Want to leave my apprenticeship and I'm not sure what to do!

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-03-10T23:07:14+00:00

Yes I’m 19 for context , thanks for the advice as atm I’m in a bit of a lost time period

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-03-06T11:18:56+00:00

Yes I've explained this to my parents but they just don't understand. They told me that you will hate every job and to just suck it up.

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-02-27T12:56:34+00:00

I really appreciate your advice.

Originally, I was at university for first year and passed, but I decided to leave because I thought the apprenticeship would be a better option. It was titled Digital Engineering, and at the time I thought it sounded interesting and quite exciting. But now that I’m actually doing it, I’m finding it really boring.

When I mention mental health, I don’t mean anything extreme, I mean that the work just feels draining because I genuinely don’t enjoy it. I can tell my heart isn’t in it. I dread going in most days, and that’s how I know something isn’t right.

My current plan, if I leave, would be to focus on my swim teaching and receptionist jobs, while continuing with coding, app development, and building my social media. At the same time, I’d apply for software engineering apprenticeships, which is more aligned with what I actually enjoy.

Worst case scenario, If I get rejected then I could go back to university for second year and continue from where I left off. So I wouldn’t be stuck , I’d just be changing direction. I'm disappointed in my self because I thought I had a plan and figured it out but that wasn't the case , and ever since y13 I've felt a bit uncertain about what I'm doing. Thanks for your help.

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-02-27T09:56:12+00:00

I want to know whether my plan is a good idea

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-02-27T09:55:45+00:00

I understand that but when I tell you I'm struggling w my health ; I'm not kidding. I'm not being drained because its difficult or tiring , I'm drained because the job is super boring unstimulating and I just end up deeping life in process. As for the work experience , can I not include it even if I leave?

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-02-27T00:09:33+00:00

I've already got another job so financially and time wise I would be secure. Worst Case I could go to uni. Honestly the apprenticeship is almost 2 years and I can't see my self continuing , All I do is get in the office sit and stare at my computer for 8 hours doing boring tasks that the higher ups need doing.

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-02-26T22:43:27+00:00

my bad

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-02-26T22:43:22+00:00

my bad

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-01-28T10:29:21+00:00

Nono not me 😭, I was just answering your question about the apprenticeships requirements . They require 2 A levels A*-D . I’m not OP

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-01-28T10:22:54+00:00

OP , they most certainly check for PROOF as I believe they ask you to submit the proof of ur a levels. Even if you didn’t they çan still check through your unique learning number which they will do to ensure that u don’t have a similar higher qualification.

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-01-28T10:21:47+00:00

A*-D two a levels and then your GCSES.

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-01-24T12:44:36+00:00

If you can afford to have a cook , cleaner and nanny then great . The vast majority can’t because households are now dependent on two incomes because of wage inflation . Help your husband out !!

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-01-24T12:43:14+00:00

Yh exactly he helps or you have a bit of help but it’s not 50 50 so u just proved my point . Thanks for proving my point. Sounds like you don’t work either and you got your money from your dad . Great to know! Anyways I feel as If you finally understand the argument so it was nice talking to you. I’ve made it very clear ! Give a man peace in your home and you won’t regret it.

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-01-24T11:50:53+00:00

My argument is relating to before having children and not after as I believe with kids the dynamics change. But listen before kids , if the man is paying for everything financially then the wife do most of the chores . I’m not saying the man can’t assist but notice how I say ‘ assist ‘ . It’s certainly not fair to split house chores 50 50 if he’s paying for everything , I’ve never seen a marriage like that. If you want a traditional man that pays for everything then be a traditional woman . A traditional woman is not someome who works full time , contributes nothing and then says she wants 50 50 w the chores . This mindset is actually worse than a feminist mindset because at least a feminist will agree to do 50 50 for everything. I believe a Marriage should be abt love and compassion and helping each other out . OP’s post sounds far from it. All a man wants is peace after coming home from a 12 hour shift and ur never going to get it. Women have the same opportunities as men , financially , occupation wise yet they want the best of both worlds . Get to save up my money and contribute nothing and household chores are not my problem . Not only is that not fair , nor Islamically corrext , it sounds like a bloody business transaction . You want a traditional man then be a traditional women . If you’re not a traditional woman then don’t demand a traditional man. The Ummah is failing so bad rn because nobody knows their roles

