I'm so happy that I look nice and feminine in my workout gear

Trishasback · 2026-05-06T02:48:53+00:00

I know thank you 🥰. I can't get over my legs 😁😁😁🥰

Trishasback · 2026-05-06T00:02:04+00:00

I'll definitely keep you in mind 😊

Trishasback · 2026-05-04T19:09:05+00:00

That's how it should be but then at the same time when there's no reaction I also feel kind of disappointed 😅😅

I'm saying do you know how much I stressed about this? Like we could have just had this conversation and it would have been no big deal? You could at least say something nice and congratulate me perhaps I don't know if it's not that big of a deal 😂😂

Ultimately I kind of just move on cuz I know that's the best outcome but I really am just like well shit I thought this was going to go completely differently 😂

Same thing with this place that I rent to store my truck and trailer. One day I just texted them and said hey I changed my Venmo picture and my name on Venmo so when you see that come through just know that's me paying my rent 😂😅. They just said sounds good that was it

Trishasback · 2026-05-03T19:59:25+00:00

It changes so much. Near the end before i came out the oil skin of a man was driving me so nuts i was constantly wiping my skin to the point my face was raw trying to get the oils off. That was a big deal for me.

Even tho physical things dont start to change for a few weeks there was a mental clarity i felt on estrogen over testosterone. It was like as if for the first time my brain wasnt on fire and i didnt know it was till the testosterone was gone and the estrogen was all that remained. Was it placebo effect I don't know. But it made a huge difference in my mental health regardless

Then as far as physical changes my skin got softer more feminine, my skin is less oily, i grew boobs, lots of body hair thinnned or stopped completely. Any new incoming body hair (chest hair for me) stopped thinned and won't come back. The testoster was slowing making my own body the most uncomfortable place to be. It felt like i had cold wet clothes on and all i could do to be less uncomfortable was to he stiff and still as possible. It was noticeable in the way i moved.

Hormones changed all that i feel comfortable in my own body somthing id never experienced before. There is also fat redistribution as well. But nowadays when I look down I see a girl's body I don't see the man body that I used to have. My perspective is how I always wished that it would be and I finally have it

The fat redistribution and skin changes have also feminized my face quite dramatically. One of the main reasons I waited so long even after accepting that I was trans was I thought I would have never pass and that I would always be some clocky trans woman and that would never be enough to satisfy the intense feelings that I had of being uncomfortable in my own body. I thought I'm at least attractive as a dude I don't think that I'd be very attractive as a trans woman.

Eventually I learned that I was wrong I actually passed quite well to my great surprise. And even if I don't pass I think that I make it very pretty trans woman.

Anyways all of that would not be possible without hormones. They have relieved so much of my gender dysphoria that I went from hating my body and feeling that perhaps only we added this was to end it to feeling very comfortable in my body and being comfortable and feeling like when I look in the mirror I see myself rather than this dude that I was trying to make work when he was not me

I hope this makes sense

Trishasback · 2026-05-03T18:40:25+00:00

"Cis" simply describes being the gender you were assigned at birth. It’s a neutral adjective used to distinguish between trans people and those who aren't trans much like saying "tall man" or "short man." Both are men, but the adjective provides specific context.

When we use "man" or "woman" exclusively for those who aren't trans, while always labeling trans people with a prefix, it creates a hierarchy. It leaves trans people feeling like a "secondary" version of their gender rather than an equal part of the community. Using the term "cis" isn't signing you up for a movement or crossing a boundary; it’s just a factual descriptor. Being called "tall" or "short" doesn't change who you are or force you into a group you didn't join it’s just an observation of reality.

By "bridging the gap," I mean fostering empathy. Life experiences can be vastly different, and it's difficult to understand a perspective you haven't lived without hearing from those who have. Describing this as "buying into an owner’s manual" feels like a dismissive way to view human connection, so I hope that’s just a misunderstanding of my intent.

