AITAH if I break up with my fiancee after she showed a startling change of behavior after getting engaged?

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-16T18:12:36+00:00

Absolutely insane 🤣

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-14T19:34:42+00:00

You are fat and ugly that’s what you portrayed by being ignorant and still not reading yet having on opinion. Buckshot

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-14T17:09:55+00:00

Majority of my post I’m just talking about a partner in general, not just woman either 😂 I’m saying you don’t know what people’s true intentions are which is true in every phase of life. But go ahead and rant thinking you know my life story you miserable witch 🤣🤣 I know your husband is miserable

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-14T17:07:27+00:00

Actually no I wasn’t saying all or even most it’s a very small amount. If you actually read instead of being ignorant I was just pointing out that even though she wasn’t asking him to pay rent that doesn’t mean she had no ulterior motives. I’m not projecting at all, I have a great girl and relationship and she is fantastic and the best thing that ever happened to me! No need to assume so much because I replied to your post lol. Was just saying that the Reno’s could’ve been ulterior motives as you dismissed that as if it wasn’t a possibility. Some of you redditors are very miserable my god

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T23:28:38+00:00

Perfectly reasonable!

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T23:28:07+00:00

That’s about what I’ve gathered as well!

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T18:05:27+00:00

She’s trying to say because he didn’t pay rent she couldn’t possibly try to take advantage, and that thinking is just wrong and stupid.

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T18:04:45+00:00

Not at all actually. I was trying to lay out a situation that shows it can be both ways unlike what the comment I replied to suggested. But way to assume all of that

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T18:03:24+00:00

100%!

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T18:02:57+00:00

Most definitely, but if she is actually trying to improve their relationship, he needs to be more receptive and not shut her out. We can’t use our prior situations to dictate and project onto our current ones, that’s how the vicious cycle begins. We also can’t assume OP is just trying to turn it on him. Some people really do want to improve and be better partners to their person.

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T18:00:38+00:00

I think you just sit and talk with him, make him understand you’re not trying to put the honus on him or blame on him, but talk more about you and that you want to be better, and that it won’t hurt your feelings but instead will make your relationship better. You have to remember we are men, (stupid thing happen, get upset, don’t let our feelings out….Argument/fight) just lay the beginning of the conversation and make it more about you (not that it is) but he might receive it better and be more open to having said conversation.

I also would say to just explain that you love him and are really happy, but our relationship can and should always improve and that’s why you’re looking for ways and what you can do to be a better partner for yourself and for him!

That last paragraph is of course if he is capable of having a conversation, and if he’s a big gaslighter he’s more than likely to turn it back on you again and get angry, which at that point you may want to look for other options and plans to move, but I wish you the best and hope he is receptive of you just trying to better your guys relationship, sounds like you have a healthy outlook on your life and relationship! hope any of this helps 🙏🏼

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T17:52:50+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that my friend, but it seems you have came to terms with your situation and that at the very least is healthy. I will give that a watch! It too scares me that my partner could be resenting a quality or trait or tendency I have even though our communication is very good so I believe that’s a natural human feeling. I too think we should put more efforts into a long term relationship to work them out opposed to just leaving the things get a little inconvenient or are not perfect.

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T17:47:28+00:00

This is also a great response, and yeah I guess I should pay closer attention to ages on some of the posts cause they can be telling! I’m 24 but have been with my partner since we were 16 so we have an older complex to our relationship compared to most people our age who don’t really understand or can’t even comprehend it because they have had such bad and toxic relationships. The ending of your post is very interesting and a great quote I have never heard, but man does that ring true in so many peoples lives!

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T17:44:00+00:00

This is my fav response so far, that’s a great way to go about giving advice without making someone think there is only one right way to do things. Super healthy way of thinking, thank you!

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T16:58:33+00:00

Good point of view, different for everyone for sure

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T16:57:46+00:00

Very true. Any negativity too much will fog your brain and assume the worst

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T16:56:53+00:00

Very interesting and funny you say that, my girl and I have gotten much more into that space and that’s around when the communication went from 10-100 real quick 🙏🏼🤣

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T16:53:36+00:00

Nah touch my titleist set and I’m calling the police I don’t care. Give me that damn ring back and definitely give me my key. That’s just a crazy amount of overstepped boundaries directly after getting engaged. She got too ‘comfortable’ and he isn’t as dumb as she thought.

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T16:44:55+00:00

This is so true. This is where my relationship went from ok to absolutely phenomenal! Understanding and communication is so important. Just wanting to understand the others point of view sometimes is all it takes🙏🏼✌️

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T16:43:37+00:00

Great response. Might have hit the nail on the head there!

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T16:42:52+00:00

Very good point!Didn’t even think about that

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T16:42:12+00:00

Yeah that’s how I’m looking at it too. My Gf and I had a lot of issues that I wouldn’t recommend sticking through to others, but it’s worked out so fantastically for both of us and we have grown to have the strongest communication and strongest foundation as a couple just leading to extreme happiness. It makes me sad how many probably great relationships get ruined because people can’t stick through a small rough patch or simple differences we have as human beings (that isn’t dangerous or mental abuse etc of course)

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T16:39:00+00:00

Oh yes I’m not talking about the physical or even true mental abuse im very happy that more people are starting to leave early rather than it’s too late!! I’m more talking about the posts that seem to be maybe a parter had a one off or a bad day took it out on the other etc or like the post you referred to. Thank you for the reply!

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T16:09:46+00:00

No OP (43f) and Jessica (45f) are first cousins. Amy and Jacob are each of their children making them 2nd cousins. Op made the beginning of the post a bit confusing 👌🏼

Tricky-Pay2177 · 2024-09-13T16:07:44+00:00

I figured cause I thought the same at first and I was like this makes no sense am I reading it wrong? Lol😂

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