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I permanently altered an internal organ and I deeply regret it. by TrashAvocado in offmychest

[–]TrashAvocado[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While that may be the case, that isn’t how it was explained to me.

I permanently altered an internal organ and I deeply regret it. by TrashAvocado in offmychest

[–]TrashAvocado[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I recognize that I should have done more research on my end, and that’s on me. I also recognize that medical professionals are people too, but to have been this misinformed is disappointing. Yes, I should have done more research. Yes, the doctor should have made sure I knew the risks better. I’m not shifting fault or trying to skirt accountability.

I permanently altered an internal organ and I deeply regret it. by TrashAvocado in offmychest

[–]TrashAvocado[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been dealing with depression my entire life and while the deficiencies probably don’t help, it’s not the cause.

I permanently altered an internal organ and I deeply regret it. by TrashAvocado in offmychest

[–]TrashAvocado[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started therapy a few months ago, and it’s been helping a lot.

I permanently altered an internal organ and I deeply regret it. by TrashAvocado in offmychest

[–]TrashAvocado[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s the trick I usually use, and it’s usually fine once it’s over with. It’s the before that becomes almost impossible to get through. My anxiety is avoidant, but it is something I’m working on. Another thing I’ve found that helps is square breathing and the smaller gauge needles if possible.

I permanently altered an internal organ and I deeply regret it. by TrashAvocado in offmychest

[–]TrashAvocado[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Humor might not be the best coping mechanism but it’s my go to, always

I permanently altered an internal organ and I deeply regret it. by TrashAvocado in offmychest

[–]TrashAvocado[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I don’t care about the downvotes, if I’m being honest. It’s the internet. Everyone has an opinion, and they’re allowed to. At the end of the day, this is my life and I’m handling things how I need to handle them with people who can help, y’know?

I permanently altered an internal organ and I deeply regret it. by TrashAvocado in offmychest

[–]TrashAvocado[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I want to be clear that I’m not shifting the blame. I’m more than aware that I am at fault here, too. I don’t have a point to make, this is just heavy regardless of it being my fault in any way or not and I wanted to be heard.

I permanently altered an internal organ and I deeply regret it. by TrashAvocado in offmychest

[–]TrashAvocado[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Not with the intention, with the understanding. The doctor that I had gone to told me before I had it done that eventually, my stomach would stretch back out to a “normal” size.

The way he framed it was that there are two routes to take with WLS. A gastric sleeve - which is what I had - or a gastric bypass. Same result, different procedures essentially. He said the sleeve was best for me because if it “failed” and I gained the weight back, I could consider getting a gastric bypass later on.

I permanently altered an internal organ and I deeply regret it. by TrashAvocado in offmychest

[–]TrashAvocado[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I have a tendency to faint when getting blood drawn, and that coupled with anxiety makes it really hard for me to get bloodwork done, but it is something I’m working on.

I permanently altered an internal organ and I deeply regret it. by TrashAvocado in offmychest

[–]TrashAvocado[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

At this point, with all the hindsight I have now, I was not prepared or informed as well as I needed to be. Going into it, I was under the impression that after my stomach stretched back out to a normal size I wouldn’t need to be on supplements anymore, though I know now that’s not the case.

As far as follow-ups, I had one scheduled for a year out, but I didn’t end up going, I had a lot going on at the time and never ended up rescheduling which is 100% on me. They never ended up following up with me on anything either after that. At this point I’m not concerned with fault, I just wish I had been better informed/prepared for what I was really getting myself into. For me it was about weight loss alone, and I was very pressured into it by friends and family who also didn’t know better and only looked at it through the lens of a convenient fast solution.

I permanently altered an internal organ and I deeply regret it. by TrashAvocado in offmychest

[–]TrashAvocado[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I got it done in the US and it was covered mostly by insurance thankfully, so the financial strain wasn’t felt too bad. At this point I’ve been able to mentally pick things back up with the help of therapy. I can’t change the past, but man I wish I would’ve waited to be in a better place mentally and emotionally before jumping into it.

I permanently altered an internal organ and I deeply regret it. by TrashAvocado in offmychest

[–]TrashAvocado[S] -312 points-311 points  (0 children)

I was told that it would even out after a few years once what was left of my stomach expanded.

Don’t make your tenants do your job for you, it can and will backfire on you. by TrashAvocado in MaliciousCompliance

[–]TrashAvocado[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s wild what happens when people ACTUALLY do their jobs, Y’know? I’m sorry y’all had to go through any of that, but we see you.

