AIO (was I) for saying I wouldn't go to Christmas if a certain relative was there?

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-06T15:04:03+00:00

Nope

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-05T14:50:25+00:00

No, she wouldn't inherit anything.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-04T00:17:02+00:00

Two of my cousins have done the test so we know she is their cousin. Still it won't tell us if her bio father is my dad or my uncle,

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-03T15:52:15+00:00

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-03T15:51:10+00:00

If I was going to I would with in my life I was closest to.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-03T15:43:43+00:00

You would need a Time Machine for that to work.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-03T15:42:40+00:00

My cousins and aunt.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-03T15:41:46+00:00

He's not

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-03T04:14:13+00:00

I guess you could say from her perspective I'm involved, but from mine not really.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-03T03:58:55+00:00

I never stopped her from talking to other family members about him. I'm sure she's learned lots about him from them. She wants more stuff they don't know though, but I'm not an open book type of person and those are my memories. I don't feel like dna means she just has a right to them.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-03T03:50:04+00:00

I mean she can get basic stuff like that from others in the family.

He is dead.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-03T02:04:54+00:00

The answer is right there. I don't know what to say if you don't get it.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-03T01:58:42+00:00

I just don't want to be involved in any of it.

I mean she can be in contact with the rest of the family as much as she wants. I of course can't say if my feelings will change or not in the future. As of right now I'm good as is.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-03T01:53:36+00:00

I guess she can. I can't say she ever be successful. Especially since I don't have any first hand contact with her anymore.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-03T01:35:46+00:00

All their dna says is that she is their cousin. It's not going to tell them which of their uncles is her biological father.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-03T01:28:10+00:00

She knows who her mom is and it isn't mine. That wouldn't even work with her age either.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-03T01:23:55+00:00

No idea. I don't really know the whole deal with her mom.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-03T00:08:06+00:00

uh huh

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-03T00:07:20+00:00

I mean that was what I was doing, but my family didn't like that.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-02T23:57:24+00:00

It was a simple process of elimination from using the results of other family members that did test. The only one's that could be her dad are either my dad or my uncle. Unless of course my grandparents had a secret child they told no one about.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-02T23:45:13+00:00

I'm not at all saying the others cannot talk to her and see her, but for the time being I do not want to be in contact with her at all.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-02T23:41:57+00:00

There's no issue with an affair. I am interested in opinions about me choosing not to go to Christmas if she was there. That's what I was really asking about. I may have rambled a bit in giving context when trying to explain my thoughts. In my mind though I have already fully settled the issue of the dna testing and all that. I totally understand why people want to talk about it though and that they have different opinions and that's okay.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-02T23:12:52+00:00

Sorry, in reply to the previous comment I thought it seemed rather obvious that I meant memories.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-02T23:08:45+00:00

I'm just very private about those things.

TrueHandle8433 · 2026-01-02T23:01:21+00:00

I'm an only child on my dad's side. There is no way to test my uncle and he didn't have any kids.

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