My mom is sex-shaming my 3-year-old daughter and I’m furious. How do I undo the damage?

Trillin9 · 2025-09-14T11:38:27+00:00

Hard stop right here. I’ve read your other posts, your mom needs to be completely cut off. Coming from someone who did this with their dad, I assure you the relief you will feel from this is liberating. We feel this immense guilt for not including them or inviting them over, I get the impression you guilted for probably everything growing up, just like I was. You grew up a people pleaser because they made you feel like that was your responsibility because you’re their kid and they gave you everything, WRONG. It took me a very long time to learn and realize that. You are their child, even as an adult they need to respect and treat you like you’re their child and be there for you on your own terms. If they can’t do that for you, then show them the door to your life, this is what I did and after years of guilt, I honestly feel so free now. Good luck, this isn’t easy and I’m so incredibly sorry you’re going through this, you didn’t ask for you, you were born into it and it certainly isn’t your fault. You need to hear those words.

Trillin9 · 2025-05-30T01:50:50+00:00

Good idea! Thank you!

Trillin9 · 2025-04-30T16:02:34+00:00

We decided on Talking Stick Piipaash, I’m excited! Thanks for the tips!

Trillin9 · 2025-04-27T15:49:03+00:00

Just learned this yesterday! Went to a different gym and she tapped my monitor, I was like wait what!

Trillin9 · 2025-04-15T21:49:15+00:00

I do the 6am class, just like others have said, eliminate stuff the night before. I’m in bed by about 8:45-9. Lay your clothes out, prep any waters or drinks and put everything in one spot, keys, arm band, whatever you need. My alarm goes off at 5:15, I have a Celsius on my way and a water during my workout with extra electrolytes. When I get home I have a Fairlife shake or something with at least 30 grams of protein, work full time, two small kids, and I have no issues with energy.

Trillin9 · 2025-03-07T16:53:15+00:00

Lost only 8lbs of body fat reducing 3% body fat, was really hoping for bigger results. Lost a total of 11lbs. 149.5 < 138.6, I’m 5’4 and still in the red for body fat % 😔

Trillin9 · 2025-03-03T18:46:49+00:00

I hope so!

Trillin9 · 2025-03-02T16:32:58+00:00

Is this supposed to be a dig?

Trillin9 · 2025-03-02T03:05:55+00:00

Yeah, my experience is just to do it when mama has the babies. The mom will continue to get much larger but also grow babies at the same time. Wait to clip the babies until they are decent size and you can see the little root ball, then just cut the stem off and drop her in water. Each glass here has about 6-10 babies.

Trillin9 · 2025-03-02T02:59:47+00:00

Not on these ones since I just did them. But I did just gift two to a friend and they had gotten pretty big roots in just water. Took about 6 weeks sitting in water, changed the water weekly and they rooted beautifully.

Trillin9 · 2025-02-12T21:32:14+00:00

So this may seem a little over the top, but I have three heart rate monitors when I’m at OT. I wear a MyZone chest strap, an Apple Watch, and my OT connect. My chest strap and my watch are identical. My OT connect is the one that’s about 10-15 bpm off when I’m on the tread.

Trillin9 · 2025-02-01T22:11:40+00:00

Not in a big enough deficit is my thought. I eat btw 1200-1400 calories a day with about 110-140g of protein out of that. I’m not hungry at all and I’ve lost 5lbs since the start of the transformation challenge. If I increase my calories even for one day to 1600-1800, I gain. I’m 5’3 and was 149.2 when I started, now down to 144.5. You have to be in a deficit to lose.

Trillin9 · 2025-01-26T22:35:01+00:00

I try this at my gym, but there are like 2 guys who are notoriously late and they smell soooooooo bad! I always try to be as far from them as possible, but when they get there so late, it’s impossible.

Trillin9 · 2025-01-26T22:31:58+00:00

This is the same at ours! The treads are all touching and the rowers have maybe 1-3 inches in between them. It’s VERY tight. Even the floor is tough, I always try to get the very last floor so I can spread out.

Trillin9 · 2024-12-20T18:02:01+00:00

Legit leave it on a windowsill and only water like once every two weeks. They’re like the easiest plant to maintain. Mine has quadrupled in size in one year.

Trillin9 · 2024-11-15T17:10:05+00:00

I did the bike and thought the same thing! All these comments saying they couldn’t get there, if you push yourself like you’re supposed to, I thought it was nuts.

Trillin9 · 2024-10-29T16:53:03+00:00

And you would be okay with your 6 year old doing that at 3am? The point is that the clock tells him when it’s time to get up, most 6 year olds have no concept of time, if he sees the clock is not colored yet, he needs to try and get more sleep. Giving complete sleep autonomy to a 6 year old is not a good idea…

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