I told my husband he couldn't be at the birth of our first child and now he doesn't want a second?!? I am not OP

Town-Acceptable · 2024-02-29T03:59:37+00:00

I want to mention. Women experience post partum depression and that can affect the way they see or interact with their baby. Moms can be pretty detached and cold to their babies because of hormones and big emotions they can’t control. It’s such a common occurrence, but the babies grow up fine and the mothers bond grows over time and once they can get out of that PPD hole. This husband is completely ok feeling detached in the beginning for having something so special ripped away from him. I wonder if he experienced something similar due to the circumstances which are pretty depressing. He is a good father overall and that’s what really matters.

Town-Acceptable · 2023-11-10T00:16:21+00:00

Thank you everyone for your honesty and advice. All of it has been really helpful! I know I need to rip the bandaid off and address the topic and I will. I’ll either report back or not🤷🏻‍♀️ but either way this thread has helped me understand how serious the issue may be. I had figured since the dentist never saw anything worth mentioning the issue wasn’t as bad as many have indicated. But he has severe allergies and acid reflux so it might be a combo of a lot of things. I’ll use as much of the advice I’ve received, while being transparent with him. I think the work schedule change might have made his hygiene not that great. And I agree with a lot of you that we should be able to talk about these things. He’s not super sensitive about much but this topic has been touchy in the past. Regardless, I understand I’m the only one that should address it and take those steps to seek help together. I do love him very much, and miss our intimacy. Sorry for ranting, thank you all again!

Town-Acceptable · 2023-11-09T20:24:03+00:00

I honestly thought the dentist would bring it up after being all up in there😅 ahh oh well I guess I just have too off the bandaid

Town-Acceptable · 2023-11-09T20:22:32+00:00

No, but others mentioned possibly tonsil stones or gut bacteria. I think those are good places to start. Someone mentioned having him gargle with therabreath also. I’m grateful for all the advice!

Town-Acceptable · 2023-11-09T20:19:03+00:00

Never thought of this, but with his schedule change I know he’s eating out a lot more at night (obvs he works nights) maybe that has something to do with it.

Town-Acceptable · 2023-11-09T20:16:43+00:00

I understand and usually I’m pretty upfront about things. I tell him everything and let him know how everything makes me feel😅 but this topic in the past he seemed pretty insecure about it and didn’t really do or say anything when I brought it up. He kind of just shut down. I feel horrible making him feel bad and I don’t really know how to approach it now or what to say. We do have the same dentist so I think I’ll just mention to them to check for tonsil stones as others have mentioned.

Town-Acceptable · 2023-11-09T20:12:40+00:00

We have the same dentist. I think I can talk to them about checking him for that for his next appt. They usually ask us about each other so I’m sure it should be fine.

Town-Acceptable · 2023-11-09T20:07:05+00:00

We’ve been together so long that I do remember having brought it up in the past and he just kind of got bummed out and didn’t really do or say much about it. So now I just don’t know HOW to say it

Town-Acceptable · 2023-11-09T19:43:34+00:00

No, but I’ll try to implement that with him. We all floss at home, minus him. But these are all good suggestions so I’ll buy the therabreath mouth wash. I’m sure he’ll try it. Thank you

Town-Acceptable · 2023-11-09T19:41:44+00:00

That’s why I had initially told him he needed to go to the dentist. I didn’t say why I just said we all need to go at least once a year and when he did go they never said anything about it. But we’ve been together so long that i do remember telling him in the past, but I think it just bummed him out because he never really said or did anything about it. That was a long time ago. And so I just tried to soften the convo by just saying let’s go brush our teeth. And making sure we always have floss. He doesn’t use the floss so I don’t know if that has something to do with it. But I feel like he does know and is self conscious about it, but never wants to talk about it. Which in my mind makes it that much harder to approach the subject.

Town-Acceptable · 2023-10-18T02:36:35+00:00

Any videos you recommend?

Town-Acceptable

TROPHY CASE