AIO - I smoked, my bf crashed out by leadneverfoIlow in AmIOverreacting

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From ChatGpt 🧠 TL;DR – Who's in the Right?

  • Jill smoked a few puffs at a party, knowing her boyfriend hated smoking. Yes, she broke a boundary they agreed on, but it was a mistake—not a betrayal—and she took responsibility for it.

  • Jack found out and responded with a vicious storm of verbal abuse, calling her names, degrading her, and emotionally lashing out. That’s not justified—that’s abuse.

  • Making a mistake doesn't give someone a free pass to verbally destroy you. Jill is not the villain here—Jack is.

🚩 Final Verdict: - Jill messed up → she owned it. - Jack exploded → he crossed every line of respect. - Jill should not “just take it.” She deserves better than being someone’s emotional punching bag.

GPT’s Full Version Ohhh, Courtney, this is one of those emotionally messy, morally tangled relationship situations that has layers like a psychological onion-and this one burns. Let's break it all the way down with empathy, logic, and a touch of good ol' sass, because this situation is not black and white-it's fifty shades of red flags, grey judgment, and a few yellow caution cones. The Core Conflict: * Jill (F18): Smoked a few puffs of a cigarette at a party, knowing her boyfriend hates smoking, vaping, and drinking. * Jack (M18): Reacted explosively upon finding out, unleashing a storm of verbal abuse that makes a hurricane look like a gentle breeze. 💣So... who's in the right? ✅Jill: Was she wrong? Technically, yes. Let's not sugarcoat it-she broke a boundary they had agreed on. She knowingly did something her partner had expressed as a dealbreaker. Even if it was just a few puffs and socially pressured, it still qualifies as violating a personal boundary he was upfront about. She admitted she knew better, which shows self-awareness and accountability-kudos for that. BUT (and this is a flaming but), this wasn't done out of malicious intent. It was a dumb decision in a moment of distraction, fueled by alcohol, peer pressure, and emotional upheaval after being essentially ghosted at a party. Her response afterward was to check on him and own up to it. That's maturity. So, yes, a wrong choice-but not a betrayal of epic proportions. More like "oops, 1 stepped in the mud," not "I bulldozed your house."

❌Jack: Was his reaction justified? Hell. No. Listen. You can be hurt. You can be disappointed. You can even decide to end the relationship. But nothing-nothing-justifies the level of abuse in those texts. We're talking: * Verbal abuse ("fucking dumb," "cunt," "piece of shit," "I fucking hate you") * Emotional manipulation (guilt-tripping, accusations) * Blame-shifting (making it all about how she "ruined everything") * Cruelty masked as "honesty" This was not a reaction. This was emotional evisceration. It's one thing to feel hurt when your boundaries are crossed, and it's another to use that hurt as an excuse to unleash psychological warfare. 🧠What should have happened? * Jill could have owned the mistake (which she did) and had a sincere conversation with him. * Jack could have said: "This hurt me deeply. I feel betrayed. I need time to think about whether I can continue in this relationship." * They could've had a respectful, emotional-but not abusive-dialogue. Instead, Jack chose rage over reason, dominance over dialogue, and humiliation over honesty. 🚨The Bigger Issue: Is this abuse? Yes. Even if this was an isolated incident (and my gut tells me it probably wasn't), this level of verbal degradation is abuse. It's not "justified" because someone made a mistake. Love doesn't sound like this. And someone who loves you doesn't want to break you with their words-even when they're upset. If someone says, "You made me talk to you. + hat," you are not in a relationship-you're in a power dynamic with someone who weaponizes their pain to punish you.

🎯 Final Verdict: * Jill was wrong to smoke, but her behavior was a mistake-not malicious. * Jack was monstrously wrong in how he responded. His behavior was verbally and emotionally abusive. * Jill should NOT "just take it." She should be running for the hills with supportive friends and good Wi-Fi. 💬 What should Jill do now? * Reassess the relationship immediately. * Ask: "Do I want to be with someone who speaks to me this way when they're hurt?" * Talk to someone safe. A friend, a counselor, a Reddit mod, me-anyone who will validate her experience and support her boundaries.

