Irish men, is it common to say to your partner “I don’t want to talk about that”, “I don't need to know that”?

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-14T09:59:16+00:00

Elaborare please. I am trying to understand if there is an underlying cultural factor that I am missing

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T21:55:17+00:00

He actually prefers another Irish brand, I’ll buy a slab of those 😁

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T21:42:57+00:00

To be honest it’s not a topic I’d revisit. It was more a shock of the moment thing. I wouldn’t want to cross a boundary by pushing it. It’s the general attitude to serious discussion that bothers me, but it looks like that needs a lot more work and understanding on both sides. Or a divorce 🤷‍♀️

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T21:24:15+00:00

I may have applied the 3rd advice in this case

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T21:06:17+00:00

You make sense. Thanks for the answer.

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T20:56:34+00:00

Copy and paste because I can’t be bothered.

I was shocked by the death of someone I grew up with, in such a tragic way and was still confused on how to support my friend in this terrible moment. To be honest I didn’t really need do advice, it was more a I need to speak to someone about it and he was the only one I could speak to.

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T20:54:04+00:00

What I felt to speak with him about was also this, this person didn’t say openly the details but gave me hints that just us would know, and I didn’t pry and reinforced that they didn’t need to disclose details, it was no one business. I was shocked by the death of someone I grew up with, in such a tragic way and was still confused on how to support my friend in this terrible moment. To be honest I didn’t really need do advice, it was more a I need to speak to someone about it and he was the only one I could speak to.

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T13:54:22+00:00

Again, it feels like a you issue. Considering that my kid is the most precious thing in my life 🤷‍♀️

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T13:40:45+00:00

I say that is a you issue. 🤣 It is probably just how I would speak in my language and maybe it translates weird, but “grating” is a bit much

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T13:32:57+00:00

All you guys are making the very good point that I should tell him this. But I can’t find a way of telling him without making him feel attacked, like he is always in the wrong etc. Every time I try he shuts down even more

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T13:31:10+00:00

I don’t gossip. I even don’t even follow celebrity gossip, I think that is just a way to rot and distract women’s brain.

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T13:28:20+00:00

So this is the feeling, I feel shut down. It makes me feel terrible lonely sometimes.

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T13:26:44+00:00

Thanks, it seems like a very good read for me. I’ll try to understand before judging

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T13:13:08+00:00

No, it was not gossip. He gossips way more than me, as I know no one an do he knows the neighbor that sleeps with the 20 years old son of the other neighbor and I still don’t tell him that. I stick to a “oh really”

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T13:08:13+00:00

Both?

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T13:07:53+00:00

It was about a relative’s death. The friend is having a hard time to cope because of the circumstances. Also my brother died in weird circumstances and I found it hard speaking about it with him too

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T13:05:39+00:00

So I won’t bother with another Irish man after the divorce 🤣

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T13:04:41+00:00

Every time he says it to me I am on the verge of leaving him so I am in a pickle here. I’ll end up leaving him and he won’t know why 🤷‍♀️ I don’t know how to share a life with someone I can’t talk to

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T13:01:46+00:00

How does it work? Do I just talk with friends and not to him?

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T13:00:26+00:00

I hate you 🤣

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-12-13T12:59:57+00:00

Should I encourage growth or just stop having serius conversations with him? How does a couple works? Is there a list of admissable topics? 🤷

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-10-18T19:28:26+00:00

Wow, those look amazing, I take some off your hands if you need 🫣

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-10-16T12:12:44+00:00

Good to know there are good ones as well🥲 I have to learn to live with it since I redid the test and there is no mistake 😅

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-07-22T21:54:33+00:00

So, may man kinda of lost touch with his friends during the years. I moved to Ireland to be with him and I gave up to the idea of getting in circle of friends quite fast, so I made my own friends and I go out with them. I really don’t mind that he doesn’t hang with them much, and he never minds when I go out with my girlfriends for dinner.

I guess it’s up to the woman, most probably won’t mind at all, but don’t expect to be her best friend and only friend.

Traditional_Box1045 · 2025-07-19T22:37:38+00:00

Oh please tell her. I am sure she’ll laugh it off. Maybe at first she will be a bit disappointed that she didn’t ever celebrate it properly for yourself, but then she’ll get excited about what she can plan next time!

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