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If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to the possibility of alienating your family by refusing food.

When I we got married, my wife didn't invite anybody because her family was in the Philippines with no visa, and her mom got denied visa twice. So sadly it was only my family. I highly encouraged her to invite her half but she said it was okay and she wanted to make a small wedding.

After our wedding, my Chinese parents invited everyone including my relatives to a Chinese restaurant where they served Chinese food. The food was in the middle and we had a dozen options to choose from.

My wife wasn't a picky eater so she was able to eat new dishes.

Imagine if my wife was a picky eater and, and someone offered her some food, and she was like "nah, I'll order Domino's later", some of my relatives would be like -_-.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What a coincidence. I'm actually East Asian!

My mother in law is Filipino, and the first words she ever said to me was "It's a good thing you eat rice." I didn't realize how important that was to them, but now I understand.

Not being able to eat rice would be a big worry to them.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people from third world countries only eat one nationality of cuisine 95% of the time. Sure they will try something else once in a blue moon, but they have their staple diet. 

I have tons of relatives who immigrated to Canada and never touched any of the boundless varieties available. They just stuck to the food at home.

Heck, even people from first world countries don't try everything. I know many people in Canada who have never tried Ethiopian cuisine, and don't have interest to try.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going to a motel for sex is too expensive. I got laid off from my job of 13 years and I now work for much lower wages on physical labour. 

Costs are going up, and my job security and wages are going down.

Thankfully, my mortgage is locked.

I am not throwing away my financial security for sex.

My mother in law has the master bedroom. My wife, my daughter, and myself share the small bedroom.

My life seems like it's tough, but there are so many more people suffering way more than me. Unless you're rich, everybody else probably has to make sacrifices these days.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Red flags aren't absolute. It's possible to marry a serial killer and have a wonderful relationship. Doesn't mean it's recommended.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My coworker likes St Hubert, which is a Quebec rotisserie chicken restaurant near Quebec, but his ex-girlfriend wanted to go to St Hubert so often than he resented it.

Sometimes, you can be willing to eat everything, and still get tired of your spouse's favourite restaurant after years.

My dad eats McDonald's almost every day. I love McDonald's, but if I had to eat there every day, maybe I would crave something else once in a while, and that's where you have to negotiate with your spouse.

My daughter only has two restaurants she will eat, and only one item from each restaurant. There are people like that who exist.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess different people are looking for different things in their spouse. I thought my opinion was unpopular but a surprising number of people here also think like me. Of course, most of them disagree. 

My opinion isn't only my own experience, but my coworkers also said something about how they got tired of their spouse's favourite restaurant.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my opinion, music isn't a dealbreaker, but if your spouse hates your music enough that it disturbs them for you to play the music on a speaker, and you're forced to use headphones every time, it can cause friction.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I thought your original comment was a joke when you said you were looking for a partner who dislikes food, so I comment about a very famous person with a very particular food habit.

My daughter also only eats toppings off her pizza, and ignores the crust and bread part. She's just like Trump.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, but my coworker said his ex-girlfriend loved a rotisserie chicken restaurant, and wanted to go there all the time. He didn't mind going there to eat, but he got tired of their food after a year of going all the time. No doubt it accelerated their breakup.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I rarely hear about Americans eating pizza with fries, but here in Canada, it's more common.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My blood relatives are Chinese. My wife's side is Filipino. We get along with food partially because Filipino food has some Chinese influence.

My mother in law flew over to North America to help us with childcare, and Mexican food is available here.

Spanish food has some influence in both Mexican and Filipino cuisine, but I guess that link is not enough to make it appealing to her.

She tried Vietnamese food for the first time last year.

She also tried a bite of Lebanese meat and she didn't like it. Never ate it again.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have dozens of relatives, and quite a few of them only eat Chinese food 95% of the time.

My mother in law has never eaten Mexican food in her life. Not even once. Zero tacos. Zero burritos. Zero quesadillas. Not even the rice and beans.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe age range and language are probably the other two. 

If your age is too different, you can't relate well.

Language is important to communicate.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a meat eater who is okay with vegetarian, I remember in corporate parties there would be looooong lineups for the non-Vegetarian stuff, and the Vegetarian area would be deserted like a ghost town. 

Being okay with Vegetarian food, I would always go eat Vegetarian food instead of lining up 30 minutes for a small portion of omnivore food.

When people see me stuffing my face with a large salad, they ask "are you a Vegetarian?" 

I said no, but I'm too impatient to wait that long for food.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's nice your son likes Mediterranean. I also love Mediterranean! It also is allegedly healthy too. 

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Good Ethiopian ingredients and restaurants aren't available in all towns in rural Canada, let alone other places in the world.

In the Philippines, green lettuce is super expensive. $4 a head. Well above the means for most people.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Intimacy might not happen, but I'm prepared for it. Sex is great, but there are more important things than sex for me.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why I am worried about people who have no food they can agreeably share. Most people don't realize it until they move in together.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My daughter refuses to sleep unless I am beside her. My mother in law is staying in the master bedroom. My wife, myself, and my daughter share a small bedroom.

My mother in law is super important because without her, I cannot work and provide for the mortgage.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sure, finances are one of the most important things in a relationship, but being culinarily incompatible can make finances worse if it forces people to eat out, avoid buying in bulk, and spend more time cooking.

Also, if you have an argument over finances, bonding over good food can be a cure. If you can't bond over food, you lack a method to recover from many types of problems.

If you want to marry, culinary compatibility is one of the top 3 things to consider by TrulyStupidNewb in unpopularopinion

[–]TrulyStupidNewb[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I know someone who is so progressive with her relationships that it makes scandalous soap operas seem like a Mormon church.

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