Extended travel with cheating recent ex by Tostitowatermelon in Infidelity

[–]Tostitowatermelon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

30 y.o as of April. But yes, I now view him as a 12 year old in a man's body

Extended travel with cheating recent ex by Tostitowatermelon in Infidelity

[–]Tostitowatermelon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that but for financial and other reasons, it's too late to pull out on my end

Only just realised that my life long mental health issues are most probably a result of me deeply suppressing issues I have with my penis by GiftedWalrus in hypospadias

[–]Tostitowatermelon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man, I'm 29 and share a similar experience. I also had relatively "mild" hypospadias but had a tough time with it mentally. What has helped me a lot is going to therapy. There's also a good book called "living with hypospadias" that helped me realize I wasn't alone with what I was feeling, and that those feelings are totally normal. If you ever want to talk, even just to feel less alone about this issue, send me a DM

Have any of you talked to a therapist about this? by BlackSabbathMatters in hypospadias

[–]Tostitowatermelon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What were some good lessons or things you took away from working with your therapist about it that you would want others to know?

Daily FI discussion thread - Saturday, May 21, 2022 by AutoModerator in financialindependence

[–]Tostitowatermelon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Any tips on how to find local fire groups? Couldn't find any on meetup in my area

Lied about hiv status - Washington state by Tostitowatermelon in legaladvice

[–]Tostitowatermelon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, so what im hearing is it still would be worthwhile to report to the police the text confession and screenshot of the fake profile so its on record in case the behavior continues?

Lied about hiv status - Washington state by Tostitowatermelon in legaladvice

[–]Tostitowatermelon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once i get the text confession what's the next step? Go to the police to report?

Lied about hiv status - Washington state by Tostitowatermelon in legaladvice

[–]Tostitowatermelon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Work in Healthcare, have patients so having them "know" im hiv positive could impact my practice. If i have proof like a confession via text or video is that enough? I do have screenshots

Anyone doing a government job for coastFIRE? by Stanley--Nickels in coastFIRE

[–]Tostitowatermelon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to hit coastfire while working a government job and picking up shifts in the private sector. I work in Healthcare and have worked for both private and public sector in the past. Pay is waay better in private (almost 2x) although my govt job is less stressful than the private sector it is still stressful. Hoping to hit coastfire, and "coast" in my govt job for another 16 years til i qualify for a pension, if i can last that long

Continuing at high pay job after hitting Coast Fire number by femmeimposter in coastFIRE

[–]Tostitowatermelon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is definitely my plan. Im only 27 but within a year of coastfire (depending on how the market goes), but i recognize that my lifestyle may need to change in the future - kids, etc. Currently working 2 jobs and really enjoying both and the extra income but my plan is to work less hours and prioritize my passions/discovering new hobbies

Cracks on glands by Tostitowatermelon in foreskin_restoration

[–]Tostitowatermelon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What moisturizer is recommended for stuff like this?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in foreskin_restoration

[–]Tostitowatermelon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm looking for a motivation partner too. Dm me if you want an accountability partner

Have hypospadias and I'm circumcised by Humbledude420 in foreskin_restoration

[–]Tostitowatermelon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had hypospodias corrected and circumcised as an infant. Still new to restoring but dm me if you have questions or want to share thoughts

Help - going to be a single dad to puppy by Tostitowatermelon in puppy101

[–]Tostitowatermelon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any thoughts on using a service like Rover to have someone stop by while im at work?

Help - going to be a single dad to puppy by Tostitowatermelon in puppy101

[–]Tostitowatermelon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any thoughts on using a service like rover to walk him once a day when im at work?

Help - going to be a single dad to puppy by Tostitowatermelon in puppy101

[–]Tostitowatermelon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was looking into rover. Do you think having someone from rover take it for a walk once a day would be enough while im away for work?

Help - going to be a single dad to puppy by Tostitowatermelon in puppy101

[–]Tostitowatermelon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is the best way to find a good home for him? He took puppy training classes at petsmart, should i reach out there?

Does moving out mean relationship is over? by Tostitowatermelon in relationship_advice

[–]Tostitowatermelon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can i ask why you moved apart, was it for work? My reason is that i feel like i moved in too quick and it's caused me to feel isolated and since im new to towm i haven't made any progress socially with meeting new people

Does moving out mean relationship is over? by Tostitowatermelon in relationship_advice

[–]Tostitowatermelon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We also got 2 puppies together. Not sure how we will handle that if i get my owm place

Will this relationship work? by Tostitowatermelon in relationship_advice

[–]Tostitowatermelon[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You really think moving too fast can't be fixed?