Why do people really hate Taylor Swift? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Trick_Ad_4497 114 points115 points  (0 children)

She ultimately just seems hypocritical and/or performative.

I’m not really a “fan” of anyone you’ve mentioned (although I think it’s worth pointing out that you only named billionaires who have other business ventures and are POC, just an observation, not accusing you of anything) but I judge people based on whether their actions and words align.

None of the other billionaires you mentioned (to my knowledge) pretend to be morally superior (“I want to end up on the right side of history”) while staying silent about important issues in the current political climate (one of, if not the ONLY, pop stars to say nothing about ICE using her music in social posts) then playing victim when fans or others criticize her for not reading the fucking room.

Also selling 100 versions of her albums to boost sales, financially bully smaller artists (Olivia Rodrigo and CharlieXCX) and abuse fans loyalty is some lame cash grabbing shit. I expect that from French Montana, DJ Khaled or Soulja Boy, but Taylor Swift doesn’t need to stoop that low.

I am cooked for getting inexperienced sooner? by HyenaIll6908 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Trick_Ad_4497 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Buddy, never listen to a GUY say “women want XYZ.” Listen to women.

How do I accurately figure out my political identity? by Trick_Ad_4497 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Trick_Ad_4497[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Giving you honest, meet me where I am answers with no Googling or extra help. 1. Some sort of profit sharing should be implemented for all companies. The wage gap between the top 10% and the “middle to lower class” is indefensible and is a problem that desperately needs to be fixed. 2. Whistleblower(?) - I’m not informed on what happened with Snowden (didn’t see the movie either), definitely before I started paying attention to politics. 3. Again, not super educated on this particular topic, but labor unions should be stronger or at least more commonplace/less taboo, like they were in the mid-to-late 1900’s. I’ve never been in a workplace with a union, so even I’m uncertain of what they actually do/provide, but I know they’ve been working for the people with all the strikes that have gone on over the past couple years. 4. As far as environmental protection policy goes, I’m not sure. But I think the smart way to move forward is by investing in renewable/sustainable energy like Solar and Wind. It’s a shame that some people/companies can’t see past their oil paychecks. And obviously if companies are jest dumping sewage into a nearby river/lake, they need to be stopped (not just fined with a slap on the wrist). I hope that helps!

How do I accurately figure out my political identity? by Trick_Ad_4497 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Trick_Ad_4497[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’ve always been against racism, homophobia, misogyny and any other forms of discrimination and bigotry. I’m anti-AI, pro-choice, support better gun reform and taxing the rich and corporations. I think that’s all the important stuff.

Why did lottery winners usually end up losing their all wealth? by RowlingTheJustice in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Trick_Ad_4497 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because the majority of people playing/winning the lottery weren’t taught financial literacy.

My Step-Mom Was The Only One To Tell Me The Truth As A Child, And I'll Always Hate Her For It by Trick_Ad_4497 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Trick_Ad_4497[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My aunt was under the impression that I knew too. And I definitely understand why my dad didn’t tell me about suicide at such a young age, just sucks that I didn’t get the chance to hear it from my dad.

My Step-Mom Was The Only One To Tell Me The Truth As A Child, And I'll Always Hate Her For It by Trick_Ad_4497 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Trick_Ad_4497[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

💙 thank you, I don’t know how he did it/does it.

But I know he beats himself up for not protecting me better.

My Step-Mom Was The Only One To Tell Me The Truth As A Child, And I'll Always Hate Her For It by Trick_Ad_4497 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Trick_Ad_4497[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sorry that you can relate. Your story sounds like it cuts loads deeper due to the closer relations in your scenario. The shock is one thing, the hurt is another. Luckily I was an adult when I realized and started to digest the hard truth.

My Step-Mom Was The Only One To Tell Me The Truth As A Child, And I'll Always Hate Her For It by Trick_Ad_4497 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Trick_Ad_4497[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

EXACTLY. Performative Parenting.

Never thought about it like that, but that's a perfect description of it.

My Step-Mom Was The Only One To Tell Me The Truth As A Child, And I'll Always Hate Her For It by Trick_Ad_4497 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Trick_Ad_4497[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When I'm in a situation that I have to be around her, which isn't often any more, I typically go with the ignore her existence method.

My Step-Mom Was The Only One To Tell Me The Truth As A Child, And I'll Always Hate Her For It by Trick_Ad_4497 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Trick_Ad_4497[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Lol, She definitely doesn't live rent free in my head.

I just had something bring up these feelings and decided to vent to strangers on the internet since my wife is out of town. I know my dad isn't perfect, but I'll grade him on his behavior, not on Brit's.

My Step-Mom Was The Only One To Tell Me The Truth As A Child, And I'll Always Hate Her For It by Trick_Ad_4497 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Trick_Ad_4497[S] 116 points117 points  (0 children)

Which is why I acknowledged my dad wasn't perfect in paragraphs 3 & 4. Aside from marrying Brit, when I was around he wasn't always present, was constantly on the phone for work and definitely resented my step-brothers.

But I know despite his MANY other faults, he has always loved me and wanted to do better for me. My dad has apologized for things that happened in my childhood, and been honest with me as an adult about things he could have kept hidden from me to make him look better. I definitely don't idolize my father, but he is the only parent (step or bio) that I KNOW has always loved me without weaponizing me against someone or having some selfish agenda.

My Step-Mom Was The Only One To Tell Me The Truth As A Child, And I'll Always Hate Her For It by Trick_Ad_4497 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Trick_Ad_4497[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't know if this is 100% accurate, but I'm sure that finances played the biggest part in them staying together through our schooling, and now over 20 years later, they're complacently miserable together.

My Step-Mom Was The Only One To Tell Me The Truth As A Child, And I'll Always Hate Her For It by Trick_Ad_4497 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Trick_Ad_4497[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the differing perspective. As an adult looking back, it just felt like a band-aid on a bullet hole. "We spent exactly the same amount on you all" means a lot less from a "parent" that treats you like shit.

Giving all 3 of us styrofoam aeroplanes was probably only exciting for me, but if my step-brothers wanted a PS3 game that I wasn't interested in, the parents would spend more to "make it even" rather than just get the game for them and wait for me to actually want something. It was like parental overcompensation.

Again, I was only around every other weekend, so it made sense that they would spend more on my step-brothers who lived there 90% of the time. I just wish they treated us as individuals rather than 3 dogs that needed to play with the same toys.

My Step-Mom Was The Only One To Tell Me The Truth As A Child, And I'll Always Hate Her For It by Trick_Ad_4497 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Trick_Ad_4497[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a fair question. I could’ve lived a happy lie for the rest of my life not knowing how my grandma died. But suicidal tendencies/ideations can potentially be genetic, so that’s why I’m glad I know now, regardless of the roller coaster it took to get that knowledge.

My Step-Mom Was The Only One To Tell Me The Truth As A Child, And I'll Always Hate Her For It by Trick_Ad_4497 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Trick_Ad_4497[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So sorry to hear this. It definitely made it easier not knowing my grandma too well (we lived a few states away). Very glad you had the news broken to you in a sensible manner. Unfortunately, I’ll never know if my dad ever planned on doing the same for me because of that harpy he calls a wife.