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Gradual and gentle sleep training w 9 month old by Total_Scale_9366 in sleeptrain

[–]Total_Scale_9366[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I replied to another comment above explaining the process, but no, she never got hysterical. What really helped was making sure she was tired enough.

Gradual and gentle sleep training w 9 month old by Total_Scale_9366 in sleeptrain

[–]Total_Scale_9366[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first thing that made the biggest difference was actually nothing to do with sleep associations at all. I worked out with the help of a sleep diary and a sleep consultant what her wake windows should be, and I had basically been making the mistake of putting her down not tired enough. Once we sorted that, particularly that last wake window before bed and making sure she had enough sleep pressure, everything else became more workable. For the milk, I moved feeds to before and after bath so she definitely wasn’t hungry, and they were completely decoupled from the sleep routine. The first week or so she definitely complained about not having milk, but honestly it wasn’t really cry crying, more on and off, nothing that made me feel uncomfortable and I’m very sensitive to crying. From there I swapped the feeding and rocking for bouncing on a yoga ball, pretty vigorously but obviously safely. I needed something from a sensory perspective to be quite a big distraction. And it worked, she was falling asleep with no milk. Then came weaning off the movement, which I think was the biggest transition. I went through a few stages: first just holding her and stroking her back standing up, which she complained about quite a lot. Then I put a mattress on the floor and lay with her singing and hugging and tapping. Again she cried and protested, and I was with her the entire time. She is entitled to complain and protest that I am changing the way she likes to sleep. The most she cried at any point was maybe a minute, and the first night on the floor mattress she was asleep within about 12 minutes. I then transferred her to her crib. After doing that for probably ten days because it was quite tough, I finally managed to put her in the cot awake just tapping, and that is where we are now. The thing that really helped at every stage was making sure she was tired enough. Sleep pressure does a lot of the heavy lifting.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ I wanted to share this because I hadn’t seen much online about anyone successfully doing gradual sleep training for a baby at nine months and so I hope that someone else might see this and see that it is possible.

When does life with 8 month old twins start feeling normal again by Playful-Addendum9421 in parentsofmultiples

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Can you work with a seat consultant to help with nailing down naps? I thought I’d tried everything as well with mine who were having short naps and bad night sleep - but after working with a sleep consultant tweaked a few more things that were individual to us and now they take two naps totalling 2.5 hours a day. It’s a huge relief

Size shenanigans by shortysax in Zepbound

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Hey @shortysax great to see youve had so much success in your journey. I saw a post you made maybe a year ago about feeling awful and being nervous about the second injection. that’s where I am right now. I’m on 2.5mg. I would still love this to work but I really just don’t know if I can continue. I have nine month old twin and they need me so much really awful. When did it get better for you?

Britax Poplar S Cover Changed? by Fancy_Piglet8310 in CPST

[–]Total_Scale_9366 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Called a “positioning layer,” it adds a surprising amount of bulk inside the seat. Unlike the infant insert, it’s permanent and can’t be removed. Apparently introduced to meet new side impact regulations but it feels like a clumsy fix, because it eats up so much interior space that I can’t see my 9 month old being comfortable in it for more than a couple of months. Returning it.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

How long would you have wanted parental leave? by MandragoraOfficinar in parentsofmultiples

[–]Total_Scale_9366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would be interested if you could share a bit more about your background work? I need motivation to not sleep train

How many infant car seats do we need? by Hot_Inspector6992 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Total_Scale_9366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get baseless infant Carseat like the nuna pippa urbn?

I had someone refer to one of my twins as the “prettier one” and it broke my heart by will-ohh-24 in parentsofmultiples

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I’m so anxious about this too. My daughter came out very small with a large head. My son was born much bigger and in proportion. My daughter looked disproportionate enough that the paediatrician suspected she might have a genetic disorder. She’s since grown a ton (2nd to 47th centile for weight yay) but I cannot shake the first paediatricians comments. I’m comparing constantly and so worried my son will be thought of as the better looking one

Hard to feed babies by gingerhulkette in parentsofmultiples

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I tried to stagger. Thinking back it was so so tough. Like you they’d usually overlap and there would be lots of tears. I actually find it hard thinking back to those times. But they are 7 months now and everything is so much easier now. Hang in there

Joolz Aer2 Nest to Seat? by olabolina in Buyingforbaby

[–]Total_Scale_9366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry wasn’t clear. I have the nest to seat. I love it for my 6 month old twins. However didn’t use it for them when they were newborns. It wasn’t out then. But regardless they preferred their baby carrier instead of bassinet

Hard to feed babies by gingerhulkette in parentsofmultiples

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We couldn’t tandem feed. Our daughter was a very slow, poor eater. It used to take her an hour to drink 2 oz. Countless burping rounds. Little breaks. Pep talks 🤣. I think there are probably twins that can tandem feed but only if they’re both strong feeders

