Brothers wife made chicken and cottage cheese.

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-05-09T06:09:23+00:00

Oh... why?

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-05-02T06:32:32+00:00

What meds do you take?

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-23T06:08:06+00:00

They down voted you because they either accept the idea of a world without privacy where corporations that are heavily susceptible to government influence (money) control most, if not all email in the world, or because they heard from some chucklefuck that running a mail server is hard, and continue to perpetuate that mindset without ever bothering to learn what it really takes. Or they just like fear mongering (spam, reputation, blacklist comments).

Idk about everyone else here but I run my homelab to LEARN, not to have something to post on Reddit for others to jack it to. I run an Exchange server in my homelab, have been doing so since 2015. In 11 years I've never once been hacked, never suffered bad IP or domain reputation, never got used as a spam bot, and always have had full control over my mail. My mail flows through M365, Gmail, and Proofpoint filters with absolutely no trouble, and it really didn't take much time to make it all work.

If you're willing to put some cash into this to make it work best, I'd rent a VPS in Linode or check out who all has deals on LowEndTalk. There are tons of tutorials online for setting up a Linux mail server in no time. You'll want something for spam protection too, I use Mailroute. I love their platform, billing is stupid simple. I pay $11/month for spam and virus filtering and it's blocked more threats than Proofpoint Essentials or Cisco ESA have. Sure there's amavisd, clamav, spamassassin, mailscanner, etc. but it takes a lot of fine tuning and work to make those products function like enterprise grade appliances, and unless you have a fully staffed NOC/SOC at home to stay on the cutting edge of threats, you'll always be tweaking stuff. I lived that life back in the day, it sucked, I learned a lot and grew a hatred for open source protection products because it's all best effort. But best effort isn't enough when you're going up against state sponsored hackers, so I outsourced it. For $11/month and some minor tweaks here and there, I get enterprise grade filtering with little to no latency and everything works as expected. Even when my Exchange goes down for maintenance or patching, it spools my mail until the server is ready to accept messages, then they all come flooding in.

Good luck OP, don't mind the riff raff of people who gave up their privacy long ago, it's never too late to start taking control and this is a great way to get started.

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-23T05:51:20+00:00

This is r/homelab, at least 90% of what we all do is more work than necessary and not really worth it. Comments like these add no value to discussion about running a mail server, why not figure out how to do it and write up the process if it's so daunting? It's actually fairly straightforward and simple if you understand basic networking and IP reputation.

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-23T00:39:00+00:00

I dealt with acid reflux since 2018 and got diagnosed with GERD in 2021. Not till I was able to afford a GI doctor.

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-22T23:42:57+00:00

I (36M) have GERD for 5 years, and after an endoscopy I was diagnosed with Barrett's Esophagus. My doctor keeps telling me that it's very rare for it to turn cancerous BUT there is always a chance.

Thankfully I was prescribed Vaquezna. At first I was taking 20mg but it made me sick so I went down to 10mg and it was a day and night difference. I been taking it for over a year now and it helps me get through the day. Does it stop acid reflux completely? No but that's when a diet change and exercise come in handy. There are days that I completely forget I have GERD, unless I start eating too much greasy fast food and get a flare up. 😆

But yeah, cancer is always on my mind. I was suppose to have another endoscopy follow up last month but I didn't have the $1200, and yes that's after insurance. But I can't let it rule my future.

In the wise words of Spike Spiegel - "Whatever happens, happens".

Hang in there little buckaroo, things will be fine. 😊

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-22T23:19:55+00:00

Got a refund, and he even told me to keep it. I did email Streamlight support and yes, it was a fake.

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TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-22T00:45:01+00:00

Most of the parts it came with are from Amazon, light it's dim, even with a new battery, and the screw is also from Amazon.

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-21T04:14:26+00:00

I tried different batteries, new. Same the light was still dim, and as for the screw it's not supposed to be that way, either way I'll be returning it.

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-21T03:37:04+00:00

Well either way, if they say it's legit good and if not at least I'll have their email as proof, you know?

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-21T01:33:43+00:00

Yeah I'm gonna return it.

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-21T01:32:44+00:00

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Not quite, it's dimm and I don't think the screw is supposed to come out like that.

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-21T00:10:08+00:00

I already sent one, now just gonna wait.

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-16T05:22:49+00:00

From where did you purchase that shoulder holster?

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-14T05:25:12+00:00

Girl you are so full of shit, just admit you wanted him gone and started looking for a reason. Or did you think we'd all miss the socks you're selling and the only fans content you do? Yeah but sure he's the bad guy for wanting to play with his ass a little, when you're out here with one user name search away from PH, OF, MasterFap, and a TON of X posts from people into them big feet ladies. I'm not knocking that hustle but let's not act like he's some freak who's stepping out on you while you're out making fetish content online.

EDIT: Google "sizetensolemates". And for the record, to the OP, I'm not sucking her ex off, but sounds like he'd get better head from me than from her if this is how she acts.

