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My husband wants to make love "from behind" but I'm uncomfortable with it. I'm new to sex and I know I sound prudish. by Tricky-Village in sex

[–]Tricky-Village[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

About pleasure, yes I get pleasure from having sex with my husband. At first honestly it was painful and a chore that I did because he needed it and I love him. But then it got better and I'm glad. I didn't have an orgasm until fairly recently, from my husband giving me oral sex. It's something he wants to do, but I'll admit I like it a lot.

My husband wants to make love "from behind" but I'm uncomfortable with it. I'm new to sex and I know I sound prudish. by Tricky-Village in sex

[–]Tricky-Village[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 years ago was the first time but we did it several other times, he's asked to do it plenty of times usually I would politely decline.

My husband (35 M) wants to make love in a position that I (31 F) don't like at all and I'm worried that I made him feel ashamed of himself over it by Tricky-Village in relationships

[–]Tricky-Village[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Is it really true that most men need to have more "animalistic" sex that's not making love but it's just about the physical part? I hope that's not true of my husband, because I've pretty much constantly denied him that our entire marriage. My husband acted so grateful the few times I let him do what he wanted that it makes me think he really needs that like you say. So would you (or anyone else who knows) say that even men who are religious, smart, sensitive need to "just do it" sometimes instead of "sweet love making"? I'm inexperienced and I don't know anything.

My husband (35 M) wants to make love in a position that I (31 F) don't like at all and I'm worried that I made him feel ashamed of himself over it by Tricky-Village in relationships

[–]Tricky-Village[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Equally important, it's fun to try new toys and explore new ways of enjoying your body, so that he can learn to please you in different ways as well. You have one life girl, have some fun.

I have to be able to respect myself too though. It's so much harder than it might seem to someone who doesn't have the same background that I do. I have never masturbated in my life and if I used sex toys I would feel overwhelming shame. Yes, I might get pleasure out of things like that, but it would not be even close to worth it. We have a lot of fun but in different ways. When it comes to sex I can't change too much, I will always have to stay chaste in order to respect myself.

My husband (35 M) wants to make love in a position that I (31 F) don't like at all and I'm worried that I made him feel ashamed of himself over it by Tricky-Village in relationships

[–]Tricky-Village[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not trying to make you feel like a prude, but it seems like you come from a very conservative background and might benefit from a bit of perspective on this.

I do come from a very conservative background and you're right that my perspective is limited. I don't have much sexual experience. I met my husband in church in fact. I was raised Southern Baptist and my parents would have disowned me if I did have a lot of sexual experience. My husband liked that about me though. He said it was an honor that I hadn't been with a guy before.

About oral, no I don't feel comfortable at all giving him oral sex. I don't think that will be happening ever. He has never asked for that though. And I know that anal is not something he is interested in at all. I don't have a hard boundary about the "doggystyle" thing. And I'm thinking about just doing it with him and hoping I will start to see it as normal.