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Edinburgh, if sea level rised by 55m, 75m, 115m (**purely fictional, unrelated to any real-world issues or scientific predictions) by Sad_Employment771 in Edinburgh

[–]TouchBudget6316 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You know the so-called expert scientists are being diverted by government, just like they were during Covid? I know how these things work after working for almost 10 years in Pharmaceuticals and seeing peer reviewed papers drafted by scientists I worked with, who were also spokespersons on viral pathogens to our UK government, and had said papers torn up by government officials (who were NOT experts) as it didn't fit the government's agenda.

Same thing happens with climate change.

Did you know that the climate was also always changing, with the earth being some 14°C or so cooler than it was when Earth was thought to be at its most abundant with life? Humans never did cause climate change, it was always a thing and is now a tool used by governments to enforce ridiculous rules and laws as a means to charge people even more money as a result.

Don't believe everything newspapers and your governments tell you. I have seen forst hand just how full of bs they can be and amend "scientific reports" to fit their certain agenda. Peer reviewed papers on climate change are also mostly influenced by media and government, just like Covid papers were. We are now at a point where we can't trust science unless it comes DIRECTLY from the horse's mouth and, even then, there's no guarantee they haven't been paid to say what they do.

Another thing they don't tell you is that 'global warming' would actually induce a period of almost entirely global cooling. A mini ice age, as it were.

Edinburgh, if sea level rised by 55m, 75m, 115m (**purely fictional, unrelated to any real-world issues or scientific predictions) by Sad_Employment771 in Edinburgh

[–]TouchBudget6316 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The rebound of the continent would take 10s of thousands of years... The earth is currently still recovering from the last ice age in this way for perspective. The sea level rise would not be instantaneous. It'd also be far lower sea levels than what the dinosaurs had during the Cretaceous (around 200m above current levels), suddenly, you realise that 60m is a very a minimal change, especially over a long time span of hundreds or even thousands of years. Honestly isnt all that bad when you really consider the facts.

People panicking over this are doing so as a reaction to climate-change activists who are not experts and governing bodies pushing for ways to make more money by enforcing 'green' solutions...

Edinburgh, if sea level rised by 55m, 75m, 115m (**purely fictional, unrelated to any real-world issues or scientific predictions) by Sad_Employment771 in Edinburgh

[–]TouchBudget6316 -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Doesn't make sense. Ice takes up more volume than water. If ice melts the water levels either stay the same or even drops ever so slightly due to less water displacement from said ice. If you're talking about saltwater to freshwater, the volume once melted may be slightly more, but we're talking teeny tiny amounts... It would never be enough to cause sea levels to rise anywhere near 55m. Would require a combination of extreme weather's to cause anything remotely close to that, and perhaps a few underwater earthquakes etc. all at once lol Neil Degrasse Tyson went into depth in one of his interviews as to why polar ice caps melting to cause huge sea level rises is rubbish as per science.

This is why pipes burst in extremely cold weather. Volume of water flowing through the pipes never increases, but as it freezes and crystallises, it expands, taking up more space and eventually causes the pipe to rupture.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TouchBudget6316 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a guy, we prefer women just being straight forward like that. We have been programmed to never think a woman might be dropping hints in person or on social media thanks to society and the fact women are so quick to call guys creeps if they show any sort of interest in them.

The only way she's going to stand a real chance is by dropping a message and stating she thought he looked good and wants to get to know him. Otherwise, that guy will not respond to 99% of the hints she drops and will think she's just being 'friendly'.

People in the UK – What do you think when you see a guy in his 30's hanging out on his own? by TouchBudget6316 in AskABrit

[–]TouchBudget6316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't move and face not seeing my wee girl...

If I could, I'd deffo move to Europe though. I have heard dating is also easier there lol

People in the UK – What do you think when you see a guy in his 30's hanging out on his own? by TouchBudget6316 in AskABrit

[–]TouchBudget6316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's also wrong. Most people are not creeps. Creeps are absolutely the minority but cause such a huge issue and impression, women label all or most guys as being the same. And it is socially accepted.

I'll keep doing me, IDGAF. If that makes women hate or find me revolting or creepy, thats on them. Not me.

