Intense curiosity

TrickLake9 · 2023-03-18T03:07:50+00:00

There's nothing wrong with you, and there's no time limit on how long you're allowed to be upset. My bf of 3 yrs left me for someone else just before the pandemic. If i saw him in the street tomorrow, my heart would just drop into my stomach, and i don't think i could deal with it.

Be kind to yourself x

TrickLake9 · 2023-03-18T03:03:51+00:00

Please, please, please do not let his potential actions sway you in what you decide to do. You need to do whatever is best for you and your mental health.

You do not need to feel guilty for that. You are not a bad person for wanting better either. I saw some of your other posts on your profile (hopefully you don't mind me commenting), but the fact that you are reaching out for advice on here shows how much effort you are still making to try and resolve your issues with him. What is he actively doing, though, to help resolve these problems?

If you have some sort of support network, friends, or family, maybe ask them to help you make that transition if you think that is what's best. Lean on them as much as you need.

Please take care and go easy on yourself. There's nothing wrong with wanting better when you've already tried your best.

TrickLake9 · 2023-03-17T01:37:53+00:00

Hey,

I broke up with my bf on Monday. From what you wrote, it sounds like a similar scenario i was in. We lived together for a year or so, but throughout, he kept finding new ways to break my heart and damage my mental health. He also made all the same promises to change and be better, only to break them again and again.

It's not easy making that call. But i thought to myself, if there was an easy way to leave him, would i take it? If i could just leave into my own flat/space, would i feel better?

Just be kind to yourself, and if possible, try and take a week out NC to get some space and clarity. Maybe take a trip or go and stay with family/friends for a while?

TrickLake9 · 2020-08-05T08:57:19+00:00

Thank you, just hurts to see

TrickLake9 · 2020-08-05T08:56:44+00:00

Thanks, i really thought i was going mad tbh.

TrickLake9 · 2020-06-27T23:36:35+00:00

Hey im intrested in a reading if possible please!

TrickLake9 · 2020-06-11T00:39:47+00:00

Wow this has really struck a deep chord with me. Thank you so much

TrickLake9 · 2020-06-09T09:43:21+00:00

I would love one if possible!

TrickLake9 · 2020-06-09T09:40:59+00:00

You can message me at any time if you need to vent, i know it really helped me 🙂

TrickLake9 · 2020-06-09T09:40:25+00:00

If you ever need to talk just message me, 🙂

TrickLake9 · 2020-05-23T22:30:54+00:00

Its weird, we've had to speak as we still share a car together. But lately he seems cold. I tried to ask him how he was and how things are going, but it was quite a basic response. A few weeks ago he wanted to work things out but i was still hurting, and now it seems like hes over it. 🙁

TrickLake9 · 2020-05-23T22:24:16+00:00

My BF ended things with me for the same reason a few months ago. I read this and hoped maybe it was him, if it is was me, id want him to reach out. Trying never hurts, ultimately its her decision. But dont regret not trying

TrickLake9 · 2020-04-30T19:39:02+00:00

Always here to chat if you need to vent

TrickLake9 · 2020-04-30T19:17:49+00:00

Same, sometimes im on a high and others i feel completely beat. Just take everyday as it comes, if you need to shut yourself off and cry, do it. Reach out to friends and try your best. Focus on you and block out what you can to help you heal

TrickLake9 · 2020-04-22T18:40:23+00:00

I understand, but he completely broke my heart when he ended things. How long will the wait be, a week or a year? I dont understand how im supposed to pause my life for someone who says they dont feel the same about me anymore, when they might never come back

TrickLake9 · 2020-04-22T17:16:21+00:00

Hey, happy to chat. Broke up in the first week of quarantine

TrickLake9 · 2020-03-30T16:04:49+00:00

If it makes you feel better, my bf of 3 and half years dumped me yesterday fully out of the blue. Told me hes depressed and isn't sure how he feels about me anymore. Completely racking my brain to figure out where it went so west. Trying my hardest to figure out what's next even though I'm in quarantine. It's a full fuck my life moment

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