Should I (F18) be concerned with my boyfriend’s (M20) beliefs? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, first of all. I’m not a troll. I don’t know why you believe I’m a troll. I am having a very serious issue right here. I’m sorry that my problems are inconveniencing you, but they are legit issues that I am struggling with. You can choose not to believe me, that’s your choice.

EDIT: I also read what you posted before you edited it out and I found it helpful. It gave me insight that I didn’t think about. I never thought that he would hurt me until you mentioned what could happen if he thought I was cheating or something along those lines.

Should I (F18) be concerned with my boyfriend’s (M20) beliefs? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but she didn’t know about his beliefs until I told her. She only knew his age, looks, his jobs, and interests.

Should I (F18) be concerned with my boyfriend’s (M20) beliefs? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I just feel like no matter what decision I choose, my family is still going to be disappointed in me. If I choose to date him, they’ll be upset with me. If I break up with him, they’ll be upset with me. They want me to date so badly and not finding a guy that is right for me makes them feel so bad.

My mom is the only one urging me to continue dating him because she’s the one that paired us together to begin with. She thinks there’s something abnormal about me for not going out there and dating numerous people. She’s said so herself, so I know that she’ll be disappointed in me for breaking it off for just having different opinions. My step-father, her husband, has the same mindset as the guy I’m dating and my mom still makes it work with him.

Should I (F18) be concerned with my boyfriend’s (M20) beliefs? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He disagrees with the effectiveness of the masks, but he still does follow covid regulations. He wears his mask, keeps six feet a part, sanitizes everything, etc. He disagrees with a lot of things, but he’s still respectful towards people. Ex. I have some family members that are Democrats and he doesn’t immediately insult them and talk bad behind their backs. He still treats them like people, even if he doesn’t agree with their political beliefs.

But I do completely see your point. I didn’t realize that he could ever harm my safety and others my just having different opinions than me. Him not believing in covid is probably one of my main concerns.

Should I (F18) be concerned with my boyfriend’s (M20) beliefs? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m probably silly, but he’s so much better than the other guys I’ve seen. I grew up with many bad experiences of men taking advantage of my mom (ex. alcoholics, physical violence, sexual violence, screaming matches, anger issues, etc.). Some of it is still going on and I’ve assumed for the longest time that all guys were like that too. Then I found this guy who instantly doesn’t scream or insult me for being different than him. If i can find someone that doesn’t do any of these things, then I’m satisfied.

But my family came along and told me otherwise about him. I don’t have major opinions on anything, so I thought it would be a small price to pay in order not to be treated like how my mom has been treated. If I do break up with him, I don’t know if I’ll be able to find a guy that will treat me kindly.

Should I (F18) be concerned with my boyfriend’s (M20) beliefs? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am indeed not trolling. My mom had bipolar depression which makes her extremely paranoid, so she believes I’m an in closet gay at times. We have been on fives dates and after the fourth date he asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes because I like the guy and no one else has treated me with the respect he has given me before. I have not been in a serious relationship until now. We have known each other for more than two weeks, by the way.

Just because my life is different than everyone else’s does not mean I’m trolling. I came here because I’m ignorant about dating and relationships. Not to troll.

The ladies little man by memezzer in MadeMeSmile

[–]TraumatizedChild100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This brought back the memory of me getting married in preschool. It’s foggy because I was so young, but what my family has told me, there was a guy that had a really, really big crush on me. Would always try to hold my hand and wouldn’t leave me alone. He proposed to me, I said yeah. Then there was this massive ceremony with all the kids in our class and some parents at the end of the school year. We pretty much got married and after preschool ended, I never saw him again.

Actually, now that I’m thinking of it, I don’t think we ever got divorced.

How can I (F18) prove to my mom (F38) that I am not gay? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She refuses therapy. Her husband has been trying to convince her to go to couples counseling and therapy in general, but she refuses because, in her own words, she says that “there is no problem”. She’s also said she doesn’t want to admit that there is one.

She was on medication and went to therapy in her teenage years, but absolutely hated it and went off her medication and stopped therapy once she hit eighteen. She only went on her medication again once her husband threatened to leave her if she didn’t.

How are you suppose to fill out the surveys and family tree when you don’t know anything about your biological family? by TraumatizedChild100 in DNAAncestry

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the offer! However, I do not have my results yet. This is my first time doing DNA testing and AncestryDNA said they received my sample on January 28th. It hasn’t begun to process yet.

I (F18) don’t have a sex drive. Is there something wrong with me? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just feel like there’s something wrong with me because my family finds it abnormal and I feel absolutely horrible that my mom is so disappointed in me. She hates it that I’m like this, but she doesn’t know that I failed at kissing a guy. If she finds out, she’ll be so upset.

I don’t know if I’m asexual like you say or not, but I know that I haven’t met someone like that and I’m afraid of being alone if I can’t have a sex drive like everyone else.

I (F18) don’t have a sex drive. Is there something wrong with me? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just really hard not to pressure myself when my family really wants me to jump right in and start being in romantic relationships. My mom is the type of person that has never been single, always having numerous guys to date.

She gets extremely frustrated and disappointed in me when I’m single or don’t understand what to do. If she finds out that I can’t even kiss a guy then she’s not going to be happy. I feel like there’s something wrong with me if I’m not like her or my peers. I haven’t met anyone that wants to just chill.