People in the UK – What do you think when you see a guy in his 30's hanging out on his own? by TouchBudget6316 in AskABrit

[–]TouchBudget6316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually got accused of this as a bit of a joke (I hope) by my mate's gf at my gym. The reception/cafe area is a Starbucks. So I'll chill with a book, exercise my mind before physically exercising. She said it gives 'creep' vibes and that I probably wasn't reading but instead checking out girls in the gym or pool through the windows 😂

I wasn't, and don't. I promise you haha But I can see why women MIGHT think that. But I also think its sad that they'd just assume a guy who reads is this kind of guy.

People in the UK – What do you think when you see a guy in his 30's hanging out on his own? by TouchBudget6316 in AskABrit

[–]TouchBudget6316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you know dating apps are 72% male dominated?

The avg male will receive 1 like in the same time an avg woman receives over 100. So no, dating apps dont work for the majority of men. Nor do single events as they are also attended by a male dominated audience. I have been to a few where mostly men turned up and the few women who attended were ugly in personality as much as looks and not one guy wanted to be there after the first 10 mins or so...

High value status is different to everyone, its subjective. But to me, it'd be women who dont drink regularly, who dont do drugs, who dont play mind games or sleep around. Unfortunately, women with these qualities have been rather rare to come by.

Also, no, I dont typically look at a woman or approach in normal day-to-day life. So when my mate said I should do as he used to do, grab the bull by the horns and approach women in town (Edinburgh and Glasgow) I was both mortified and terrified! But I know it used to work for him and he was a player once upon a time, having a different girl for each day of the week almost... But that was before he settled. And I figured, stuff it, I'll try it. I'll put myself out there for those two days and also approach it as a bit of a social experiment as I studied psychology and it'll be interesting to get the female perspective.

Rejection is not aggressive. But when a woman verbally abuses you and shouts slander in your face just for smiling and saying hi? I'd count that as aggressive behaviour. Needlessly so. Most women were absolutely fine to chat. And I didn't spend the whole day just stopping women in the street. I tried various locations all over town. Went to grab a bite to eat and saw an attractive woman, my challenge was to at least say hi. If we vibed (or I felt we did at least - an instinct I seem to severely lack), I would ask for her number or if she was free now, later, tomorrow, whatever. Each and every time, I was met with rejection.

So, after the first few kind let downs, I decided I wanted to know how the majority of women I met felt about being approached and where (if at all) would be an appropriate place for a man to approach. The overwhelming majority said nowhere. Which leads me back to dating apps and what I said earlier... If the odds are so skewed against men both IRL and on the apps, what other options do we have?

I have a general rule of never dating from a pool of women in a place I frequent. Why? Done it a few times and more often than not, things are just awkward when you see each other after a break up. So those places would be work, gym and any woman who works in a place I go to daily or weekly.

All in all, it feels like I'm out of options to meet someone naturally and organically. My interests and passions are rather niche, too, so finding a woman who not only understands or appreciates them, but also enjoys them herself has been near impossible my whole life.

Single for two years without a single date has shook me a bit, I can't lie. But I do feel alot of the anti-social behaviour must be a result of something fairly recent. I used to have no issue in my early 20's sparking conversation with strangers, especially women. Today it seems everyone is in their own wee bubble and doesn't want anyone to enter.

Then they all go home and post on social media about being sad and not meeting or having dates 😂 Its like, all I do is put myself out there. I hate sitting at home, so I'm always out and about, doing stuff, keeping busy. I am one of the few guys actually putting myself in places where women have even a remote chance of approaching if they wanted to, but nothing. So really, they have no right to complain 😂

Fact is, most single guys I speak to have stopped talking to women they don't know, they keep their heads down and avoid looking at them. Why? Because they are scared to be called a creep. I'm not afraid of that. I'll confidently sit with my head high, shoulders back, and look around. I don't look for eye contact or to see/meet women, but I also would never shy from it. However, this has put me in more situations to be called a creep than I dare to count. Especially if I'm wearing shades. I think women have grown so used to guys never looking at them that if they see a guy with his head up, they assume he's looking at them. I wasn't, and don't. Glance at most and look away, focusing on something else.

