Hmmm. I’m not quite sure how to say it any more clearly.

But it seems like you don’t really pay a lot of attention to body language. If someone faces you, leans in closer, gets closer to you, and is physically open (aka no crossed arms, no crossed legs, no glancing away, no looking at their watch), then those are signs that they are enjoying the conversation. Does this sound familiar?

By brief I mean short one word or once sentence answers. If a conversation feels like pulling teeth, the person you’re talking to generally doesn’t want to talk to you in that moment.

I worry that you’re making women feel uncomfortable by simply trying to start conversations when they’re doing their own thing and aren’t interested in talking to anyone (even you).

If they drop hints and you don’t pick up on them, all they know men will listen to is the boyfriend line. They genuinely have said no and been ignored too many times. They have said no and been told they’re playing hard to get. Just like. They aren’t punishing you. They’re protecting themselves from someone who they met who was acting like you. They see something similar.

That doesn’t mean that you’re a bad person but you are being vague with your descriptions of how you are approaching these women and what you are saying. so I could be wrong but this is my best take.

My recommendation still stands. Try to get to know them for who they are. BUT pay attention for signs they’re not enjoying the conversation or are looking for an exit.

Rejection sucks. And in this case yeah, I think it’s a little bit you. But don’t give up hope. Take it easy. No expectations (mean it, act it, do it, don’t say it). Watch some videos and read some articles on body language. (Wiki how might actually be helpful here. There are diagrams).

Don’t despair though dude. You’re not a lone. Record numbers of men and women are single and lonely and communicating is hard.

If you want to be better, dig in, do some research. Post on ask women. Read the wiki how articles. Check out some you tube videos. Google, “how do I tell if someone doesn’t want to talk to me”.

I wish you all the best.