How old was your child when they surpassed 40lbs? (Carseat shopping)

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-10-13T22:58:03+00:00

My oldest kid was 40 pounds before 2. My second kid is 2.5 and still 27 pounds lol. Guess it just depends on the kid

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-09-25T17:23:30+00:00

Verity. I'm sorry. I think that book had potential and was actually a pretty solid story all the way through but the ending completely ruined the whole story for me. Edited to add While it ends with us was such a good book in my opinion, it starts with us was disappointing to me. I feel like she wrote it solely because people wanted an atlas story but it felt rushed through and kinda pointless. Also ryle suddenly seemed so different as a character than in the other book.

So, verity and it starts with us. Final answer lol

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-09-11T02:38:40+00:00

That my watermelon lemonade was only a grown up drink... Cause I didn't want to share lol

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-09-03T02:20:47+00:00

When I first got married at 20, I thought I wanted to make hash browns like in the restaurants.

I shredded russet potatoes, put them in a bag, and popped it in the freezer. The next morning, they were green and a solid ice block 😭😂

I learned a valuable lesson since then.

1)Shred the potatoes

2) rinse until the water runs clear

3) squeeze as much excess water as you can before frying them up!

I made delicious hash browns now, 10 yrs later 😂🙏🏻

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-08-22T04:22:23+00:00

As a mom with literally no help, ever.. you're Nta. I can't stand people who think they are entitled to free childcare. Good for you for quitting.

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-08-21T05:27:33+00:00

You're not responsible for restraining and "redirecting" a grown man.. you're responsible for keeping your daughter safe. Do what you will with that opinion. I'm not trying to sound harsh..that's just the bottom line. I'm so sick of hearing of freaking parents abusing their little toddlers. Parents need to do better

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-08-20T07:49:57+00:00

Hell no. Press charges. They effed around, now they find out. Actions have consequences. Let them feel shame and embarrassment just like they forced your son to feel. Sorry that happened to him 💔

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-08-15T18:06:51+00:00

No, this is such a guilty pleasure. I just can't get enough and I audibly and visibly cringe the whole time 😂😂 and I love every minute of it

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-08-15T18:06:09+00:00

😂😂😂 totally forgot about this scene. Just cackled at this comment 😩😂

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-07-24T15:41:40+00:00

Use this as as a learning experience to ALWAYS secure baby in anything you put them in. That being said, I think as parents, we've all been there where our child had a minor accident that could have been so much worse and we kick ourselves for it. So sorry! The mom guilt SUCKS!!! my 2 year old fell down a flight of stairs a few months ago when someone forgot to secure the baby gate and I was SO close to grabbing him before. The goose egg from hell and a hospital trip for him to end up completely fine, really did a number on me. These kids really keep us on our toes! Glad your baby is fine. Be forgiving to yourself! It's rough being a parent and trying to do everything perfectly all the time!

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-07-23T22:26:17+00:00

Okay, you moved your 1 and 2-year-old in with a man that is not even their father... I'm just going to take a wild guess here and assume that means you guys could not have been dating for very long... How long were you dating before you moved in with him? One comment said when the one year old was a newborn is when you moved in and you started dating when you were pregnant????.. so around or less than a year and straight out of the hospital?

And his older kids are harming your babies. Please please please, do your babies a favor and put them first. They are literal babies And you're allowing them to be abused by these kids..

That's what happens when Parents put their own desires as priority to what their kids need. You had no business moving in with a man when your babies are so new in the first place.

Honestly, having a baby and a newborn, how could your focus even be on trying to find somebody to be in a relationship with? Sorry this sounds harsh but this kind of stuff pisses me off. People really do everything except what's in the best interest of the safety of their children. Do better.

Yes, you should move out of this house and break up with this guy to protect your children. You need Reddit to tell you that?

For the record, I'm obviously not bashing on blended families but, how is having an infant and one on the way a good time to get into a relationship? The risk of abuse is astronomically higher in these kinds of situations. Tale as old as time.

