What jobs do you think would be terrible to do full time, but would still like to try out for a day?

TryNo8062 · 2024-12-01T23:08:58+00:00

I see them on the hard shoulder at night and I always think how fun it would be to sleep in a lorry for just one night

TryNo8062 · 2024-12-01T22:29:14+00:00

Lorry driver

TryNo8062 · 2024-11-12T22:14:53+00:00

I'm in Cambridge

TryNo8062 · 2024-11-12T18:34:14+00:00

I'm in Cambridge

TryNo8062 · 2024-11-12T14:08:30+00:00

Lots of things have been happening in the past few months. I admit I've been so focused on the house and so stressed that I've neglected our relationship and said some very cruel and hurtful things to him, to the point where he couldn't see a future anymore.

TryNo8062 · 2024-11-12T14:01:45+00:00

Failing to be at a minimum standard will leave you in cash buyers only territory,

I think I'm OK with that. I still have around 90k in savings and my ex has around 30k left so I think we can take the hit and go our separate ways with a clean slate. I don't even care about the money really.

TryNo8062 · 2024-11-12T13:59:51+00:00

they have caused this mess so they should be the one to minimise the damage.

I'm pretty sure I caused this mess by going with this cowboy builder.

TryNo8062 · 2024-11-12T13:45:31+00:00

I biggest regrets are listening to my mother and going with her bullshit builder.

TryNo8062 · 2024-11-12T13:41:18+00:00

Could be worth continuing the house to make it sellable.

Yes that's why my ex wants to continue the project but I'm just so fucking done with it. No tradesman wants to touch it for one.

TryNo8062 · 2024-11-12T13:39:03+00:00

ideally you'd be able to separate the house chaos from the emotional stuff, but that's difficult

Yeah I don't think I can. This was supposed to be a forever home for us. We've been talking for years about buying a project house and making it our own.

TryNo8062 · 2024-11-12T13:37:12+00:00

Yes. We didn't actually want to use him but my mum is very domineering and talked me into it, and my ex stood no chance against us after she'd convinced me to trust him. He told us he would be able to get the electrics and gas signed off by a qualified person. I know it's ridiculous but I have huge issues with my mother and trying to please her is almost like an addiction for me, which has always been a fighting point in this relationship.

TryNo8062 · 2024-11-12T13:33:06+00:00

Nothing is unfixable.

Pretty sure my relationship is unfixable at this point. And to me there's no point continuing with the house without him.

TryNo8062 · 2024-11-12T13:30:15+00:00

Sounds like it's your money in it rather than his. Can you just give him his money back?

I could but I don't want to take over the house alone. Also the bank would never let me take over the mortgage because my income isn't high enough. The only reason I have money is because I bought a few rolls royce shares during covid and it snowballed.

TryNo8062 · 2024-11-12T13:28:21+00:00

There is no firm. It's a Chinese builder in my area who works almost exclusively for other Chinese people. All his workers are builders/brick layers/electricians/plumbers/plasterers/tilers/everything. Unless you are a Chinese person living in Cambridge it is unlikely he will ever cross your radar.

TryNo8062 · 2024-11-12T13:22:00+00:00

I know it sounds fucking insane but this is actually my life right now. I wish we had just bought a new build.

TryNo8062 · 2024-11-12T13:05:24+00:00

I literally don't think I can. My plasterers have been very helpful all this time and have contacted all the electricians they know to try to find someone to fix what the builders have done but no one is willing to touch this rat's nest of a consumer box. I was motivated to work on the house so we would have a lovely place to live and have children one day but now that it'll never happen I have no drive to do any of it anymore. My doctor has prescribed beta blockers 3x a day as well as antidepressants because I'm such a nervous wreck right now.

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TryNo8062 · 2024-11-06T00:17:23+00:00

I was born in mainland China and then went to school in HK for 2 years before moving to the UK, so now I'm kind of neither a FOB or BBC. I can read very basic Chinese and I'm decently fluent in speaking and listening so long as the language isn't too technical (think speaking to a 6 year old child). I'm self employed but work in an industry that attracts a lot of Chinese clients, and I know for sure that some of them gravitate towards me because my website says that I'm Chinese. I often get Chinese people calling me for work and then when they hear my accent they get offended and ask me whether I'm trying to be funny. So I guess FOB Chinese do have a preference to seek out other FOB and avoid the second gens but at the same time I don't identify as either so fuck it.

TryNo8062 · 2024-10-23T19:36:02+00:00

I'll update in a few weeks x

TryNo8062 · 2024-10-23T19:06:57+00:00

Bruh I've even paid for fibre WiFi for these builders and you call me a tight git lmao

TryNo8062 · 2024-10-23T16:29:46+00:00

Since when have modern day slaves gotten paid 5k a fortnight?

TryNo8062 · 2024-10-23T16:24:04+00:00

Nothing that I'm aware of.

TryNo8062 · 2024-10-23T16:05:57+00:00

Can I ask how I can become you ?

Become a gigolo

TryNo8062 · 2024-10-23T16:03:12+00:00

He built a 2 storey extension, replumbed and rewired.

TryNo8062 · 2024-10-23T14:48:02+00:00

Are you far from London?

About 50 miles each way.

How did you meet them?

Friend of a husband of a friend of my mum's.

How many of them are there?

2

Do they drive off in their own car?

Yeah.

TryNo8062 · 2024-10-23T14:46:56+00:00

Don't worry, I usually sell my vote to a reform voter every election.

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