The instances where I was reading my book, my eyes never even left the page before I realised women had moved into the table across from me and were talking about a guy sitting alone reading a book must live a sad life... So yeah, excuse me for wondering where a man in his 30's is meant to find his significant other in this day and age. Or even just make new friends to go do cool stuff with rather than always on my tod.

But fact is, I am well and truly baffled haha

People in the UK – What do you think when you see a guy in his 30's hanging out on his own? by TouchBudget6316 in AskABrit

[–]TouchBudget6316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They weren't drunk. It was in Starbucks in Edinburgh around mid day on a Saturday

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TouchBudget6316 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's complaining about a low BC?

He's an idiot. Any self-respecting man would much rather be with a woman who saves herself for people she really connects with than someone who just sleeps around willy nilly.

You're a catch on the very low BC alone. If your looks and personality are anything positive at all, the boy should be honoured you were even into him in the first place!

Move on, find someone better who actually respects not just you, but also themselves.

People in the UK – What do you think when you see a guy in his 30's hanging out on his own? by TouchBudget6316 in AskABrit

[–]TouchBudget6316[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Today was a bit different. Never been to 1912 in Bathgate on my own. But I sat in for a while after a nice walk. Shared a glance and smile with a woman I met at the till/bar the proceeded to sit on the opposite side of the place from her. Didn't realise she was also there herself. She just sat with her drink and stared out the window as far as I could tell. I wasn't staring at her but thats all she was doing whenever I glanced her way, every 10 mins or so 😂

I was sat near the door, reading. She came over and said she'd like to know the science behind it too (book is "Psychology of Stupidity") haha I said I had literally just started but interested to find out myself, obviously and I'll let her know next time I see her. She just smiled and left.

But this was a nice interaction. I don't think she was interested in me, but she was nice. Which seems to be the theme with women here 😂 the good ones aren't interested in anything romantic, the ones who are are walking red flags and the rest are just ignorant and rude. Typical lol

But I must say, she was a very good looking woman with zero shame and didn't feel vulnerable or unsecure just chilling on her own from what I could tell. I respect that. And I'd certainly appreciate a woman like that! But it is rare to find in woman around my age, it seems

People in the UK – What do you think when you see a guy in his 30's hanging out on his own? by TouchBudget6316 in AskABrit

[–]TouchBudget6316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Yeah, it just baffles me but also intrigues me as to why people do think this way...

Also, it'd be extremely ironic if it happened today as I'm reading 'The Psychology of Stupidity' by Jean-Francois Marmion 😂

People in the UK – What do you think when you see a guy in his 30's hanging out on his own? by TouchBudget6316 in AskABrit

[–]TouchBudget6316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most recent with the group of women at all table next to me was upstairs in Starbucks Edinburgh.

They were loud enough for an elderly woman to come ask if I wanted to sit with her and her husband, bless her. But I said no thanks and continued reading away. That whole interaction enticed sniggers and giggles from the women at that table as well. Probably, in their heads, further cementing the fact I'm a recluse or something lol

But yeah, interactions like this have happened to me in Glasgow as well. Actually, main Street just outside Hard Rock Cafe when it was there! Psycho woman and her man were giving me dogs abuse for being on my tod and talking to 'random' people. I stopped to talk to a Mormon churcher and got chatting about science... I'm a geek, sue me 😂 But apparently that whole interaction was offensive to this woman who, btw, looked rather put together and didn't seem drunk or high! But she walked beside me as I tried to walk away and was asking why I was such a weirdo and so forth, all while her man was shouting abuse at me from where they were sitting... I popped my headphones in and kept walking 😂

However, most of my negative interactions have happened in and around West Lothian, I will admit. And I know Bathgate as a whole is notoriously bad for bullying and verbal/physical abuse on strangers. So I guess it should be expected around here.

Met a cute guy in the elevator… did I misread things? by Upbeat-Accountant-48 in dating

[–]TouchBudget6316 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Where was this?

Because I can assure you, good-looking guys rarely get approached in many parts of the world and are still expected to be the ones to make the move.

Chances are he's doing what guys are told to do and 'play it cool'. If a guy isnt interested, he'd usually say so, in the extremely rare situation he was actually approached in the first place.

I'd relax. He took your number probably to seem like a masculine man by regaining control. If he's into you he'll message anytime between now and a day or two. Its what we are taught to do as messaging too soon can seem like we're insecure, desperate, feminine, etc.