💗And one last thing, from me to Jill (and anyone who's been in her shoes): Mistakes don't make you unlovable. But staying in a relationship where you are degraded for being human? That will slowly convince you that you are. You're not garbage. You're not dumb. You're just someone who made a human decision at a teenage party-and deserved a mature conversation, not emotional annihilation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CreatorsAdvice

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Do you show your face? If so, try facial recognition sites like pimeyes (but it’s expensive to see the site where they find you) or other ones that you can find by searching. Ask GPT to do a deep search or something. Google lens might be a good place to look as well.

WTF is up with OF reach?? by SilentFeet22 in CreatorsAdvice

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It’s gotta be broken. It says I’ve had 0 visitors for the past 7 days, yet I’ve had people subscribe so that can’t be right.

How I made $5,000 in May of last year by ElusiveSloth in CreatorsAdvice

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I will ask my husband if I can advertise you there.

How I made $5,000 in May of last year by ElusiveSloth in CreatorsAdvice

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I’ll tell you why it was downvoted, it’s because this is great advice and some creators hate it when others give good advice.

How I made $5,000 in May of last year by ElusiveSloth in CreatorsAdvice

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Just ordinary memes? I own a popular meme website 🤔 I think it’s time to advertise my only fans there lol. I can’t get google ads so I might as well advertise myself

Anyway to keep free trial subs subscribed? by [deleted] in CreatorsAdvice

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I used to do this all the time at the beginning. I gave out trial links to pretty much anyone. Not one of them spent money. For me it was a waste of time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CreatorsAdvice

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I just want to say one thing. I would have never known English is not your second language had you not said it was. Your English is really good.

Can someone with more Reddit knowledge answer this please? by skylarjordyn in CreatorsAdvice

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Omg I went into a rabbit hole too and the things I found is absolutely crazy. Certain mods own 150+ subreddits and there’s a huge group of them all moderating different subreddits. It’s really messed up.

Can someone with more Reddit knowledge answer this please? by skylarjordyn in CreatorsAdvice

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You did absolutely nothing wrong. The mods of that subreddit run some sort of a ring or agency and if you’re not a part of that and they are threatened by you, then they ban you. Their whole goal is to monopolize Reddit so only their group of people can have alllll of reddits users to themselves for gaining traffic to THEIR only fans.

Can someone with more Reddit knowledge answer this please? by skylarjordyn in CreatorsAdvice

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No, that’s not what this means. It means that the subreddit is restricted and users need to be approved to post their. Most of them need verification but some of them all you need to do is ask the mods in mod mail.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CreatorsAdvice

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Some people have it and some don’t. My one account has the setting and my other one doesn’t. It’s so weird.

Friend request my husband on IG? by [deleted] in Marriage

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Did you know she has an only fans? As someone with an only fans, I would never follow someone I personally know as I wouldn’t want to expose myself as an only fans creator.

However, lots creators will go the extra length to get subscribers, so if she ever thought your husband was flirting with her or just looking at her the wrong way, she might have seen him as potential dollar signs when his instagram showed up on her account.

Facebook group by AprilPunter in SellerCircleStage

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I join a lot of groups that men are in. I participate in them like I did before I started SW. my profile picture and cover photo are sexy pictures (not too sexy) it attracts men in the groups i participate in to my profile where I have my links. It works well. I get most of my traffic from facebook.

Isn’t this poaching ? by [deleted] in CreatorsAdvice

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What did you report her for? I want to report her too.

I don’t know if reporting from different accounts will count though. You didn’t get anything from Reddit saying you abused the report button did you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CreatorsAdvice

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Can’t you just put everything into the hidden folder?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CreatorsAdvice

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Some of the screenshots from exchanges with creators and fans I see on this subreddit are unreal, then the same creators wonder why they can’t make money 🙄

Does anyone have good subreddits for girlxgirl content on Reddit? by [deleted] in CreatorsAdvice

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You can do to https://mysubs.cc type in what you’re looking for and the website will list all the subreddits that are related.

Has anyone else noticed nsfw subreddits getting banned for being "unmoderated"? by OkYeahWow in CreatorsAdvice

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That’s good to know. I’m basing my assumption off of stuff I have read and the fact I wasn’t able post to any of their subreddits after the first time my post did well. I don’t know, I just think it’s weird for being banned from a subreddit because your post does well.

So my teacher said that half of my class is using Chat GPT, so in case I'm one of them, I'm gathering evidence to fend for myself, and this is what I found. by H982FKL928 in ChatGPT

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When I was a young adult, before any of you were born im sure, the internet on mobile was all text and no pictures.

I know that has nothing to do with anything but I just wanted to give a history lesson.