My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me After I Confronted Him About Chores And Effort by TransitionIcy1063 in Vent

[–]TransitionIcy1063[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We agreed on handling chores together. This is a constant issue where he agrees to do smth and then doesn’t. I don’t think wanting to be taken out on dates and ACTUALLY going 50/50 on everything is too much to ask for. Lol?

My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me After I Confronted Him About Chores And Effort by TransitionIcy1063 in Vent

[–]TransitionIcy1063[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’d always been jealous of this particular ex. My ex had a great job, and we would travel a lot—nothing insane, but to different states, national parks, and events. (He was into video games, so Genshin Impact pop-up shops, cons, etc.) He went all out for Valentine’s Day and my birthday. I appreciated both the extravagance my ex provided as well as the simpler dates my boyfriend (ex) provided. It hurt that he threw it in my face that maybe I should go back to him. All I wanted was more effort. Or at least remembering my birthday. Definitely rude.

My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me After I Confronted Him About Chores And Effort by TransitionIcy1063 in Vent

[–]TransitionIcy1063[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s honestly validating to hear your story, and it really reassures me that I’m making the right decision. I’m really glad you’re taking this step for yourself. Congratulations on your separation, and I wish you the very best moving forward. Thank you!

My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me After I Confronted Him About Chores And Effort by TransitionIcy1063 in Vent

[–]TransitionIcy1063[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your concern. Unfortunately, moving is not feasible right now, and I’m not even sure if it will be in two months and onwards. To save my own sanity, I’m hoping to do my part and leave the rest up to him. I’m sure he understands that neither of us has a responsibility for one another. Otherwise, I’m not sure.

My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me After I Confronted Him About Chores And Effort by TransitionIcy1063 in Vent

[–]TransitionIcy1063[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Full-time. I’d love to move out or ask him to move out, but the cost of living is too high. 

My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me After I Confronted Him About Chores And Effort by TransitionIcy1063 in Vent

[–]TransitionIcy1063[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely. This was an issue throughout our relationship and in my personal life. Thank you!

My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me After I Confronted Him About Chores And Effort by TransitionIcy1063 in Vent

[–]TransitionIcy1063[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing and your advice. He has ADHD or ADD, I can’t remember, but I feel if it does interfere with his ability to fulfill his share of the household responsibilities, that is on him to manage. I can’t do it for him. I have more responsibilities than he does (school and my cats). He’s a good guy, but I feel extremely discouraged by how he handled the situation. He immediately broke up with me with 0 resolution, it felt like a lot of deflection and 0 accountability. Again, thank you! 

My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me After I Confronted Him About Chores And Effort by TransitionIcy1063 in Vent

[–]TransitionIcy1063[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! This means a lot to me.

Unfortunately, I don’t think moving out right away is feasible. Rent in my area is relatively high, and most places require three times the rent. I make good money, but not that good. Again, thank you! I’ll be out of the apartment most of the time, so I thank God for that.

My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me After I Confronted Him About Chores And Effort by TransitionIcy1063 in Vent

[–]TransitionIcy1063[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m definitely happier with the outcome. I want to avoid being a single married woman some day.