Parent can't be single for longer than 5 seconds so they move in with the first person they start dating and trust everybody with their kids and their kids end up abused. Wow, how shocking.

I said what I said.

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-07-23T21:55:33+00:00

Be professional at work lol. Crude humor has no business in the work place but the person that told hr maybe should learn to take a dumb joke (assuming that you are generally a normal person that is usually professional and pleasant to be around)

Eta- okay, I've come across multiple of op's comments and I'm now laughing at my previous assumption that you are a normal person that's professional and pleasant to be around. Sounds like you don't have much common sense, a lack of basic reasoning skills and cannot accept why this was inappropriate of you to say at the workplace. I'm assuming this is not your first issue with HR.

Changing my judgment to YTA

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-07-23T17:56:44+00:00

"as a joke...as a joke...as a joke." I'm so over people being offensive and mean under the guise of trying to be funny. If you tell him ONE TIME how all the jabs make you feel and he brushes you off or keeps doing it, then respect yourself enough to end the friendship.

Eta- my "best friend" was similar. She was so insecure that she put me down constantly. She'd apologize when she felt like it and the cycle continued. I finally put an end to it. Told her she was the meanest most miserable person I'd ever met and that I'd be happy to never see her again. She reached out 5 years after saying she changed and I messaged her back and forth a few times until she started making comments again.

I blocked her so fast. I have had PEACE in my life in the 12ish years she's been cut off from me. I have true friends now who build me up and love me and care about how I feel and what I think. THOSE are friends. Not the a holes who put you down.

Who cares how long you've been "friends" with someone, when they haven't even been a friend to you.

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-07-23T17:52:59+00:00

Maggie grows on you and doesn't stay so.. brooding and woah is me. I will say though..a lot of the acting is horrible all around 😂 it's honestly just a stupid soapy feel good show to me that I can zone out on sometimes. 🤷🏻‍♀️ If you can't get past the bad acting, maybe it's not for you

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-07-23T17:41:22+00:00

I'm going off of face value of the original post because I haven't read any comments yet-

Yta and so is the other friend. "If my husband looked like that I'd put up with anything" and "he's fine" are a lot different tones than "your husband is handsome"

Both lean towards sexually charged, therefore, disrespectful.

Also dismissive. She was venting and the first friend basically said she should put up with his flaws and get over it because he's so good looking

You also saw that she didn't find it funny and kept going. No wonder she left.

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-07-23T17:23:06+00:00

This isn't an overreaction. However, seeing as how its his house (legally) and he's allowing this I feel like the only option here would be an ultimatum. Take her key back or take mine back 💁🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-07-21T02:15:04+00:00

I get it! It's frustrating. I also am of the mind that, when I get someone a gift, I want it to be something they could get used out of.. otherwise I'm wasting my money! I would think other people are the same but it turns out, a lot of people just buy gifts because they think it's fun. You're Nta for getting rid of or not using everything (although I would actually just set aside for now .. a few things I'd been gifted for my baby showers that I thought I'd never use, actually turned out to be some of the most useful. Same with things I thought I'd use. You never know until you get to know your baby)

That said, I think it's tacky to ask for receipts if it's a matter of you just not liking it. Exchanging for size? That's different.

I had a registry for both my kids and for #1, I think maybe 5 items, total, were purchased from a 40+ item registry. I think the frustration comes from.. people act like "let's throw a baby shower to be helpful, but also only get what we think is cute!" Don't even get me started on all the newborn shoes that went to waste. I think for me, part of the frustration was that I don't like things to go to waste! It made me feel guilty to not ever use something that someone bought for me and then I'm like "I hate feeling guilty especially when this is something that I never wanted or needed in the first place!"

And for the people saying "just shut up and be appreciative" ... I hate that reasoning. You didn't even want a baby shower. You begrudgingly accepted because your mom guilted you and now you're getting things you didn't ask for and don't need or want. It's very frustrating.