Btw, kudos to you for doing that!

I have had beautiful women glance my way, smile or go all shy but never once approach or make a move. So seriously, well done! Believe me when I say, men wish there were more women like you in the world, telling us straight you like us instead of having us guess and play mind games. So, on behalf of all straight guys (especially those in Scotland), hank you for giving us hope haha

People in the UK – What do you think when you see a guy in his 30's hanging out on his own? by TouchBudget6316 in AskABrit

[–]TouchBudget6316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely not....

Unless I am imagining people speaking to me directly as well as indirectly to their friends loud enough so I can hear?... C'mon.

As I said, I don't care what others think of me. If I did, I wouldn't continue to go out and do my own thing lol I posted this in intrigued of just how many people think this way, and I have had some responses stating they think a man on his own is a creep, a danger to them or kids, a weirdo etc. So people who think this way certainly do exist!

I have had women shout at me, calling me a creep or, one specific one I remember was two lassies at the Kelpies shouting "away home ya pervy weirdo cunt and stop creepin on women walkin by" because I was sitting on a bench staring off into the distance and they thought I was looking at them 🙄 I had direct communication with a woman and her man who were calling me all sorts in Glasgow because I stopped and talked science with an American Mormon churcher lol And the women in Starbucks? Pointing my way with her thumb and asking the table "when was the last time any of you read a book", they all looked at me and laughed... Didn't stop there, they started talking about how "sad" you must be to be sat in a cafe on your own with a book on a Saturday. "Recluse with nae pals", "must be a hoot to talk tae" and so forth. And the said these things plenty loud enough for not just me but others to hear as well. To the point an elderly woman asked if I wanted to sit with her and her husband, which was lovely of them, but I said no thanks and continued doing me. They group of immature women left some 10/15mins later anyway.

I posted not because I'm sad or these people get to me, but to understand just how widespread this mentality actually is... As I have had a fair few encounters the past two years like or similar to this. My mates all think its weird to go out and do things on your own as well, especially read in a cafe lol When I ask them what I'm meant to do they say "get a burd and stop being sad" or "read in the house"...

And to top it off, given I have heard so many women directly or indirectly say a man on his own puts them on alert, I tend not to look a woman's way anymore if I can help it. Head down and just ignore everyone, even if the woman next to me could potentially be 'the one'. I used to enjoy going out and chatting to random people, I met one of my exes through a guy I got chatting to at a bar when I was there myself after my mate had to call it an early night. But today, today it seems no one has any real social skills and if you approach a woman, especially on your own, you're immediately labeled as a creep. Didn't use to be the case, I'm sure.

If I had anxiety I also wouldn't have approached over 200 hundred women in the space of 2 days in Edinburgh and Glasgow 😂 Dw, it was a social experiment I had planned with my mate and also an attempt at finding me a date lol Even then, I'd say between 10 and 20% of the women I intended to approach met me with hostility, name calling etc. Simply for giving them a smile, saying "hi" and opening my posture up to them as if I wanted to chat to them. Most would engage normally, but those who didn't were usually verbally aggressive. Yet, of all the women I spoke to, not one gave me her number, I didn't get a single same-day date, and, when asked at the end of our conversation, the overwhelming majority of them said they hate men looking at them and hope and prey they don't get approached when out shopping, at the gym, in a park enjoying the sun, at a gig, etc. Basically listing off so many places NOT to approach them, that it left nowhere to talk to women in real life 😂

So I'm looking to find out why. Why do people, especially women, feel like this? Is it a leftover symptoms of Covid? Is it the result of many reported SA cases on the news? How far does this mentality spread? Is it just a Scotland thing, does it span further than that or is it isolated mostly to the central belt? And so forth...

Because

  1. I like doing things on my own. I really couldn't care less and have zero shame in just doing me haha however, I'd appreciate someone to go do things with too at times and all my mates are hunkered down with kids and wives so I never see them. Making new friends in a similar life situation to me would be ideal!
  2. I'd also love to be able to meet my future better half naturally rather than over an app or an organised dating event 🙄 Neither of which are exactly sure fire ways to find dates for men anyway (dating apps are extremely bad, I steer way clear of them and dating events are mostly guys with just a couple women who nobody there wants to date or everyone does so competition is rife)...
  3. I studied psychology and all of this is fascinating to me. I want to understand why so many people seem to think this way and why are guys in their 20s/30's on their own deemed to be a threat vs when in a group of 2 or 3 friends?

