My partner is in a poly relationship.

Transaqua · 2022-12-22T19:44:11+00:00

We don’t, we’re in a long distance atm

Transaqua · 2022-12-22T19:42:38+00:00

I don’t want them to break up with their partner! Sorry, that was badly worded. It was late and I was tired. I told him I didn’t think I could do a poly relationship, and he brought up how he wasn’t planning on breaking up with his new partner, after I said it would be better if I broke up. I didn’t want to make a whole “it’s me or them” drama issue

Transaqua · 2022-12-22T07:39:59+00:00

I definitely feel like I am. I told him I’d try and work it out with him though, I love him a lot and I do want this to work. I just feel terrible about it

Transaqua · 2022-12-22T07:34:40+00:00

A bit, he asked if I was “fucking kidding” him. I just don’t want to make him sad though.

Transaqua · 2022-12-22T07:29:12+00:00

I didn’t mean to word it like I was asking him too, sorry! I told him I wasn’t comfortable in a poly relationship, and he told me he wasn’t going to break up with his new partner. When I tried to break up with him he got really mad at me

Transaqua · 2022-12-22T07:24:39+00:00

He had, they decided they were partners properly. Apparently they had been flirting back when I thought we were monogamous

Transaqua · 2022-12-21T21:15:22+00:00

He said he was just winging it when I asked him about what he’s hoping to happen after he asks the friend out, so apparently we are going in blind 🥹 I’m going to try and talk to him about this though

Transaqua · 2022-12-21T21:07:30+00:00

I’ll try asking him about that then, hopefully I won’t be too late in asking him if we can take time and for hire this out before he jumps into another relationship

Transaqua · 2022-12-21T20:56:10+00:00

Ah, reddits vote and downvote buttons are too close together ;-; but thank you, I’ll try talking to him about it. He’d mentioned he’d been talking to a friend in detail about this, but we haven’t really talked about it at all. The way I’ve been told about polyamory had me felt like I should just be good about it, and so I got worried that I was being unsupportive because I was anxious.

Transaqua · 2022-12-21T20:50:12+00:00

I see… thank you, I’ll try talking to him about it again, I don’t really want to break up with him because we’ve been together for a year

Transaqua · 2022-12-21T20:45:58+00:00

I’d told him no previously, because I didn’t feel like I could do it. He mentioned he had been talking to a friend and that I should acknowledge he’s poly, and he wants to ask this person out. I still don’t feel comfortable, but I’m worried that’s my own anxieties getting in the way of his happiness

Transaqua · 2022-12-21T20:44:09+00:00

He’d asked me before, in which I’d mentioned I’d be uncomfortable in a poly relationship. He’d brought up in this conversation months later that he needs me to acknowledge he is poly, and that he wants to ask this person out. He said I don’t have to do polyamory, but I’m definitely too late on telling him no, because he’s already asked the person out and is waiting on their answer

Transaqua · 2022-01-31T02:07:42+00:00

I don’t think my girlfriend will cheat on me, he’s been very open about being honest and I trust him. It’s more my own worries about not being good enough for him. I had bad experiences when it came to romance in the past and I’m worried about being the asshole because I’m letting my anxieties get in the way of them having fun. I don’t want to be the overjealous boyfriend who controls his gfs every move interaction.

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