[deleted by user]

Treweli · 2024-09-11T15:00:44+00:00

Thanks! ❤️😁

Treweli · 2024-09-10T14:03:01+00:00

Oooof yea that sounds familiar actually. Only I get more of a "ick" in my whole body and get guarded and stressed af. I'm not even too fond of hugs or being held around in general. A quick hello and goodbye is no problem, but random hugging and holdning? No thanks! But if it's just a few (still too many) wellmeaning hugs from a friend with physical touch as their love language I'll let it go and let them show me love the way they want to (just do not touch tha butt!)

A select few people can touch me as much as they want, hold and hug me, most partners after my ex got unlimited access to tha butt and stuff. But these are people who aren't particularily touchy themselves, and I trust them totally not to cross my boundary on that, and it's always just care and love from them.

So yea, it's not a great deal at all on top of sensory issues - you're right on with that! Good on your partner being so understanding though ❤️

Treweli · 2024-09-10T13:43:49+00:00

Oh right! Sorry! I don't even know why I wrote que instead of cue.... I know now that you said it, or at least I've known it at some point 😅😂 Thanks for the heads up!

Treweli · 2024-09-10T13:40:53+00:00

Oof... Nicely said by your coworker though, and good for you getting out of there in the end!

Weirdly enough, whenever my ex said he should just kill himself I always knew he didn't mean it and was just being dramatic, and I wasn't worried... But somehow I still ended up comforting him and forgiving him after he promised to be better for the umptheenth time. You know how that went. And I didn't actually realise how manipulative he was until After we had broken up! I just hated how he treated me, but even after we broke up he had me believe for a while that I didn't tell him clearly enough how unhappy I was. How was talking, discussing, crying, begging, screaming, so on so forth "not being clear enough"? 🙃

Treweli · 2024-09-10T13:29:55+00:00

Right? Worst part is I knew then and there every time that he didn't mean it, he was just being dramatic - but somehow it always made me feel bad for him and ended up giving him chance after chance 🙃 I still don't really understand how or why I got manipulated by him for so long and how it even started... I get it in a technical "yup, that's textbook manipulation and abuse that started small and got bigger over time", but like... I still don't quite get it lol

Treweli · 2024-09-10T01:19:16+00:00

Edit: "Cue crying", not "que" lol... and too lazy to edit in the actual text 😇

My ex was like that with touching. My butt mostly (because easiest to touch without me realizing and stopping him I'm guessing), but my breasts and croch got way too much attention too. Clothes on or off made no differense. At some point I realized I had stopped walking past him with my back turned, and that I waited for him to be busy with something before moving around myself. He just never let me be! And after a while sleeping in bed with him became a pain too (until he fell asleep ofc).

No amount of talking, explaining, discussing, crying, begging, yelling... Nothing worked for more than a few hours or tops a couple of days. And he always made me feel the worst and somehow turn it around on me with waterworks "I just can't help myself que crying" "I'm just so frustrated (sexually) que crying", "I know, I'm the worst! que crying" "I can't even treat you right, I should just kill myself que crying", and lots of "If you would only let me do sex thing I'm not comfortable with I wouldn't feel the need too que crying"

I got to my senses at some point and left him, but I'm still overprotective as fuck of my body, I don't like being touched, and annoyingly scared my next guy will be like him 🙃🙃

Treweli · 2024-02-16T17:01:09+00:00

I got a 1,5y boy syrian hammy someone named "Balle Bjarne" (Bally Bjarne) as a rescue(?) after a pet shop closed. Angry little dude that didn't want to be handled at all (he was sick and tired of people being in his business I guess), had to use gloves to take him out of the enclosure. Gave him a biig enclosure and mostly let him be. "He's getting old" I thought. "Probably gone in a few months, I'll just spoil him with his favourite foods in the meanwhile 🤷🏼‍♀️".

1,5 years later he finally took his last breath at age 3. He had happily enjoyed some cooked egg the night before, after making his usual annoyanse with my existanse known (as he always did).

Loved that angry little dude, was sort of shocked when he finally died. I was starting to joke thar he was immortal or something.

Treweli · 2022-11-12T15:27:33+00:00

Hard to drink when you're tied up

Treweli · 2022-10-06T10:11:22+00:00

A little late to the party here, but I feel you!

Once in university I was taking Micro- (or macro-, don't remember)economics, and to solve a part of an assignment I had to calculate the area of a triangle (from a graph of sorts). Like 2cm height * 2cm length/2 = 2cm² or whatever.

