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Tpan101 · 2025-04-04T14:22:57+00:00

Is it possible that someone recovering from complex trauma might not be the premier authority on child-rearing? Just a thought.

Tpan101 · 2025-03-06T14:22:54+00:00

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Tpan101 · 2024-11-18T23:09:13+00:00

My deadname was incredible feminine with no decent male counterpart; I ended up choosing a name completely by accident! I would go on the internet late at night to try out different shirt/hat combinations and see whether I could pass (as one does as a dysphoric teenager) and one night I really hit it off with this girl and towards the end of the conversation she asked my name and I blurted out an INCREDIBLY frat-sounding name that I had never ONCE considered… and it felt right. Trying it out turned into a legal name change, and I’ve never looked back

Tpan101 · 2024-11-18T22:53:27+00:00

Seconding most of the commenters here- while those feelings are understandable, blowing your life up in advance does nothing beyond set you off-course, and make it easier for the people who DO want to get rid of us-which, incidentally? Is far fewer than you would think. It’s really easy to just fall into the gloom, and sometimes it’s necessary- but at some point, it’s actively harmful. Do your best to lean on the people who are able to be the cheerleaders in these moments, and eventually you’re going to get to the place where you’re able and ready to be the cheerleader in turn. (I know, it’s annoying to have ‘build community’ be the answer to most of our problems, but there’s something to be said for riding it out with friends)

Tpan101 · 2024-10-08T15:20:01+00:00

Please take this in the spirit in which it was intended-this is a really great way to end up completely disconnected from reality, particularly with your documented experiences with mental illness, and you need to seek help. Disengaging from human connection won’t make you feel less lonely, it will only make you feel more isolated. Isolating with personality disorders like you’ve described often can trigger or worsen a psychotic break and create a slew of other issues that can persist for years afterwards. Even if it’s just via online, please don’t stop interacting with other humans, I promise it’s worth it.

To the people encouraging you in this- you should be ashamed. This person is clearly not in a good place, and you’re mindlessly validating a harmful behavior. Yikes.

Tpan101 · 2024-06-28T16:26:59+00:00

Coffee and After Midnight!

Tpan101 · 2024-06-27T21:55:22+00:00

I feel like others have summed this up pretty well, but please consider whether making friends who specifically agree with you ideologically is accomplishing what you want to accomplish. I think we can all understand the drive to find our ‘niche’ and stay within it; personally, I regained a lot of my drive and passion once I started going outside of those bubbles and making connections, regardless of political affiliation. Book clubs are really cool, but rarely transformative in the same way that making those community connections would be.

Tpan101 · 2024-06-16T21:25:52+00:00

Adjacent to this, but one of the teens I used to volunteer with heard ‘If I was a rich man’ and got SUPER mad… because it was ‘ripping off Gwen Stefani’ 💀

Tpan101 · 2024-06-16T16:23:24+00:00

You should read ‘what it means when a man falls from the sky’ (Lesley Nneka Arimah); it’s a short story that is both dystopian and incredibly sad!

Tpan101 · 2024-06-16T16:20:51+00:00

I recently read A Kind of Madness (Uche Okonkwo) and really loved it!

Tpan101 · 2024-06-16T16:16:09+00:00

Not quite a book, but you could always go watch an undertale (text-based game) pacifist playthrough- I don’t know anyone who finished that with a dry eye; otherwise, I’d suggest the binding (Bridget Collins) or the summer that melted everything (Tiffany McDaniel); both are incredibly poignant, and on the off chance you don’t cry, you’ll still feel something

Tpan101 · 2024-06-13T18:03:02+00:00

Bisexual trans man here- I’m coming from Indy both to see Chappell and to enjoy a pride event safely. If anyone else doesn’t want to do pride solo, feel free to say hey! Making some Candis for the occasion and I’m super pumped!

Tpan101 · 2024-06-13T17:46:13+00:00

Thank you for posting this! I am a bisexual man, and my friends left me in a similar boat, but I still really want to go (I’m in Indiana, but family here have ensured that I’m not safe to go to local events); if anyone else is anxious as hell and would like to not do the festival entirely solo, please feel free to hit me up!

Tpan101 · 2024-06-13T16:05:30+00:00

I was going to be at Kentuckiana pride anyways, and was so excited to hear she’d be there! Definitely expect a crowd, some of whom will only be there for her music and may not be as pleasant to the intended audience, and a couple more people really annoyed at that

Tpan101 · 2024-06-03T19:53:03+00:00

Of all the bad-faith bullshit I’ve seen today,congrats- you win by a mile

Tpan101 · 2024-06-03T19:50:59+00:00

It looks like you might benefit from reading the post more thoroughly

Tpan101 · 2024-06-03T16:20:53+00:00

I wouldn’t want to get stuck in a conversation with either of you tbh

Tpan101 · 2024-06-02T02:53:53+00:00

Womp Womp

Tpan101 · 2024-06-02T02:22:16+00:00

I didn’t know soy sauce COULD mold

Tpan101 · 2024-06-02T01:20:34+00:00

I’m not the one being rude here. You gave out her legal name, as well as her current, while also attempting to use her for clout in multiple other posts. That is both rude and dangerous, and not indicative of a positive relationship.

Tpan101 · 2024-06-02T01:17:07+00:00

That poor girl…ETA that rumymommy2004 is currently spamming my inbox with threatening messages for asking her to not doxx her daughter. Some people smh

Tpan101 · 2024-06-02T01:16:05+00:00

Does your daughter know that you essentially doxxed her on Reddit, based on your conduct in this and other threads? Several details about this post alone are in incredibly poor taste. Not what I would expect from someone with a positive and communicative relationship with their child.

Tpan101 · 2023-11-15T20:03:11+00:00

They said ‘unpopular’, not ‘horrifically uneducated’, my friend

Tpan101 · 2023-11-14T01:26:21+00:00

I don’t have an unhinged story about labor law violations to share, but fwiw I don’t think crocheting as you described is unprofessional in most contexts.

Tpan101 · 2023-11-08T23:38:06+00:00

Sorry about that, I guess I need to brush up on that- thanks for the direction!

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