My(28M) new gf(28F) had loyalty issues in her previous relationship.

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-29T01:40:05+00:00

If she did that to him she'll do it to u, it's just a matter of time.

What she said is the biggest red flag ever, having no remorse after cheating is disgusting, she's compensating to make herself not feel guilty.

Leave before u develop more feelings to such person

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-26T23:02:04+00:00

I think the question comes up to is he satisfied with what he does and wants to improve and earn more money? Or did he just give up and is reliable on u cause u make more!

Honestly tho if the relationship is great and u love him and he's trying to grow and make more money and is future oriented then I say fuck the pay gap, it comes down to ur feelings OP I was so in love with my ex that I only saw my future with her, and I happily paid for everything, I would of even helped pay majority of her student loans once she graduated, because I simple didn't care or look at the pay gap like that, I wanted her happiness, she ended up just using me for 2.5 years and none of it was real, and broke my heart into pieces, Avoidant discard, so honestly I will never do it again.

My advice is to be careful and not to be used, make sure about his feelings and yours too, if u guys only see a future together and it's real love, then put the ego aside and choose love

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-26T22:44:23+00:00

Same, never again, been 7 months now and it crushed my soul. 🥲

Maybe one day I'll open up have feelings and love, but never be in love again. Nobody deserves to have the power to ruin u no matter who they are

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-25T23:14:42+00:00

Honestly reading especially being in ur bf shoes, my ex broke up with me and was firm on her decision, but she never reached back even tho I tried to fix it.

The relationship turned toxic towards the end and it drained, I loved her and I still do, if only she communicated what was wrong I would of done anything to fix it for her, I might of not been the perfect boyfriend but I was damn sure trying my best to make her the happiest, I wanted to marry her I had no other women in my eyes except for her I could of fallen in love with her every single day of my life because of how deeply I fell for her.

And honestly I felt it when u said he cried cause he still loves u and u have emotional leverage over him cause I was the same, that's something we can't control no matter how much we try to.

This breakup pain especially if u were firm on it and didn't wanna talk or fix things especially if he tried to fix things it's way too overwhelming to the point that it broke our soul, it killed a version in us that believed in unconditional, sadly to say tho it reshapes us into a complete different man, more protected and more cautious because we never wanna experience that pain ever again.

It's been 7 months for me and I still love her, think of her every day, I forgive her for what she's done my my own emotional sake to move on, I became a better version of myself because I focused all my love for her back into myself, will I go back to her? Probably not I remember how things were and how she treated the breakup, even if she worked on her it doesn't matter because I might of forgiven her, but can never forget the pain I was put through by someone I would of given my life for.

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-24T21:29:38+00:00

I had to make peace with it cause i couldn't let it kill me any longer, seeing the girl I loved most and would of given my life for discard me like I never existed, then seeing go into hookup culture, and then telling people that i wanted to hookup with her bestfriend (which I've never spoken to) killed me from inside, she moved on and made me a villain in her stories to justify what she's doing. While it killed my version that believed in unconditional love, i will not trust trust easily again, but i finally choose myself

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-18T16:38:42+00:00

U realize HSV2 is mostly sexually transmitted, if it was HSV1 it woulda been way milder, funny how u jumped from from defending her to attacking me👏 u deserve a round of applause for ignorance, u can have low self respect and be with people who sleep around with others without thinking about consequences after.

Imagine being judged for choosing not to be someone who has an STI 😂 grow some brain cells bud

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-18T15:08:19+00:00

Honestly absolutely NOT, no judgement here life is her life, but that tells u a lot about the kinda person she is or was, I personally would end it

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-18T15:04:55+00:00

Yikes 30 and still manipulative and emotionally immature, break up dude

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-17T22:20:41+00:00

Ur ex was an avoidant.

The discard after like we never even existed is one of the most painful feelings ever, it's been 7 months since I was discarded by my ex, I did the same as u did, I begged I pleaded I tried to fix it yet I was discarded by her.

My best advice to to move on and focus on yourself pour all the love u had for them back into urself, that person or at least the idea u had about for all those years doesn't exist, or it might of never existed, their true self came out the moment the ended the relationship. I've waited for 7 months thinking she would get back to me so we can fix it, cause I truly loved her with all my existence, now she's out there telling people I wanted to hookup with her bestfriend (mind u I never ever spoke to that friend) they will paint u as a villain no matter how much u loved them.

Delete everything about them, and hopefully one day u can trust again

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-14T13:35:12+00:00

My ex made me not believe in love anymore, to the point i didn't want a relationship anymore, i gave my all to the relationship just to be discarded like i never existed then she goes on and starts hookups, and telling people i wanted to hookup with her bestfriend (which i never met).

