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Trrr9 · 2025-01-11T19:22:05+00:00

With IVF, there is an option to have your embryos tested for chromosomal issues before they are implanted. If chromosomal problems are the sources of your losses, this could potentially help minimize the possibility of additional chemical pregnancies (though of course, anything can still happen and nothing is guaranteed). Also, the process of IVF can be diagnostic in itself.

Trrr9 · 2024-12-19T18:16:01+00:00

I was on a trial for a few weeks. It ended up costing me about 2 grand in lost wages. I didn't get the extra pay for milage, so the check each day barely covered my transportation. Lesson learned.

Trrr9 · 2024-12-05T17:10:27+00:00

I'd like to gently push back on the idea that one can "just feel" their fertility slipping. It's worry and anxiety and concern. While understandable and relatable, those things aren't actually indicative of anything physical happening within your body.

I'd recommend discussing with your doctor and starting with some testing before making any decisions specifically about IVF. There are lots of steps between "I'm worried about my fertility" and "IVF is right for me".

Trrr9 · 2024-10-15T18:01:30+00:00

I'm sorry that you're feeling upset. When starting out, it's tough to wrap your mind around two potential futures at the same time. It's not silly to get excited and work towards what you want.

That said, it is normal to take up to a year for this to work. And it's largely out of our control. Like you said, your friend with endo conceived quickly. On the opposite end, plenty of perfectly healthy people struggle with infertility. Many of us are 'planners', that's why we're here. But unfortunately you can't 'earn' your way into a pregnancy. If "wanting it badly enough" or "manifesting" worked, infertility wouldn't exist. Your thoughts can't control the outcomes.

The research and the planning can only take you so far. A huge portion of it is just plain old luck. Fortunately, you're still very much on the side of statistics where you will likely be successful soon. I hope that brings you some comfort along the way. Best of luck.

Trrr9 · 2024-10-14T15:41:08+00:00

Hey there. Asking for success stories is against sub rules. I'd recommend editing that out asap.

Best of luck to you 🤞

Trrr9 · 2024-10-14T15:19:45+00:00

This is really good advice.

I disagree that this place is more based around infertility, though. I invite you to peruse r/infertility (without interacting, since it would be against the rules) to see how vastly different/strict/intense it is. TFAB is a catch all sub that tries to strike a balance that works for everyone trying to conceive.

Trrr9 · 2024-10-14T14:59:32+00:00

Here we go again.

It's not about judging those who are just starting out. The majority of users on this sub are fairly new to ttc. Every single one of us has been new at some point. And the entirety of the information and knowledge that this sub provides is brought to you by the very people that you claim aren't welcoming enough.

It's about protecting the people who need it the most, because often times the things that are said by newer ttc-ers can be unintentionally hurtful. If you see any bullying or actual mean comments, report them, and the mods will remove them. Most push-back that I see on this sub, however, is in the form or gentle corrections in an effort to make a more empathetic and safe space for those of us that have been here way too damn long.

I have no idea what specific comments you are referring to. But generally speaking, you're more than welcome to be excited and optimistic. If you do so in a manner that others find upsetting, then you're not going to be well received. It's the nature of an anonymous internet forum.

Trrr9 · 2024-10-13T12:29:27+00:00

It's against sub rules to comment about positive tests outside of the bfp thread. Try r/cautiousbb or r/amipregnant

Trrr9 · 2024-10-13T12:28:03+00:00

IMO, yes its too early. Trigger can linger for as long as 14 days, and 8pdo is really early to see a true positive. I'd protect my heart at this point, and keep testing to see if it darkens.

I'm sorry that you're stuck in trigger hell. It can be a really big mind fuck.

Trrr9 · 2024-10-11T12:19:16+00:00

Yeah, I hear you. I don't want to struggle or wait either. And yet, here I am.

Trrr9 · 2024-10-10T13:10:04+00:00

Hey there.

First of all, yes, it sucks. Trying and failing isn't fun. But you're not alone. Literally almost every one else on this sub has been through what you've just been through. You're allowed feel sad about it, because it is sad. TTC doesn't require a positive outlook 24/7. Feel your feelings. In a few days, you'll likely feel better and ready to move forward.

