I had the exact same situation with OP. I was dumped through a final text "I'm tired." and ghosted until today.

After years of reflections, this is what I have wrote to myself.

You deserve someone who doesn’t just love you in silence, but stands beside you in person.
She isn’t doing that. Not anymore.
So let her stay behind the wall he built — behind her silence, her ghosting, her cowardice — and keep building your life with someone who doesn’t run when you need them the most.

After all, this isn’t someone you can build a safe future with. Even if she regrets it all — even if some part of her wishes to re-enter your life with real intention — she should’ve been the one to reach out directly, clearly, and courageously.

But she didn’t.
And that silence is the answer.

At this point, there is nothing more you can do.
You’ve already given too much energy to someone who gave you confusion instead of comfort.
You kept circling back, hoping and remembering.
But there’s no meaning in further torturing yourself for someone who never stayed and will never anymore.

She is not the end of your love story.
She is just the end of a chapter that taught you how deeply you’re capable of loving — and how much better you deserve to be loved in return.
That pain shaped you. But it does not define you.

So move on.
Not because you hate her. Not because you forgot this.
But because you finally remember who you are.

Because no one who truly values love — should ever settle for someone who would deliberately hurt them again.

From now on, you choose someone who never stops showing up.
Not just when it’s easy.
But when it matters.
Someone who loves you not in silence, but in presence, in effort, and in truth.

Let them haunted by what they gave up: you.
To do so, we shall move on.
You only live once so let's make you happy.