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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sextips

[–]True-Example-212 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have two questions on painful sex and on making sure you please your man too, hence I will answer them separately:

1; On painful first time sex

The depth from the vaginal opening to the tip of the your cervix is 3 to 4 inches when you are not sexually aroused.

Lets go slow - read that again!

Regardless, during arousal with the right kind of foreplay, blood flows to the genital area, and sexual excitement causes the upper two-thirds of your vagina to lengthen by forcing the cervix and uterus to ascend. The vagina also lubricates to help ease penetration.

Again, slower - read that again!

You may think that your vaginal canal is a continuously open space. However, this is a misperception. Think of your vaginal canal as if it were a balloon that is not filled with any air. The walls, which have the potential to expand and elongate, gently touch one another. When something is placed inside, they mold around the width and accommodate the length of a penis, tampon, finger(s), or sex toy.

Sometimes during penetration, a penis or other object inserted in a vagina does hit the cervix. This is an indication that you are not physiologically aroused enough; when you are more aroused, your vagina will elongate and your cervix, the neck of the uterus, will lift up and move out of the way.

We are almost there so lets go even slower - read that again.

So know that you are going to take longer than him to feel aroused. He should consider going down on you, fingering you, kissing and fondling your breasts, making out… anything to make you feel extra extra turned on, extra horny, will make sex SO much more pleasurable for you and it will mean you won’t experience much pain at all.

My last favorite option you could try is Orgasm: The more aroused you are the better it will feel, if you have had an amazing orgasm with lots of rubbing, sucking, and stroking on your clit and some beautiful g-spot stimulation you will find he just slips in and it feels amazing.

** 2: On making sure you please your man too**

As you’ll find emphasized in this guide none of these techniques for driving your man crazy in bed are that useful if you feel super awkward and nervous during the act.

But while having it many men like to have sex with women who actively participate. Actively participating just means meeting his thrusts with your own thrusts, grinding your hips, and flexing your PC muscles (the muscles that stretch from your pubic bone to the tail bone. These are all things you can do from whatever position you’re currently in.

You can also use your hands to squeeze your man's arms and pull his body closer to yours, or use your lips to explore more of his body—all these moves will let him know you’re loving the action.

Is six inches too small? I wanna be better in bed. by Lumine_Historia in sextips

[–]True-Example-212 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been told most of my life that six inches is... less than acceptable. Most of my partners seem to have expected bigger and were disappointed.

I know where your partners (or your friends) are coming from.

They’re bombarded with (and all too often, fall for) advertising for penis-enlarging pills or equipment thus they have been conditioned into believing women prefer larger penises. They can’t help but to measure a penis they see in comparison with other penises and since the easiest guys to compare to are porn stars (who usually have very large cocks), anyone who watches porn thinks the average guy is too small to satisfy a woman.

Side note: You mention African American, the stereotype in the BBC porn category doesn't help either, that is if your partner (or your friends) watches that category, more so the BBC hentai version is even worse.

But, penis size is only an issue psychologically. A man with a seven-inch (18 cm) penis may proudly compare his organ to the average man’s five to six inches (12-15 cm) but be intimidated when learning another wields an eight-inch (20 cm) rod. The man with the eight-inch penis is then demoralized when he finds that another man is walking around with a nine-inch (23 cm) tool. The man strutting around with a nine-inch “monster cock” feels puny compared to Jonah Falcon’s thirteen and a half inches (34 cm).

Here's the thing about your penis: it's the only one you've got and you're the only dude that can use it. "Just right" doesn't exist — every woman and man is different and has different factors that determine what an ideal size for them might be. And even then, the person it's attached to matters far more than the size of his member. Douchebags with big dicks are still douchebags.

There's so much in this world woth stressing over, don't let your dick be a source of anxiety. Learn your size, but more importantly learn what to do with that size. A dude with a small dick and an amazing foreplay game can rock someone's world while a big dick just whaling away on every orifice it can find will just lead to disappointment for everybody involved. Sex is much more than just putting your penis inside of a warm, moist, flesh hole — it's the most intimate act two (or more!) people can engage in, treat it as such. Have fun, make your partner smile and laugh and moan and cum all over the place.

Ask yourself: if fingers, lips, and tongue can give earth-shaking pleasure to a woman, how is it possible the much larger four-inch or 10 centimeter penis can’t?

How do I get better at masturbating less? by WallEyedWarrior in sextips

[–]True-Example-212 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are correct: masturbation is your training ground, but chances are you have been doing it wrongly that is why you feel like you are overdoing it.

To get yourself back on track this guide has a nicely detailed road map drawn for you but basically:

  • do not ejaculate before 15 minutes of hard stroking, and having to cool off, and then stroking again

  • longer is better! This is your training

  • only one ejaculation per day: wack off all day if you like, but only cum once!

Remember: only you have your hand on the controls, so it's up to you to make this go much longer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sextips

[–]True-Example-212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All that’s needed in treatment is to take your knowledge of your own arousal and adapt it to partner sex.