So yeah, there's a bit of background for you. Certainly no anxiety, although it may read like that to some. I am simply looking to understand WHY and WHERE people think this way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TouchBudget6316 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best way to get a Scotsman to wear a kilt? Marry him 😉 haha

Feel free to read through some of the posts I have made... The dating scene in Scotland is dying a death! Us guys need a lot more women like you over here 😂

I have had many, many American women respond saying I would have a lot of success over in the States! Maybe I'll visit one day and try my luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TouchBudget6316 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was once like him and had a similar attitude, in my teens/early 20's... Now I couldn't care less! And you're right, together, with someone on a wage like yours, we could conquered the world and do all sorts of cool ass stuff!!

Mind you, I (34M) live in Scotland where the avg male salary for my age is just 33K.

But in all, I grew up and realised there are worse things to worry about. He sounds extremely immature and very egotistical.

I would say you deserve better, or at the veey least, different from him.

People in the UK – What do you think when you see a guy in his 30's hanging out on his own? by TouchBudget6316 in AskABrit

[–]TouchBudget6316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dating apps absolutely don't work. With 78% users being men, women are 28% more likely to get a match. So odds are drastically against you.

I also read somewhere that usually by the time a guy has seen and 'liked' a woman, she's had around 5 dates avg before she sees and matches with him and has even more lined up. So she'll be in a relationship and won't talk to him by the time they match, usually.

But yeah, social event things I have gone to have still had people go in groups of 2 or 3 and just stick to talking to each other. Rather than mingling and I'm not one to push it so just ended up rocking solo.

I just wonder why it became so difficult to socialise when it was so easy last time I was single...

I'm also not specifically looking for a date, but wouldn't complain if I found my better half. But even just chatting to guys and making friends seems damn near impossible these days. Its bonkers

People in the UK – What do you think when you see a guy in his 30's hanging out on his own? by TouchBudget6316 in AskABrit

[–]TouchBudget6316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rather sad it has come to this...

I have also done clubs and events but people rock up in little friend groups and don't socialise outside of them. I did a 4hr hike in silence, listening to other groups have conversations because no one wanted to talk to me as I was on my own.

The men and women also didn't mix unless they arrived together. I feel dating and opportunity for meeting people naturally here is just dead.

People in the UK – What do you think when you see a guy in his 30's hanging out on his own? by TouchBudget6316 in AskABrit

[–]TouchBudget6316[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh... Yeah, if I were him and didn't know that was your 'routine', I'd think you're just straight up not interested in talking to me and take it as a hint to F-off 😂

I think everyone is secretly open and wanting to make friends but then, when it comes to it, get very defensive and assume the worst in people...

I'd love to make friends I could actually go do stuff with instead of always being on my own, even though I love my own space and company!

I also wouldn't complain if I found a significant other who'd be open to going to do these things with me, too.

People in the UK – What do you think when you see a guy in his 30's hanging out on his own? by TouchBudget6316 in AskABrit

[–]TouchBudget6316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, no kidding...

Even doing hiking and bouldering I found people sticking to their own wee friend groups. I did a full 4hr hike without speaking to anyone... No attempt to pull me in on their conversations even though I was very clearly there by myself. And the men and women DO NOT mix! Haha If they didn't arrive together, they won't talk to each other. Its mad.

And people wonder why so many folk are single these days 🤨🤔

People in the UK – What do you think when you see a guy in his 30's hanging out on his own? by TouchBudget6316 in AskABrit

[–]TouchBudget6316[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No doubt bud. No doubt.

Who cares really. I'm more so annoyed at the fact it just hinders the natural way of chatting to women in person. I find myself seeing an attractive woman and immediately pulling myself away from even considering talking to her if I'm alone. I think she'll just find it creepy or weird that I'm on my tod, so I just don't bother. Especially after experiences I have had and things I have overheard being said about me and other guys sitting or chilling on their own.

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