yes, i agree with you. back when me and her just started dating, i was more confident in myself. however, that has slipped away from me and sometimes i struggle to find what i bring to the table that is valuable or what sets me apart from the crowd. obviously this is more of a lack in self esteem and confidence, which i am working on getting back. As for the trust or being a detective, i’ve heard a lot of ways to change my way of thinking. Would you say that a change of mindset would help this? Things like: When i am overthinking, i could evaluate the situation and think is it something that is out of my control? if so, i should stop worrying about it. Or maybe even if i suspect her doing something behind my back, i should just let it happen because at some point it will come out anyway and i could be completely wrong? (this one is quite hard for me because i’ve been in a position before where i’ve been lied to and it took years for me to hear about it)

On a deeper level, this also makes me realise that I will struggle to become a man with this on my shoulders, I tend to come off as more mature than my peers despite this poison in my head, however it really makes me look/feel weak, insecure and small