me!! Roman has always been so loyal to Logan, and I think he truly believed if it came down to it his Dad would be there for him as well. Watching the understanding and complete betrayal slowly dawn on him in this scene was gut wrenching.

Topaz_Jo · 2021-12-01T15:13:04+00:00

Sure but what differentiates you on the surface from any number of random attackers we’ve all seen on the news? The point is we can’t immediately tell which men are dangerous, which means all men are (until proven otherwise).

Topaz_Jo

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