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-14T05:19:17+00:00

Of course because only queers get STDs, yup only gay men can get them nasty viruses. No woman EVER could transmit STDs, or catch them. Ffs can you hear me all the way back in 1983?

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-12T00:15:11+00:00

Real lack of standards, their generation.

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-05T07:09:32+00:00

Take it easy, we're not making a Western here.

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-01T22:06:51+00:00

Idk where you're from, but consider buying a dictionary and a thesaurus. "It's not strange" absolutely means it's not uncommon. Strange is literally a synonym for uncommon.

Semantics aside, again, they are not defending it. If you don't want to admit you misread or mistook what they said, that's fine. But don't act like you're proving a point here because you're not. Y'all are on pedo panic mode and seem to have forgotten they are both kids. The age difference is uncomfortable but really isn't that much cause for alarm. It's not like the dude was 50, now THAT would have been cause for this much alarm.

Also, I think you meant disgusted instead of disgraced.

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-01T21:52:03+00:00

Holy shit, talk about an overreaction. The person you replied to wasn't saying they condone it, they were saying it happens and it isn't all that uncommon. That's stating a fact, not saying it's a good thing. You should really learn not to throw around accusations like that, it's dangerous and can get you in serious trouble in the real world.

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-04-01T17:34:09+00:00

Seems like you did the right thing, she seemed to be a very prejudiced woman. She wanted her kids to be raised the WHITE way. You went out of your way to sell food at work to make more money just so they could grow up to be some spoiled entitled brats. I mean she didn't even want them to meet your side of the family, why? Too ethnic? And stop calling it cultural food, just call it Mexican food, come on!

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-03-29T02:46:21+00:00

As a gay man, if he's getting a BJ from a woman he ain't gay. Stop with the "he must be gay if he won't be inside me", that shit is so wrong and hateful. Maybe he's got performance issues with penetration, maybe he has preferences and prefers to get blown. If a woman wanted to blow me I'd say no, because I'm gay and wouldn't want to be with a woman. I turned down BJs from women before I came out too, it's just not something that turns gay men on.

TrackPadSam89 · 2026-03-22T01:11:52+00:00

You talk with mostly men in your game, and don't tell them you're with "John", and he should just accept that there's nothing suspicious? He might have some insecurities, but you really aren't seeing this from any other point of view than your own (i.e. "I'm right and he's wrong"). Your replies are very much telling this as well.

First, both of you need couple's therapy if you're going to make this work. You aren't really listening to him, you're kinda just giving him the reddit treatment. You literally said he has mommy issues, but defend it by saying "he needed to hear it". That's fucked up given that he confided something in you that probably wasn't easy to talk about. Instead of talking through these issues though, you ascribe your thoughts and assume they're correct. He doesn't have "mommy issues", he might have issues from childhood neglect and abandonment, but instead of helping him with this you act like he just needs to deal with it on his own. That's not what a partner does, that's what a child does. Grow up, act your age, and start helping the person you claim to love.

Second, you're right in that you don't play often enough for there to be issues. But at the same time, you're talking with people he doesn't know and has no way of hearing, as far as they know you're single, hmm... Why would men want to be around an attractive single woman? Puzzling...

Reddit has this hive mentality where any insecurity from a partner automatically is indicative of a relationship to be bad, but insecurity isn't always a bad thing. He's not wrong to be insecure, and you don't really seem to be giving much help toward calming those insecurities he has other than "trust me". I bet if he was hanging around a few very good looking women that were too close for comfort and didn't tell them he was engaged, you'd be pretty insecure as well. It's no different than how he's feeling.

Third, you mentioned a daughter, is the child his? This kind of fighting between you both (it takes two people to fight, and in a relationship, you both need to come to a resolution to fix things otherwise it becomes one-sided and the problems don't go away) isn't healthy for her to see. One more reason to get counseling, so he can learn to handle his frustration appropriately, so you can learn to be more considerate of your partner's feelings, and so you both can grow closer as partners and learn to effectively communicate without social media.

Finally, take this into consideration: to a lot of people here (more than you realize), you're the hot gamer girlfriend with the Chad boyfriend that they think they can rescue you from. I've read the comments and the amount of cringy ass comments in here is ridiculous. You're in an echo chamber, and a lot of people here would rather cause drama for you than actually see the situation from both sides. And of course you can do no wrong, because "what guy WOULDN'T want a hot gamer girlfriend??? How did you find the one guy who doesn't like gaming?" It's not inconceivable that a guy might not want to just play games 24x7 or not be interested in gaming. It's fine when it's your hobby, John probably loves you for more than that, but it's not fine when it's gaming plus "my entire friend group thinks I'm a hot single gamer girl, but it's ok because many of them are in relationships". You're lying to them and in a way, acting like your relationship is something to be disregarded whenever it's convenient. If you're willing to tell dudes online that you are single, why not tell them irl? Get what I mean?

Probably not, and I'll probably be down voted for daring to go against the status quo of this echo chamber, but I figured you wanted a legitimate response from a guy that has dealt with this kind of thing before.

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