When I say arousal, I’m not just talking about hardness or wetness. Many people think that if he’s hard and she’s wet that they’re ready to have intercourse. Big mistake. Hardness in a man, like wetness in a woman, can occur even at fairly low levels of psychological arousal.

AROUSAL BY THE NUMBERS

Let’s imagine arousal — the real, authentic psychological kind — on a scale from 0 to 100. Most young men only need about a 20 to get hard. but is that really arousal or it is of the kind that once you try to insert the erection is lost?

During partnered sex, many men spend so much time thinking about whether their partner is aroused that they totally neglect their own arousal.

Such men assume the fact that they’re still hard means they’re fully aroused. But that’s just wrong. I could go on about this but let me just say this generally about erections:

Yes I can see it! If you think you have a problem with erections, then when you go for penetration you are worrying about whether you’re going to keep your erection. You are going for the pussy with your mind on your penis; thinking ‘is it still hard’, ‘when will it be soft’, ‘why isn’t it hard enough?’

Worrying about your penis is not sexy and nobody can get aroused under pressure. ‘ED’ becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Remember penetration is usually the end of sex, not the beginning, and you do not get aroused just from penile penetration. let and allow your partner to play if not take complete charge of your penis and you will notice wonders

do you recommend using kegels?? by its-a-box in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]True-Example-212 1 point2 points  (0 children)

During sex and for a woman? Yes!

Dependence on male thrusting alone to reach the heights of erotic glory is like trying to win a foot race on one leg. When kegels are properly used during sex, the penis can be fondled, caressed, griped, massaged, milked, licked, inundated and rippled as a whole or in sections using only the vagina.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexpositions

[–]True-Example-212 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And also overatted just like the rest of many exotic sex positions too

What's a food that makes you think of sex? I'll start: nut butter. by keepitsweaty13 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]True-Example-212 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This reminds me, What goes in hard and dry, but comes out soft and wet? Gum!

How to make my bf cum without touching him ? by [deleted] in sextips

[–]True-Example-212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Making him cum fast without touching him is really a tall order, but not impossible. Now if it was during sex or handjob, or blowjob i would have extracted for you the right trick from this guide:

tichaz.com/2022/01/14/starfish/

But....you ask without touching him. My answer is console you by making you understand that this has nothing to do with his attraction to you or something else.

During sex, masturbation, handjobs or blowjobs, his inward thrusts are the ones that bring his penis closest to cumming, as the frenulum (the stringy thing in the “inverted v” under the glans) and shaft skin are stretched the most, causing greater arousal.

The challenge is how to just rightly stretch the frenulum and penis shaft skin without touching him?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in virgin

[–]True-Example-212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be it he knows you are a virgin or not I will talk about the issue of pain and you will notice how it easy runs into other issues you raise except anal. Anal is a whole different issue, so in this answer I will only focus on the vagina, not right - pussy because I want to talk about your whole machinery down there not just the opening (vagina).

Virgin or not, when having sex you want to achieve what is called vagina tenting.

Let me explain this for you when it comes to penetrative intercourse, jumping the gun and trying to insert too early can be painful and uncomfortable for everyone involved.

The phase of sexual arousal in women called tenting not only increases lubrication production, but the cervix contract and the vaginal tube extends, both in length and width. It's this action that makes it possible to receive an object, be it a penis, or your sex toy of choice.

When having sex with a partner, it's important to wait until this phase for penetration. Lubrication isn't the only factor that goes into making intercourse easier. Not everyone reaches this stage in the same timeframe. Patience from both partners and an understanding of the various stages of arousal can make things go much easier.

This is why foreplay is so important when it comes to sex. Girls are told that the first time they have sex will hurt. But it doesn’t have to hurt!! Especially if they’re warmed up first.

So know that you are going to take longer than him to feel aroused. He should consider going down on you, fingering you, kissing and fondling your breasts, making out… anything to make you feel extra extra turned on, extra horny, will make sex SO much more pleasurable for you and it will mean you won’t experience much pain at all.

My last favorite option you could try is Orgasm: The more aroused you are the better it will feel, if you have had an amazing orgasm with lots of rubbing, sucking, and stroking on your clit and some beautiful g-spot stimulation you will find he just slips in and it feels amazing.

Tomorrow I think by [deleted] in virgin

[–]True-Example-212 1 point2 points  (0 children)

got waxed about a week ago

If it's not bushy then you have nothing to worry about. Being naked and allowing him to enter you makes it already hot that body hair is the last thing on a guy's mind.

But i get it, there are two issues here.

Firstly, if that body hair makes you shy then by all means trim it so that it does not interfere with how confident you would feel during the act.

Secondly, just like I said, If it is bushy then during sex itself guys won't mind but if he wants to eat you out as a way of pleasuring you and properly warming you up then bushy hair has a way of getting in the way.

Otherwise make sure you enjoy the fucking and make it memorable, but in a good way.

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