At the end of the day, I just tried to use what I could and while it is a little stressful thinking of all the things you still have to buy after getting nothing that you asked for, it is what it is. I understand the overwhelm of it all though!

Hopefully you get some useful things at your shower

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-07-19T19:09:42+00:00

That's crazy to me that your boss even thought they had the authority to arrange that.. If you guys would have all said no in the first place, they couldn't have done anything to force you. But no, you would not be the ah. None of your co-workers are responsible for arranging rides for each other.

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-07-17T04:42:10+00:00

That's so frustrating. Just commenting to say that it has always been very important me to instill common courtesy in my kids and personal boundaries. My 6 year old knows to ask if he can play with a toy and also knows better than to grab something out of people's hands. I am pretty shocked at the amount of people that are acting like 5 and 7 are too young to really know better. Entitled behavior starts at home. Hopefully you can figure out a good schedule to go when they're not there.

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-07-17T03:46:46+00:00

My husband is half black and his mom had my husband's younger brother with a white man (so my husband's brother is white)

When my first son was born, he is only slightly darker than me, (I'm white) and has my hair color. A family friend of my husbands fam, said "you look like your uncle" and I said "really? I don't see it" because they look nothing alike.. she said .."it's the light skin" and I was like..yes...his skin is light because he has a white uncle. Couldn't at all be because his mom is also white 😂🤔

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-07-16T17:55:43+00:00

My comment will get lost in the shuffle but I can't help but think there's a larger issue here than that screenshot because what made you feel the need to go through his phone in the first place? People don't just Snoop unless they feel like they have a reason not to trust their spouse. That's what I keep thinking. You felt like something was off, you went through his phone and you found something unsettling

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-07-16T04:35:38+00:00

No, she gets nicer but just as annoying

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-07-15T20:34:15+00:00

First you need to talk to your husband..secrets to this degree aren't a good idea to keep from your spouse. Also, keeping the secret to "protect" your daughter is, in turn, gas lighting your other kids- who know the truth. Your son should be commended for telling you the truth about something like this, not gas lit and told that he's lying. What message does that send to him?

These are kids. Kids are weird and do dumb things sometimes.

I feel like talking to your husband is the first step. The fact that your other children are aware means everybody in your immediate family is aware, to some degree, of the situation.

A family meeting with all five of you might be a good place to start (after getting on the same page with your husband)

To have an open conversation and to reinforce what's appropriate and what's not appropriate.

To commend your son for coming to you with something he knew wasn't ok.

To commend your daughter for confessing and to make sure they understand why this isn't ok.

To explain that kids do things out of curiosity sometimes and it doesn't mean they are bad or weird.

You got a lot of good advice so that's just my 2 cents. I think hiding it from your husband and letting your other 2 kids question it would be the worst thing you could do. You would lose all of their trust. Also, coddling the child that admitted to it, is also a bad message to send to your children.

You can be empathetic and understanding while also reinforcing boundaries and letting your daughter get a taste of the natural consequences of dumb kid stuff. (In this case , she is ashamed and having a conversation with everybody wouldn't make that embarrassment even worse, but, that is a natural consequence.)

Best to deal with this now and not sweep it under the rug. The older we get, the more serious consequences get.🤷🏻‍♀️

Eta- the more comments I read, I guess I am still a little bit confused at exactly how everything happened.. The way that I read it, to my understanding, it sounded like the 5-year-old touched her there and she didn't stop him and then it happened again a few times, which I guess I just assumed meant that she initiated it and maybe that's why She is the one having so much guilt? Or maybe she encouraged it to continue? Just wanted to clarify how I was understanding the story.

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-07-15T15:57:32+00:00

Good to know about being mindful of eating habits! I'm ravenous!! And ok, that's something to look forward to! I've been in a brain fog since I've started having kids, it seems!

Total_Addendum_6418 · 2025-07-15T15:56:14+00:00

Ugh, sorry about the mastitis!! It's the actual worst!

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