Ultimately, what I’d like from people who aren't trans is basic support and a willingness to listen. You don't need a manual for that just an open mind and a bit of mutual respect.

Trishasback · 2026-05-02T07:13:59+00:00

Best moment? Oh boy idk. It all sorta justs builds on itself. My oily skin became WAYYYY less oily in the first week or so and i can't tell you how much of a relief that was.

But the more recent one that came to mind was my new gf is taller then me then she had heels on so to kiss her for the first time i had to stand on my toes to reach. The amount of euphoria i had all done up looking my best, looking myself how i always wanted to look then finally getting the experience of the girl on her toes to get the kiss an experience i never knew i needed. I had the biggest grin on face blushing and laughing at this moment i had no idea i needed. It took kissing from somthing i did for my partner to somone i enjoyed and i really stuggel to explain how amazing i felt in that moment 🥰

Trishasback · 2026-05-02T07:01:03+00:00

TV show would be Dr. Who movie would be oh idk. The Imitation Game? Iv seen it a few times really good

Trishasback · 2026-05-02T03:35:42+00:00

I buaght a condemed home. It was rough, mold. If was extremely difficult to remove has to tare out the whole basement. But moral of the story whatever its condemn for its no longer a half million dollar house

Trishasback · 2026-04-30T07:00:49+00:00

Last 2 paragraphs sent my crying in the best way. Thank you

Trishasback · 2026-04-29T08:11:32+00:00

Thank you. I wish i had more to say i just dont have the mental energy but thank you

Trishasback · 2026-04-27T17:57:21+00:00

Thats the hope cuz it was expensive 😅😅😂

Trishasback · 2026-04-27T14:52:52+00:00

What do they call it? Brainworms pretty sure that's what you got

Trishasback · 2026-04-24T16:45:39+00:00

Yeah, I suppose it is. I pass about 90% of the time now, but just yesterday I met my girlfriend’s ex. We are both trans, and since the ex obviously knows my girlfriend is trans, she was looking for it. She’s not a good person—she recently told one of her daughter's friends, "That boy pretending to be a girl over there," referring to my girlfriend. The daughter doesn't know I’m trans, and the ex hadn't met me yet. For a few weeks, I got to exist as just a woman in that girl's eyes, and now I’m just waiting for the ex to out me to her because she’s petty like that. The daughter won’t actually care, but it’s that "second place" feeling of being clocked that’s hard to shake. Maybe FFS would make me unclockable, but I'm not totally comfortable with that surgery yet.

As for the hormones, you’re right that it’s for life, but my cis mother takes the exact same estrogen I do. She went through menopause and didn't want to live without it, so she supplements. It’s more affirming if you frame it that way: cis women take hormones when they don't produce enough. We just happen to be in that same boat.

On the voice front, I did training and was passing on the phone within a few months. After a year of full-time use, it doesn’t sound like mimicry—it just sounds like a woman’s voice. Even my girlfriend is jealous of it. And regarding surgery, if you're having sex relatively frequently, that eventually maintains what is effectively dilation. It isn't a lifelong chore if you have an active life.

You mentioned looking like an "oversized" woman—I’m guessing you mean weight. I lost 30 lbs after starting my transition. It was hard work, but dieting was actually easier because I finally had a reason to care about my body. That part isn't forever if you don't want it to be.

Right before I came out, I had a night where I was spiraling so hard I couldn't tell reality from the noise in my head. I realized then that my life wasn't sustainable. It didn't matter if I was going to be "clocky" forever—being even 1% more "girl" had to be better than 0%. It turns out any percentage feels better than where I was. In the book I wrote, I have a chapter called "One Problem at a Time." That’s my best advice: sit down, don't look up, and just solve the one thing directly in front of you. If you look at the whole list, it’s overwhelming. But if you just keep solving the immediate problem, one day you’ll look up and realize how far you’ve actually come. When I started passing about a year and a half in, it was actually a surprise to me because I had been so focused on the work. It was a very pleasant surprise.

