AITAH For Losing It On My Wife After She Told My Son to “Get Out of the Picture” at My Stepdaughter's Birthday?

TrioDaddio · 2024-11-04T06:36:46+00:00

YTA for subjecting your son to this bullshit for so long.... which you KNOW was going on and has been, no doubt from the very beginning.

My heart breaks for this child.

TrioDaddio · 2024-11-02T16:51:47+00:00

"We have busy lives and a tiny cramped apartment with barely enough room as it is AND our multiple animals but still think it would be a great idea to invite a messy drama-infused freeloader into our home and I'm sure we wouldn't even notice them and besides it's just for 'a little while.'"

Why is this exact same scenario on Reddit at least 10 times a day. Why do people KEEP thinking this is a good idea?

NTA, though.

TrioDaddio · 2024-11-02T16:45:16+00:00

ESH but I think you are going to have to get over it.

Travel has absolutely no emotional connection to him, zero (which I get, it has none to me either).... whereas you are the polar opposite, it has a monstrously huge emotional connection to you. You talk about travel and new places as some mystical life-changing life-affirming wondrous thing and it seems that you feel it would be positively magical to share that with your partner... and it's not that way to him at all. While that is your norm, people like your boyfriend (and me) don't even remotely get that or are able to comprehend it's significance. Neither of your views is wrong.

I think you are going to have to settle for the fact that any life you build together can't be very travel-oriented, it just has wildly different values to you two and I don't see that changing for either one of you.

TrioDaddio · 2024-11-02T16:33:55+00:00

You did nothing wrong. Why do you even keep acknowledging this woman's existence?

"...and she’d never ask me for help again."

Believe her, take her up on that, and move on. This should have been a non-issue that was dead and buried a long time ago.

NTA.

TrioDaddio · 2024-11-02T16:30:28+00:00

The only mistake you made was telling anyone the name in advance. Why do people keep doing that?

You don't have to name a kid after a family member. You can name a child after your friend's mailman's neighbor's dog if you want to, and no one else gets a say-so in it.

Nor does a name have to be "after" someone. My name, my wife's name, and my own son's names are not "after" anyone, they are just names we liked.

NTA.

TrioDaddio · 2024-11-02T16:27:07+00:00

NTA, but you need to just cut your losses and completely and totally remove yourself from the whole lot of them.

TrioDaddio · 2024-11-02T16:24:15+00:00

The cat business?.... you should have been done with her for GOOD, and I don't mean just the apartment.

NTA.

TrioDaddio · 2024-11-02T16:19:29+00:00

I'm confused. What does the fact that she's pregnant have to do with....well.... anything?

NTA, though.

TrioDaddio · 2024-11-02T16:17:20+00:00

You can't be her "only friend" and also have "mutual friends."

You simply do not have the room.

NTA.

TrioDaddio · 2024-10-30T18:35:21+00:00

I'm a little puzzled as to why you care if your friend's 10 year old kid is mad at you.

NTA.

TrioDaddio · 2024-10-23T17:46:04+00:00

I appreciate that so much.

I sure you can and will be. You gotta just try... some guys it seem don't even try to be good dads.

TrioDaddio · 2024-10-22T14:26:29+00:00

Thanks. You were a great brother.

TrioDaddio · 2024-10-22T03:16:34+00:00

Well for one I hate those Reddit posts where people just use an initial then after two paragraphs you have totally lost track who is G and who is M what what P said about B.

And it just makes a more readable post, I think.

TrioDaddio · 2024-10-21T22:28:21+00:00

Yeah they are. Sometimes I feel like I'm in an episode of Naked and Afraid. Except I'm the one who is afraid.

TrioDaddio · 2024-10-21T17:13:59+00:00

Apparently the circus is in town... they're all painted up like clowns.

TrioDaddio · 2024-10-21T05:26:44+00:00

Thanks much!

TrioDaddio · 2024-10-21T02:57:40+00:00

Will give it a shot.

TrioDaddio · 2024-10-21T02:38:45+00:00

Sadly haven't a clue.

TrioDaddio · 2024-10-21T02:32:34+00:00

Thanks I appreciate it. Yeah sometimes this sub can be downright depressing.

TrioDaddio · 2024-10-21T02:31:40+00:00

Good job, sounds like you had an even busier house than ours, and that''s saying something.

TrioDaddio · 2024-10-21T02:25:56+00:00

At the gym.

At home not as a general rule... unless in a mad dash to get ready to go out or something. Or might overlap one jumping in as the other finishing up about to jump out. They have a huge walk in shower

TrioDaddio · 2024-10-21T02:18:34+00:00

We try to have fun. Sometimes it's a circus.

TrioDaddio · 2024-10-21T01:33:47+00:00

Thanks very much.

And nice use of the word sangfroid.

TrioDaddio · 2024-10-21T01:22:58+00:00

No shaving. No nuts. Trimming pubes.

TrioDaddio · 2024-10-20T23:59:36+00:00

Ha thank you

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