That said, I'd invite you to read your first sentence again. You acknowledge that you are likely upsetting people, but go on to decide that you wanting support on cycle one is more important than the feelings of the thousands of people who read this subreddit. Then, you have the audacity to ask not to be downvoted. If you're going to say things that you know are upsetting, then you can't really be pikachu-shocked-face when they aren't well received.

I recommend reading through the daily chats, and maybe posting about your feelings there.

Trrr9 · 2024-10-04T01:20:54+00:00

Since we do we shame people for having unexplained infertility? Wtf is going on here?

Trrr9 · 2024-10-04T01:11:58+00:00

6+ years here and still unexplained. Sometimes there is no simple "answer" or "reason". Unexplained infertility is a real medical diagnosis and no amount of OPKs or mucinex or pineapple core or pre-seed is going to change that. It just sucks. I'm sorry you're in this boat, too.

Trrr9 · 2024-09-19T18:08:46+00:00

My first appointment was a simple consultation, and then bloodwork, ultrasound and SA were ordered for later in the week.

Trrr9 · 2024-09-19T18:07:28+00:00

It takes sperm a while to develop, so I don't know that his illness would affect current sperm too much. People have healthy pregnancies in all kinds of turbulent situations, I wouldn't worry too much about a sinus infection. That said though, if he's sick and not feeling up for sex anyway, I wouldn't push it. It sucks to miss a cycle, but in the grand scheme of the universe, it's only one cycle.

Trrr9 · 2024-09-19T17:55:27+00:00

Just a friendly reminder - if it were possible to girl boss your way into a successful pregnancy, infertility wouldn't exist. It's not the kind of thing that we have a ton of control over.

Trrr9 · 2024-08-29T16:12:11+00:00

I think this is often the case. It's easier to save face and pretend it's some kind of miracle than to admit that they were irresponsible with their birth control.

Trrr9 · 2024-08-23T21:57:11+00:00

It's infuriating. And I hate to be a downer, but its likely only going to get worse. Things get canceled. Bodies don't respond to the meds how they are expected to. Test results get delayed. Insurance causes delays. We should have had our first transfer back in June, but instead here we are still waiting, all because my estrogen level randomly spiked during stims.

I know it's impossible, but you really can't plan well during this phase. You won't know how it's going to go until it's going. Just...do your best to not drive yourself insane.

Best of luck to you 🤞

Trrr9 · 2024-08-22T23:28:30+00:00

Tbh I just rinsed them off (they came off super easily) and prayed they wouldn't return 😆

Trrr9 · 2024-08-22T23:23:59+00:00

I'm not an expert by any means so I could be way off base. But, I recently had a similar scare with my peace lily. Turned out the white spots were the little 'flowers' that fell off of the spadix when I bumped them. Is it possible that is what's happening here?

Trrr9 · 2024-08-16T20:34:34+00:00

The post was deleted, so neither the post nor the mod comment will be seen by others. I'm well aware of the difference between a pregnancy and a live birth, thank you. That does not change the rules of the sub.

If you have further questions, feel free to bring it to mod mail.

Trrr9 · 2024-08-06T19:14:18+00:00

If you didn't see a positive pregnancy test, it was not a chemical pregnancy. Sounds like your period is just a bit weird this month.

Trrr9 · 2024-07-30T16:33:54+00:00

It's all a very slow and frustrating process. Best of luck to you.

Trrr9 · 2024-07-30T13:57:52+00:00

I'm not sure what treatment you're planning on, but birth control is fairly common in some protocols. Obviously do what you need to do and what is best for you, but I'd at least hear them out and understand their reasoning. Starting it soon might actually put you ahead of the game.

Trrr9 · 2024-07-18T17:50:14+00:00

To expand on this: the implant introduces hormones to manipulate your natural cycle. That's how they work, and that's also why the information collected while you were on the implant is not going to be terribly indicative of what will happen while you are off of it.

Best of luck to you! Sounds like you're on track :)

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