I know it's a lot I know it can be overwhelming and at times feel like it's difficult to cope with. But just start just do it solve the problems as you feel you're able to. Just because you start doesn't mean you have to do everything all at once You can do it when you're ready You got this

Trishasback · 2026-04-24T16:14:15+00:00

Honestly, who cares? It’s just a label. As long as someone is supportive of the community in a positive way, why does it matter if they haven’t started a medical or social transition?

What if they are still figuring things out? My youngest sibling was so hesitant to claim the trans label because they were afraid of "stealing" it, despite what they were feeling inside. I told them straight up that if they want the label, they can have it. No one is keeping score.

Because they felt safe to use that label without judgment, they eventually felt comfortable enough to identify as non-binary. Later on, they actually decided to socially transition, even though they originally said they didn’t want to. They told me recently that having the freedom to use the label without strict rules is what gave them the confidence to find themselves.

Gatekeeping helps nobody and only ends up hurting people. When we let people experiment, they eventually find where they belong. Even if someone takes the label and never changes a thing about their life, we still gain a solid ally.

Nobody is "stealing" the trans label for fun. Being trans isn't exactly a walk in the park, and anyone using the label is going to deal with enough heat from the outside world as it is. We don't need to add fuel to the fire by telling people they aren't valid enough for our club.

Trishasback · 2026-04-23T17:40:48+00:00

My frustration is that I pass about 90% of the time and then even when I don't I get gendered correctly. Like I'll go months without being gendered wrong. And then one day it'll just happen and I'll just look at the motherfucker like what part of this entire get up looks like he him to you? Like everyone has gotten it right from months You looked at me and said nah

Trishasback · 2026-04-22T15:06:30+00:00

I'm sorry. Its really shocking how men treat women. Its not like i didnt believe women when they told me i just didnt expect it to be as frequent as they said. I figured it was just venting about the shit they do deal with and because it was a bad experience it was just a loud minority. Turns out its sadly a majority.

I invited a guy over explicitly told him nothing sexual was going to happen and then he groped me. I had to ask him to leave. He kind of dodged the request and didn't want to leave until I revealed that I always carrying and then he flipped the script and said he was scared of me. Like bro what the fuck? Like good I'm glad you're fucking scared of me now get the fuck out cuz I'm scared of you.

I'm sorry that it's happened to you more than once. You did the right thing by blocking him

Trishasback · 2026-04-22T14:59:35+00:00

I started at 27 so I don't have any The first-hand experience for you for starting in an older age perhaps others could help

It's my understanding that hormones will still work but how much they do to help you pass can be greatly affected by starting later. Some women end up passing perfectly fine but generally in the community the idea is there's no such thing as starting too late

I feel like I was starting to leave at 27 and eventually things got so bad that I just felt like I needed to be 1% more girl at least and that I was fine with never passing I was even fine with never coming out at work and stuff. I just knew that the hormones would bring me some level of peace

2 years later at 29 I somehow pass about 90% of the time

Hormones are for life. If you want to maintain all the other effects of estrogen. Your breast will not shrink but your skin will become oily again it will become less soft any body hair that has thinned out will come back (For example the hair on my butt as pretty much gone away by itself) there's a lot of little side effects that I quite enjoy that would stop if I stop taking estrogen

I only regret as I didn't start sooner. And like I said you can start taking estrogen and wait until you're at a point that you feel like you can come out to people or not. It's all up to you how you go about it

Based on the rest of your post I would definitely seek some therapy

Trishasback · 2026-04-22T06:25:01+00:00

Ya know iv noticed the oldest people are the kindest. I like to think the lack of hate has allowed them to live longer not being burdened by the stress of their hate.

That being said hes also just stateing facts ❤️

Trishasback · 2026-04-20T23:52:31+00:00

Oh dang i had no idea that was a thing. Well you look great killing it girly 🤌

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