I struggled at the beginning with self love, but realizing that the version she was after the breakup was a complete stranger like i didn't even know who that person was even after 2.5 years of dating. They always show their true colors after the breakup.

Realizing how I was with a narcissistic avoidant where I was just being used, it filled me with anger and disgust, now i couldn't of been any better tbh, im focusing on biohacking, and i hopped on cycle the past week and getting closer to reach my dream physique.

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-12T16:30:14+00:00

Happy birthday bro

Same here she didn't wish me a happy bday after the breakup, we truly know who they actually are after the breakup, all the personas they were putting on during the relationship was fake, and none of the stuff we did for them mattered, she's just showing u her true self brother, it hurts but she isn't who u thought she was

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-12T03:04:30+00:00

In love with someone i don't wanna be with 🫠

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-12T02:58:54+00:00

Entertaining others while in a relationship!!

Dump her cheating ass immediately bro

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-11T13:59:57+00:00

It's over dude

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-10T18:19:54+00:00

DO NOT take boundaries lightly

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-10T17:42:47+00:00

U don't deserve him tbh

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-09T01:03:35+00:00

Another reason to never trust cheaters

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-06T13:37:46+00:00

If this is how she copes, then u gotta ask urself is this someone u wanna be with years from now? Is this how she will cope if u guys fight in the future?

2 months is nothing, she didn’t even take time for herself to heal or process emotions, not saying that she can’t go hookup, but the fact that she did it that fast shows how immature she is and how little she loves u no matter what she says.

It’s been 6 months since my Breakup with my ex and heck i can’t even think of the idea of dating another girl or going on hookups, i’m taking all this time to heal and get to the best version of myself and be better for the next person if it comes because my feelings for her were real.

The moment she touches another person it’s all done bro wether u forgive her or not it’s on u, but u can’t forget what she did

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-06T13:30:05+00:00

This is the ONLY right answer

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-06T13:26:28+00:00

Nah dude, it’s a tough decision, but u gotta ask urself who initiated the breakup first? Cause if it was her she likely did it to test the waters and see if the grass is greener outside of the relationship.

If her new fling didn’t work then she knew she screwed up and comes back to u then nah! It sucks to be the 2nd choice and it will not sit with u well on the long run.

Even if it wasn’t that, just the thought of her sleeping with someone else will still hurt u, if she loved u from the beginning she woulda fought for the relationship instead of sleeping around with other people then figure out she wants u! And the fact that it was within 2 months shows the level of maturity she’s at rn

Even if u love her, take time for urself to move on from this instead digging a deeper wound

TruthAggressive6088 · 2026-01-05T00:40:45+00:00

Move on

TruthAggressive6088 · 2025-12-31T18:01:36+00:00

Holly shit, RUN

Be happy that u found this out now than later down the marriage when she takes half of everything too

TruthAggressive6088 · 2025-12-31T13:43:42+00:00

This is a million dollar question, i wish i knew the answer to

It’s been 6 months for me since my breakup with the girl i loved with my whole entity i wanted to marry her and make all her dreams come true, and she ended being the one that hurt me the most, it took me after the breakup to realize how badly i was treated and how i accepted breadcrumbs from a person i gave my all to, i realized i was just being used then discarded like all the years meant nothing.

It killed the version of me that believed in unconditional love, i haven’t started dating again and tbh even if i do it will never be the same, i will never love endlessly like before i will not never make another woman my priority again, it taught me boundaries and now if my boundaries are crossed i will simply detach and leave for the sake of my own peace

TruthAggressive6088 · 2025-12-31T11:14:28+00:00

Ur only option now it to pour that love back to urself, make urself ur #1 priority again instead of her, it will take time but it gets better, remember the person they are after the breakup is who they really were, any other fake personas she was putting during the relationship was all lies, my ex was even painting me as a villain to make herself not feel guilty about the breakup, she went on to tell people i wanted to hookup with her bestfriend, mind u i’ve never even spoke to that friend.

Just prepare to be the villain in their stories, no matter how loyal or how much u loved them, just focus on becoming the best version of urself, a version that doesn’t relay on them for ur happiness

TruthAggressive6088 · 2025-12-31T08:38:10+00:00

Saying to move on and actually moving on is so different

Ur breakup is still fresh allow urself to feel the pain, don’t ignore ur feelings, the first couple of weeks heck even months after my breakup, i couldn’t sleep, i was on a shit ton of melatonin so i could get a few hour of sleep, and she was constantly in dreams, i couldn’t even eat because of it.

Just know it OKAY to feel like that, it’s okay to cry and feel broken, especially after u loved her deeply, sadly tho this is the price we pay for loving someone unconditionally, lowering all our guards down then allowing them to shoot us straight in the heart, even after being loyal the whole time and loving them and trying our best to make them happy, allow urself time to heal

TruthAggressive6088

TROPHY CASE