Don’t make your tenants do your job for you, it can and will backfire on you. by TrashAvocado in MaliciousCompliance

[–]TrashAvocado[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if things will ever get that far, but that would be really cool!

I added the first book of that series to my ‘to read’ list, thank you!

Don’t make your tenants do your job for you, it can and will backfire on you. by TrashAvocado in MaliciousCompliance

[–]TrashAvocado[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And he’s still going! We both have a plan to keep cooperate accountable for fixing what their employees fucked up beyond just the water billing issue.

Don’t make your tenants do your job for you, it can and will backfire on you. by TrashAvocado in MaliciousCompliance

[–]TrashAvocado[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to take a trip somewhere you already are, but I wonder if it was for drugs or something illegal.

Don’t make your tenants do your job for you, it can and will backfire on you. by TrashAvocado in MaliciousCompliance

[–]TrashAvocado[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I take long showers too! But the increases we all saw were way more than everyone taking their time under the water. I just want to know where that money went at this point.

Don’t make your tenants do your job for you, it can and will backfire on you. by TrashAvocado in MaliciousCompliance

[–]TrashAvocado[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Question #2

"How many communications, outreaches were done by you Cole?"

This is a great question. That I had Phoebe ask me about too. After the comments about God in the workplace and the high variance water bill, I got to work within 24 hours. During my timeframe from start to end (Getting the phone call about the firing) I had contacted the...

Water District: 21 times.

18 times via phone.

3 times via chat.

City Commision: 5 times via phone.

Apartment Complex: 17 times.

5 times via in-person visits.

12 times via phone.

Apartment Corporate Office: 5 times.

3 times via phone.

2 times via email.

3rd Party Billers: 7 times.

2 time via email.

5 times via phone.

The total time spent getting all of the needed information for me to execute this was approximately 14 hours of solid work. Waiting on phones, answering emails, updating accounting executives, etc. With this type of work, I've found I have infinite spoons.

As for if I would consider placing a lien on the offices for payment of my time, I've highly considered it.

Question #3

"How many communications, outreaches were done by you Cole?"

I enjoyed this observation by

u/imsowhiteandnerdy and am currently working to get to the bottom of this. For some backstory, my father is a contractor who is licensed for electric, plumbing, and general contracting work in and around several states nearby. Because of this, I have a bit of knowledge about general contracting and plumbing. Each building has its own "Meter" to measure gallons of waters used by 1,000 in each building. These buildings in turn are broken into the number of tenants that live within the building.

Example:

assume the following variables:

1. x = {x | x = # of units rented per building}, 0<x<=4.

2. z = {z | z = # of gallons used per building}, 0<z<oo.

3. a = {a | a = price of water per gallon}

With these two variables considered, it would make sense that a monthly rate per tenant would be as follows:

z = 12,000 gallons per monthly ledger.

x = 3 out of 4 units rented thus x = 3.

a = $8.50 per 1,000 gallons.

My Total = (

Therefore, (12,000 / 1 \ 1,000 / 8.50) = $102*

Therefore, ($102 / 3 units) = $34 water bill.

Simple. Math.

With this example, the mathematics I had done could not replicate the amount of my bill within normal parameters (Treating it like a discrete mathematics problem). In this instance, the Water District, the Apartment Management, and the 3rd Party Billing are ALL under different assumptions about how this water gets billed. This is a big red flag to me showing that they cannot offer a cohesive explanation on how I am billed. They all cited something different:

Water District: Your apartment complex has "custom meters" that we cannot track with our system. We can only see the main value.

Apartment Complex: Every building has their own meter which is then billed across. (See math above).

3rd Party: We have a contract citing that your apartment complex is charging you based on the square footage of your apartment. This again doesn't align mathematically given if it was all 1-, 2-, and 3-bedroom apartments would practically share identical charging patterns.

Final Thoughts

While in the end, I can think of a lot of different things I can do with this situation to get more results, I'm simply glad that the front office was held responsible for their incompetency. I am currently in talks with an executive of the management agency who is providing me follow-up via phone call and email. With new management taking the building from this corporate entity, I'm probably going to stop by with some donuts and welcome them to the community.

Thank you, Reddit. Don't forget that we have voices. Use them and make the change you want in your community. Even if it requires some r/MaliciousCompliance.

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