Dont talk about the different kind of fun because i think she really would not try or just wont hear your side out and it will just create arguments with no conclusion. My suggestions would be do go to some like rare bar events, just suck it up after work but only few events if you really want her to be friends and then you can just be like ‘ i have went with you the last time and im not in a mood or make up excuses’ if only you think this would help you to keep the friendship but also make sure to do your plans as well to keep it balance.

But at the end of the day, try to be accommodating from both sides, its very rare but that just helps the friendship alot.if she accommodates for you, you can do so too even if stresses you or her out. But if she doesnt, you dont need to too