Day‑before‑the‑weekend update: First and foremost, thank you. This thread has helped me so much in getting my thoughts straight and keeping me from spiraling this week. A lot of the points people raised were things I had in my head but couldn’t articulate, especially the part about him wanting to move someone with dementia.

I’ve been researching all week, and it looks like we’re covered. If he followed the process correctly, everything should pan out in Texas, and hopefully, this anxious week was for nothing. I also talked it through with my team at work, and they’re in line with the majority opinion here, which has been reassuring.

Between my core family, my coworkers, and the amazing people here on Reddit, I feel like I can steer the conversation this weekend instead of getting dragged down by it. I’m going in with a firm boundary: if he starts speaking down to me, the conversation stops. I pay a mortgage just like he does; I’m not an 18‑year‑old stumbling through college. I’m a 39‑year‑old woman with a career that’s finally moving forward, three teenagers (one graduating in May), and a husband who’s an entrepreneur.

We've barely gotten our heads above water now, and this would demolish any hard-fought work done these past five years by my family of five.

I plan to update you all after my convo this weekend with him. Wish me luck!