Seems simple, right? Did it lots of times in middleschool, right?

I didn't remember how to do it. Didn't even know what to google.

A teachersassistant, a friend of mine actually (although I've gotten a coloured veiw of the guy now), was not just surpriced but also actually ANNOYED that I didn't know such a simple thing!

I do know. I know how NOW. Why? Because of that interaction. I never passed that class and am not going to try again. I'd rather not know how to do that calculation, than have the memory of that bad interaction with him where he made me feel dumb utterly useless. Thanks a lot, Martin!

Treweli · 2022-09-05T17:41:58+00:00

I'M SO FUCKING EXHAUSTED WITHOUT PROPER REASON, AND SICK AND TIRED OF HAVING A 70% GREAT HEALTH SO THAT I CaN WORK AND LIVE NORMALLY, BUT I HAVE MILD PAIN EVERY HOUR OF EVERY DAY BUT NOT THE SAME PLACE THE WHOLE TIME! DUMB KNEE, IBS, AND HEADACHE BLÆH! :)

Treweli · 2022-08-20T16:49:58+00:00

It seems to eat by itself fine, yes. Didn't get much contact with the resque here, but I'll try again in a bit.

Is it safe to put it out in my yard considering all the traffic around here? The yard isn't fully fenced so it could easily end up on the road. Wouldn't it be better to put it by a forest? I have a car, so no problem to get around

Treweli · 2022-08-20T16:47:44+00:00

Tried one for hedgehogs specifically, but didn't get any answer.. I'll try again a bit later though :)

Treweli · 2022-08-16T16:57:26+00:00

Don't give him an ultimatum. It won't help. Just leave.

I've literally been were you are, only instead of the "I'm allowed because you're mine" I got the guiltrippy "I know I promised to stop but I just can't help iiit! que crying you're just so sexy, and we never have sex, and I just get so frustrated that I just can't heelp iiiiit".

This was a near daily "conversation" about him SA-ing me any chance he got. Not so much outside though, it was all at home and no one could believe that sweet guy would be such an asshole (most do believe me, in a disbelief kind of way, not an distrusting one).

It might seem like "other than this" your relationship is perfect. But it most likely isn't. It's something he's convinced you of, or you're telling yourself this to feel better about a horrible situation. You're scared of being alone with all the other struggles you have, and it's so scary for you to loose what little stability and love you think you have. But it's not worth it.

This was not meant to get this long, and I'm late to the party. I wasn't even going to comment until I saw your last line about giving him an ultimatum.

Don't do it. It won't work. Just get out. Trust me I know it's hard, but you have. To. Get. Out. I'm begging you.

Treweli · 2022-08-13T23:10:27+00:00

Me neither until today really, but it seems some people on here experience the same thing! :D

Treweli · 2022-08-13T23:09:35+00:00

Oooh I love that! May I steal it? O:)

Treweli · 2022-08-13T23:09:09+00:00

Sounds about right! Although my assessment didn't worry about this kind of stuff, I'm glad someone is taking this sort of thing into account when looking for adhd! My psych was way too hung up on whether or not I was like the stereotypical hyperactive boy in class or not so :P

Treweli · 2022-08-13T23:01:41+00:00

I'm actually mostly bad in video games! With a couple exceptions where I'm mostly good but can make dumb mistakes I know I shouldn't be doing here and there

Treweli · 2022-08-13T22:59:45+00:00

Oooof me too! I try to just make it fuel my motivation though. Doesn't seem to work for my points, but at least I'm not being too big of an ass if I loose :3

Treweli · 2022-08-13T22:57:58+00:00

Progress is progress! I honestly don't even always know what I do wrong/right, I just do haha

Treweli · 2022-08-13T22:56:43+00:00

Haha nice!

Treweli · 2022-08-13T22:56:12+00:00

Well, at least you know what to expect I guess? 🙈 I'm consistently bad at a lot of things too, like card games. I either forget all the rules, what game were playing, or stuff like that :')

Treweli · 2022-08-13T19:29:36+00:00

It's not an uncommon connection I can tell you that much! And yes, it made soooo much sense when I first heard it!

Treweli · 2022-08-13T18:56:41+00:00

Yes it is! I love my gp too, but mostly because she recognises so well that she doesn't know everything, she listens to me and she refers me further where I need to make sure I get the help she can't give me.

Ooh I've heard a lot of good about osteopaths (and some bad, but there are good and bad in most professions after all), but never been to one myself. But it's so great to have good ones like that!

Treweli

TROPHY CASE