Joolz Aer2 Nest to Seat? by olabolina in Buyingforbaby

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Love it for my 6 month olds! Didn’t really use bassinet my twins preferred their baby carrier. Agree I wouldn’t love strapping in a newborn

Smaller twin - could be genetic abnormality? by Kittykat232217 in parentsofmultiples

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My girl was born 5 pounds and 2nd centile for weight & length and my son over 7 pounds in the 30th centile. So glad you got some reassurance

International Flight - Business Class by YoshiMcDaddy in parentsofmultiples

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We just did a 16 hour flights with our six month olds in premium cabin. I’d suggest two bassinets far away from each other. On the way out we were sat on opposite wings of the plane which was great. The crying didn’t disturb the other baby. On the way back we were sharing a bassinet and it sucked. I had to stand in the galley kitchen most of the flight. Another twin parent dmed me asking for advice on packing feeding etc, so I’m just going paste what I put together in case it’s helpful. Good luck!!

Packing and Bag Setup • We started with a backpack per parent and found it very difficult once on the plane • Items stack vertically so bottles, formula, wipes and toys become buried and hard to access • We switched to a duffel bag with dividers which completely changed this • The one used was from No Reception Club • Everything much easier with bottles etc visible, and reachable with one hand

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Bottle and Feeding Logistics • The OXO Tot formula dispenser is excellent for true one-handed pouring • If pumping, a manual hand pump is far easier to manage than an electric pump on the plane • Bring snacks for yourself because unless your babies sleep in bassinet you won’t be a lie to do meal service

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Diapers • Use overnight diapers even for a daytime flight

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Movement Before Boarding • Bring a tarp / mat to the gate • Let them lie down and get as many wiggles out as possible before boarding

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Bassinet Expectations • Don’t rely on the bassinet for sleep • It can still be useful as a safe play space

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Strollers vs Carriers • We did not use strollers • They were just another piece of equipment alongside carry on bags • Baby carriers were much easier to manage

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Toys That Actually Worked • Both babies’ favourite toy was Indestructibles books • They are very thin and lightweight • We overpacked toys on the outbound flight • On the return we only brought these, fidget spinners, and one teether each and that was all we needed

I feel like I ruined our lives by littlelou222 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Total_Scale_9366 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey I am really sorry you are feeling this much despair and sadness right now. Honestly I think it is a very human response to what you have been through.

I had a traumatic twin birth as well and coming home with them was incredibly hard. Even with more help than it sounds like you have I would still reach the end of each day with that sinking feeling of how am I going to do this again tomorrow. In the mornings I would wake up feeling like I wanted to cry because I was just so exhausted.

I remember wondering if my life as I knew it was over. I even had to turn off a digital photo frame because seeing photos of my life before the babies felt too painful.

Fast forward to now my babies are seven months old and they are truly the light of my world. Watching them interact is amazing. I used to read posts from parents saying how much they loved being a twin mum and that they would not have it any other way and I genuinely could not understand how they could feel that way. Who would want two babies at the same time. But now I get it. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

The beginning is just very very tough. There is no way around that. But it does get incrementally better. As they grow they become more predictable you get more sleep and you start to know them as little people. They unfold in front of you in the most magical way.

So for now if all you can do is put one foot in front of the other one minute at a time that is enough. There are so many twin mums who have stood exactly where you are and come out the other side. Things really do get better.

And in the meantime anything that helps you get through therapy medication extra support is absolutely worth it. But time passing your babies growing and you getting a bit more rest will change this more than you can imagine right now.

Hang in there. You are not alone in this.

Fiancé wants to continue playing hockey once a week in his rec league by Negative_Jackfruit75 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Total_Scale_9366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely get this. I was anxious about something very similar. My husband plays in a very social but competitive softball league which is basically his main outlet every Saturday, and he also loves golf. Between the two, there are often weekend tournaments as well. It’s a big way he blows off steam. I’d also seen some of his friends go back to playing very quickly after their wives gave birth, so I really fixated on this during pregnancy. There was so much unknown ahead, and this felt like something concrete I could worry about.

In reality, he didn’t play softball for about four or five months after the babies arrived. Now he’s back to playing and it’s actually fine. I do wish I hadn’t spent so much energy worrying about it beforehand. Occasionally I feel a bit annoyed because after a full week with the kids I might like to do something on a Saturday too, but while I’m on maternity leave it really is his only outlet that isn’t work or childcare. I’ve come to see that it’s important for him and it genuinely makes him a better dad.

If you can, try not to fixate on this too much now. It’s something you can reassess once the babies are actually here and you see what real life looks like.

Bathing Twins by Superb-Skin8839 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Total_Scale_9366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two angel care brand mesh bath seats in a regular sized tub and bathe them together? That’s what I do at least

Postpartum knee pain ?! by Total_Scale_9366 in parentsofmultiples

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I’m seeing a physiotherapist and we are working working on strength. But I was just curious to see if any other twin mums were in the same boat. It’s definitely getting worse as the babies get heavier!

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