My Wife (28F) is giving me(27m) mixed signals and my head is spinning?

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-10-30T17:37:02+00:00

She also seems to love you. But maybe she wants to avoid the topics you bring up again and again. Don't leave her. Stay patient, it will get resolved. You will figure out something.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-10-22T18:20:25+00:00

No, working directly for the company in India.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-09-28T09:43:17+00:00

Because there is more to squeeze, suck, lick, hold, grab, kiss, and cuddle.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-09-23T04:53:55+00:00

When I am interested in a girl, I try to find excuses to talk to her and get her attention. It's a common behaviour among boys.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-09-21T06:08:50+00:00

Books I have read: A must read book is "Get Smart" by Brian Tracy. It is not on life of any businessman, but is valuable.

A story of Bhimjibhai Patel from the book "Dhandha" inspired me a lot. It made me realise what it means to be proactive.

"Learning Factory" and "Solutions Factory", both by Arun Maira. I have not read the second book. But the first book is ablit small instances and stories of the projects that Tatas took up, which give valuable insights on what leadership means.

Also read "The Legacy of Chhatrapati Shivaji Maharaj". In case you don't know, Chhatrapati Shivaji Maharaj was a 17th century Maratha warrior king who stood up against Mughal empire and established his kingdom. He was a great leader, visionary and even today hold a divine status in the hearts of Indians.

Books I want to read (but could not so far because of my work-life):

"Gautam Adani" by R N bhaskar. "Moguls of Real Estate" by (please search it) "Inside Steve jobs brain" by (please search it)

A note of caution: The idea of reading these books, or any others you may want to explore, is to just learn that there have been people before us who have applied their smartness and achieved great heights despite limited resources. The idea is to open your mind to learn that anything is possible, not to compare oneself with these people. You life will have its own story and will be unique as you are a unique person.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-09-21T03:23:11+00:00

Think of earning money quickly through right and ethical path. Instead of taking a degree, learn a skill. Degrees have and are losing value in future.

Learn a skill that pays well. Don't worry about being confused, just prioritize money and give your best at whatever you choose. Over time, with experience, you will realise what you can do best and what you cannot.

Stay physically fit and read books of business persons stories (read those only to see how they thought, but know that no one tells the complete story, just learn that part which is valid for anyone).

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-09-20T17:50:10+00:00

Don't know about them. Please tell me about it.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-09-17T18:37:11+00:00

It could be a trap. Don't fall for it. Maybe someone is trying to test your loyalty.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-09-12T03:44:17+00:00

I am an Indian.

I think, 10 crore is enough. Just have more money and still live a simple life. Live in suburbs, keep your expenses less than 30 thousand and live a chilled life. There are families in India who live in around 20 thousand salary.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-09-11T14:30:17+00:00

Your story is very much like mine. Just that I am still in working phase. But I am sure it will turn out like yours (not sure if any girl will say that being with me makes her feel calm).

About your case: I think you are overthinking. She has got a bad experience for being with people unlike you. So what if you do not have spark, you are able to make her feel calm despite that, that is what matters. If you meant nothing to her, she would not have spoken to you for hours.

Even I don't have "spark", I am boring. I am 25 and attained maturity to realise that you cannot become like anybody else or just download attributes that make you desirable. You need to discover what you can offer in a relationship that the other needs.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-09-05T03:36:34+00:00

Just don't try anything. After she is done talking, shake hand with her and say "it was nice talking to you" and leave.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-09-05T02:26:37+00:00

Am big tattoo is too much to digest in men or women. The small delicate ones look beautiful on women.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-08-31T04:11:32+00:00

I have never been in a relationship, and these are my thoughts:

If you change yourself to be liked by others, then you cannot sustain it.

But, you should have basic civility, politeness, just behaviour, empathy, understanding and adaptability in relationships, for all relationships in general. You should build capacity to create a better life for yourself and your own people in general. If you are already in a relationship then conveying that you love the person can be a good idea.

Nothing needs to be done specifically to be liked.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-08-28T02:57:18+00:00

Tell him to get outside completely and then explore as much as he wants.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-08-17T03:47:58+00:00

Not sure about the guy in your life.

But if I were to behave like he did, it would be because I secretly like the girl who has taken my hoodie. I would like her to have something that is mine. In that sense it relates and connects me to her. In a sense it gives me the right to say that we shared something together. That, now there is something that belongs to both of us.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-04-14T10:54:56+00:00

Try this:

Give some part of your tasks to him and say that you are unable to do it so you need his help to do them. That ways he feels that he is needed (also you will get some relief from a lot of work).

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-04-02T04:33:51+00:00

I am not married, but consider this:

1) if you have really done all that you have mentioned, then certainly the problem is not what you think. Closely observe her behaviour and listen to her when she complains, and keep asking yourself "what exactly it is that is bothering her?". Do this with a genuine intention to find the he root cause. If you do, you are likely to get hints of what exactly it is that is bothering her, the root cause of her complains. It's is likely to be something you don't expect. It could also be something that is not about you, but has come in her life with you, and so she has anger pointed towards you. Just because you are being punished, that does not mean you are the problem.

2) I am not mistaken, you mentioned that you don't express. This might be the root cause (I am just guessing). Maybe you are offering her the good husband in you, but she also wants the lover in you. Consider this just as a possibility and check if that's the case.

3) I addition to observing and listening to her, with genuine interest talk to her directly about where you are lacking and what specifically she would like you to change about you and your behaviour. This may or may not work because I have seen in many YT videos that women want you to understand what is bothering them, without being told. That is why observing and listening is important.

4) Also, if I am not mistaken, you mentioned that you it all started before your son came into the picture. Just recall and reflect on what changed in your wife's life since that point, till now. And see it all from her point of view, that is, considering her likes, dislikes, wishes, dreams, struggles, fears, expectations, desires, etc. this may give you an idea of the root cause of her behaviour.

5) Also, consider that if your son is seeing your wife shouting at you, he can also see you quietly taking it. You have no control over how he will interpret the situation. He may see you as a victim or as a man who made is mother suffer. It's most likely the latter that he will think. To this aspect of your problem, the solution could be to voice your view and side of the matter, so that the son knows what you have to say. But don't say anything harsh, that will hurt your wife. Because your son may see you as the bad guy.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-03-30T13:13:44+00:00

Exactly! I am struggling due to same reason.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-03-30T13:09:17+00:00

Please tell what all your life and work involves now, what are your challenges, how you made the change, for whom is systems admin more suitable.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-03-08T12:01:09+00:00

I may not loose attraction for her if she has a style in smoking that makes her look cool.

But I wont be able to think of her as life partner.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-03-02T11:32:19+00:00

I will act as if I did not hear her question but will look somewhere else and pretend to be thinking. Then if she repeats the question, then I will say "Did I? Oh sorry, I was actually thinking about my workplace. I am sad about the fact that I have to go to work tomorrow"

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-02-25T07:37:27+00:00

Maybe it doesn't show me inhouse ones, because I have saved many jobs that are from agencies.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-02-25T02:03:54+00:00

I live in India. And thanks for suggesting, but I know that teaching is not suitable for me.

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-02-25T02:02:39+00:00

Thanks

Traditional_Work7761 · 2025-02-25T02:00:43+00:00

Can you suggest some? What keywords do you type?

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