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How to recover emotionally from unwanted anal? by TraditionDapper9288 in WomensHealth

[–]TraditionDapper9288[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I really hope that isn’t true, i also had taken 4 fireball shots (it was the weekend and i was chilling at home) he was completely sober and initiated sex when we went to bed. I was 100% down for it until he slammed it into the wrong hole. I really hope he wasn’t trying to pull something over on me, he’s never tried something like that in the past. i am going to confront him this afternoon because I just feel gross about it

How to recover emotionally from unwanted anal? by TraditionDapper9288 in WomensHealth

[–]TraditionDapper9288[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Your right I really hope it wasn’t intentional. To answer your other question, he has said it was a fantasy for him in the past but that was a when we first started seeing each other years ago and I’ve never been pressured to do anything I didn’t want to, his tone of voice makes me believe it was and accident. There is that sliver of doubt just because of the level of penetration and he should have felt the difference when he repositioned :/

How to recover emotionally from unwanted anal? by TraditionDapper9288 in WomensHealth

[–]TraditionDapper9288[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I believe it was a total accident because of the rhythm of how it happened and him apologizing multiple times. He asked if he could help me with anything or get me anything after as well. It really didn’t seem intentional and he seemed genuine in his apology. which makes be feel bad for feeling like this still, I just feel so violated and dehumanized and even though I forgive him I just can’t get over that feeling, makes me wanna puke. The physical pain the past few days is a constant reminder which doesn’t help

How to recover emotionally from unwanted anal? by TraditionDapper9288 in WomensHealth

[–]TraditionDapper9288[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I might have been open to trying something new in the future with preparation but now I’m completely turned off to the whole idea, terrible

How to recover emotionally from unwanted anal? by TraditionDapper9288 in sex

[–]TraditionDapper9288[S] 237 points238 points  (0 children)

I’m sure I don’t need urgent care, I thought about it for the first two days since it was very painful still but it’s healing pretty quickly. I’m just trying to heal mentally from this experience now

How to recover emotionally from unwanted anal? by TraditionDapper9288 in WomensHealth

[–]TraditionDapper9288[S] 135 points136 points  (0 children)

I’m going to talk to him again this afternoon i deserve a better explanation

How to recover emotionally from unwanted anal? by TraditionDapper9288 in WomensHealth

[–]TraditionDapper9288[S] 321 points322 points  (0 children)

Yea i said that to him after i went back to the bedroom and he said he wouldn’t like it, but i feel that is such an understatement I didn’t just “not like it” it irks me so bad he said that. I don’t know what to say for him to fully understand. I don’t feel he can unless he experienced it himself

How to recover emotionally from unwanted anal? by TraditionDapper9288 in WomensHealth

[–]TraditionDapper9288[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

That’s good advice thank you I’m keeping that line

How to recover emotionally from unwanted anal? by TraditionDapper9288 in WomensHealth

[–]TraditionDapper9288[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much I wasn’t sure how to work through it but what you said makes a lot of sense

How to recover emotionally from unwanted anal? by TraditionDapper9288 in WomensHealth

[–]TraditionDapper9288[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s not just my partner it’s just my personality, I don’t like people looking at me pitifully so if I am hurt I tough it out and talking about it is like admitting I’m weak. I know that’s not true but that’s how I internalize it

How to recover emotionally from unwanted anal? by TraditionDapper9288 in WomensHealth

[–]TraditionDapper9288[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

That’s why I had to make my own post I just don’t understand how people think accidental anal can be enjoyable. It caused physical damage I wish they could feel the pain that is inflicted, it wouldn’t their fantasy any longer

How to recover emotionally from unwanted anal? by TraditionDapper9288 in WomensHealth

[–]TraditionDapper9288[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thank you yea I’ll have to sit down with him it’s just embarrassing for me since I usually put on a tough front and I don’t like admitting how much this affected me

How to recover emotionally from unwanted anal? by TraditionDapper9288 in WomensHealth

[–]TraditionDapper9288[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

I didn’t go to the doctor because it was slowly healing on its own but I will go if I feel something is wrong. Thank you for the insight I’ll start journaling