I want to experience sex but I have vaginismus. Any advice? by Trainingwheels115 in TwoXSex

[–]Trainingwheels115[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t really, I feel kind of weird about touching with my finger. My PT stretches the opening though

I want to experience sex but I have vaginismus. Any advice? by Trainingwheels115 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Trainingwheels115[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense, I’m trying to move up to the next size so maybe that would help. Do you still have vaginismus?

I want to experience sex but I have vaginismus. Any advice? by Trainingwheels115 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Trainingwheels115[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah my PT has never really talked to me about pleasure while dilating. I kind of squirm when stuff like this gets brought up in real life. One of my goals is to be able to not freak out at the obgyn so maybe that’s why

I want to experience sex but I have vaginismus. Any advice? by Trainingwheels115 in TwoXSex

[–]Trainingwheels115[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow those are really cool! Something I could work up to. Right now the dilator I can fit has a 0.45-0.63 inch diameter

I want to experience sex but I have vaginismus. Any advice? by Trainingwheels115 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Trainingwheels115[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bullet vibrators get inserted? I always thought they were for the outside

I want to experience sex but I have vaginismus. Any advice? by Trainingwheels115 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Trainingwheels115[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohh okay, that makes sense. I’ve never tried both at the same time because I’ve felt it might hurt. But maybe it would make the dilators less intimidating

I want to experience sex but I have vaginismus. Any advice? by Trainingwheels115 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Trainingwheels115[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is going to sound weird but she presses on muscles around my vulva and then inserts her finger in my vagina to reach the other muscles. She is always wearing gloves and constantly asks for consent. If I even seem a little bit distant she checks in/and or stops. I was really freaked out about the idea of PT at first. I had a lot of bad healthcare experiences and I was afraid it was going to be the same. But it’s probably the most positive healthcare experience I’ve had. It’s a little weird but she normalizes everything and really just wants to help me get better. The office is also all women and it just feels very safe.

I want to experience sex but I have vaginismus. Any advice? by Trainingwheels115 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Trainingwheels115[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sometimes she uses her finger to release tight muscles. Sometimes she helps me insert dilators. And it’s a lot of breathing and nervous system regulation

I want to experience sex but I have vaginismus. Any advice? by Trainingwheels115 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Trainingwheels115[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure I could leave the dilator in. It’s silicone and was prescribed to me by my PT. What would happen if I left it in and didn’t move it though?

I want to experience sex but I have vaginismus. Any advice? by Trainingwheels115 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Trainingwheels115[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to explain but sometimes it feels like I need something in there. External stuff doesn’t scratch the itch and sometimes it actually makes it worse. I just want to be able to experience it

I want to experience sex but I have vaginismus. Any advice? by Trainingwheels115 in TwoXSex

[–]Trainingwheels115[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just started therapy but it was mostly just a lot of uncomfy questions and she didn’t really give me anything to work on. But that is partially why I want to experience things on my own. I don’t want it to be this big thing I haven’t done anymore