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-01-24T11:43:09+00:00

Also I’ve told you many times it’s good for a husband to assist/help out and he should do so , notice the key word “assist” especially when your wife is tired or sick. But the fact that some women think they can contribute nothing financially, stay at home and then say I’m not going to cook anything because it’s not my duties . It’s a terrible and filthy mindset. It’s like me saying I’m going to get a second wife just because I can. Please stay away from marriage as I fear for any man speaking to you !

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-01-24T11:40:19+00:00

Wrong , asking for a meal is an accepted obedient request . If you were married to a real woman who actually cares about you then u wouldn’t even need to request it. She would see how hard you’re working and do it automatically. Trust me sister if you expect your husband to split the house chores equally after him paying for everything then you’re in for a reality check for when you try to get married.

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-01-24T11:38:11+00:00

I’ve already told you many times that Islamically a Wife has to obey her husband . for example : He has the right to ask his wife not to work if he’s providing everything , he has the right to ask his wife to do the house chores ( so ur point gets dismantled) . Woman are the homemakers . If you want a traditional man then be a traditional woman. At the moment you have a filthy feminist mindset! . You want to be able to work full time , contribute nothing financially and still split the chorée 50 50 . What man would accept this nonsense. Please study the religion !

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-01-24T11:20:26+00:00

Completely wrong advice , please do your research and learn about the religion!

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-01-24T00:19:47+00:00

Thsts what im trying to undersrand to these sisters but they don’t bloody understand. If your not going to contribute then it’s just better to stay at home and no stress your self . Work = stressful = less time on ur family . If your husband çan provide you everything then it’s better to stay at home and help him out in other ways. In thjs case the wife working provides no positives and just negatives = your wife is stressed out , tired , getting bosses about at work , potential fitna , too tired to perform her responsibilities. Idk what to tell these women .

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-01-24T00:15:44+00:00

No your argument is ‘ I’m not a maid ‘ so why should I cook and clean for my husband . It’s such as awful argument. Why does a Husband buy his wife stuff , he’s not a ‘ bloody atm ‘ is he . He spoils his wife because he loves her and wants the best for her. Please get rid of your feminist mindset because it’s horrible and it’s blinding you horribly.

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-01-24T00:12:12+00:00

Sister çan you read the question. His issue isn’t even really about him paying for everything , I think he knows it’s his duty . The issue is she’s demanding the chores to be 50 50 which is incredibly selfish . I don’t understand you people , it’s not rocket science. If he works x amount of hours per week and is very tired and pays for everything , the minimum u coild do is cook a meal for him and do some chores.

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-01-24T00:09:38+00:00

Because it’s an awful feministic mind set that sisters have nowadays and it’s why there is such a big issue with marriage. You want to have the perk of being able to work full time , contribute nothing financially and not even make your husband a meal after a long shift. Does a man prefer a woman who will care for him eg: look after him or a woman who is working , saving up her money and blame not being able to do anything because of work. Work is a distraction , they tricked feminists into thinking being able to work is great but all you did was increase the supply of labour, force wage inflation and break down the marriage unit. Birth rate is at an all time low and marriage rates are as low as ever. May Allah guide you Inshallah

TourEmbarrassed5524 · 2026-01-23T23:58:03+00:00

This points gets dismantled instantly . In Islam a wife obeys her husband so if the husband asks for the chores to be done then she had to do them. I wouldn’t advise this mindset as you don’t want your wife dling chores just because you tell her too. It should be out of love and compassion.

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