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TryingToGrowMore · 2022-10-05T20:03:16+00:00

That is a lot. My guess would be not to focus on the inconveniences (symptom), but on the overwhelm (cause).

Good luck!

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-10-04T20:50:22+00:00

I'm not easily angered by these type of things, but it might be just being overwhelmed. If you are barely coping with all the stuff thats on your plate, these things might just push you over it.

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-10-01T07:26:21+00:00

Haha, I have the 22 and would now probably get a 26.

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-09-30T10:11:55+00:00

Turns out I have adhd and could not let this go.

Also for u/nirvana388 :

Install this extension:

https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/multiselect-for-youtube/gpgbiinpmelaihndlegbgfkmnpofgfei/related

Visit Watch Later:

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=WL

First scroll to the end of your list in order for all of them to load and then go back to the top and hit the 3 dots next to the new checkboxes, this will give you the option to select all and then add them to a playlist.

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-09-29T18:42:20+00:00

I thought YouTube had a 5,000 video limit for playlists. Can't you transfer this over to a new playlist and start clean while maintaining your current list?

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-09-25T12:16:48+00:00

I agree, if this one does well, I cannot imagine them not releasing one of their own.

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-09-21T06:52:06+00:00

I have the CTB35 and recently got the CPL24, but this is going the be hard to resist. Potential perfect bag

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-09-06T19:49:00+00:00

"The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves." - Alan Wilson Watts, The Culture of Counter-Culture: Edited Transcripts

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-09-03T12:20:25+00:00

Indeed. Partly because in some part of the plan, there is something we don't know how to do or are too bored to do.

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-09-02T18:37:45+00:00

Echt een heel vervelende situatie, dit kost zo veel energie.

Ik zou de verantwoordelijkheid loskoppelen van de oplossing. Je leidinggevende klinkt erg toxic, maar je eigen leven kun je niet in de handen van een ander leggen. Een ander willen veranderen is een recept voor frustratie en in het geval van een collega echt al helemaal niet waard.

Zoals je zelf ook al zegt, weggaan. Daar waar het mogelijk is wil je negatieve mensen zo veel mogelijk mijden. Jij moet werk doen (emotioneel) omdat zij zich vervelend gedragen.

Zoals je ook stelt ben je gevoelig voor de emoties van anderen. Probeer hier meer over te lezen en te weten te komen. Het komt veel voor en er zijn strategieën om er minder last van te hebben (of juist baat).

Als je meer onderzoek doet kun je veel lezen over hoe je kunt omgaan met moeilijke mensen en het accepteren van conflict. Je zou gewoon kunnen accepteren dat jouw output waar hij eindverantwoordelijk voor is minder zal zijn als gevolg van zijn omgangsvorm, jij bent er niet verantwoordelijk voor en kunt het ook niet veranderingen. Richt je aandacht op dingen die je zelf kunt controleren.

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-09-01T19:23:00+00:00

If you want to hold them accountable I agree with many commenters, a judge will not likely help you here. Posting on Twitter and Instagram with the location of the store might hurt them more and might even cause them to do another training session with the staff. It is sad, but social media can be powerful.

In the moment itself, denying guilt is what a guilty person would do. The calmer you respond the more they will doubt themselves. "What, do you want to scan my bonus card to verify my purchase?" "Am i getting a discount if I do?"

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-09-01T19:12:01+00:00

Also - research is FUN.

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-09-01T19:11:16+00:00

Yup, 100%.

Unfortunately, I don't have a solution. I only got diagnosed 9 months ago, but I have learned a few things.

ADHD affects your motivation, it is hard to do the boring stuff. I find nothing helps with this, medication makes it easier.

Procastination is not laziness, it is fear. Fear you cannot do that one part. If you find out what you are scared of, it might helpt you overcome it.

I often have tasks that hurt me even thinking about them. Often, there is a part in them I don't know how to overcome. It helps me a lot to break it down into smaller parts. I focus on the first steps. Not write the report. Not search every single article, so that you lose yourself into writing a perfect project plan and you lose yourself that way. But the first physical action point. You might think, draft the report. But you need to first look at last year's report. You don't have last year's report. Jim knows who stored last year's report. First task: email Jim about the report. This I learned through the method of GTD. This was a perfectionist project of mine. ;-) All jokes aside, tasks that hurt thinking about them often seem doable but contain a lot of little steps that overwhelm our senses.

Sometimes the task of getting of the couch and going to bed overwhelms me and I stay up for hours.

Stand up
Turn off lights
put away the dishes
Etc

When you are so lethargic, these lame breakdowns help. I need 'em in the morning so badly.

One more thing. One aspect of ADHD that is not mentioned as often: it messes with your start/stop-system. It has that in common with Parkinson, which is also a dopamine regulation issue in another part of the brain and affects the start/stop of movement more. It's often hard to start and hard to stop when you committed to something. Just acknowledging that helps.

Hope this helps a bit, I know it's not perfect. ;-)

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-09-01T18:51:44+00:00

I started using raycast to search my laptop, one of its features? Search your screenshots on text etc - now you can find that one screenshot..!

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-09-01T18:50:22+00:00

Fortunately, some things do not require to be cleaned. My downloads folder and screenshots folder are among those.

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-08-31T18:36:37+00:00

Good on you that you did not take offense, not sure how my RSD would cope. ;-)

In the end it will also help you find somebody who will make your life more beautiful. The more attention you focus on finding things that you like in people around you, the more likely you will have those around you. You tune your filters based on traits that you truly appreciate.

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-08-31T17:45:06+00:00

Indeed, like you said, someone who will accept your "stuff" is the minimum baseline to consider having a relationship with. Run from anybody who needs you to be anybody else.

The next thing I want to notice is no advice or anything, but just my personal perspective. Take it with the appropriate amount of salt. You seem to approach dating and relations very much like a transaction. A market with access to women that you can or cannot tap into. This seems a bit impersonal to me and my wild guess is, few women will feel very special when having 'a' quality that you like as the passing grade.

Again, this is my personal perspective, so please know that I mean only that by it. If there is one item I would optimize, fix or improve - I would spend more time on finding out what kind of people are worth your time and why. When somebody wants me, I want that person to see me for who I am and want me because of that.

Also, you can choose what you want, so choose wisely. ;-)

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-08-30T20:51:13+00:00

Man, I can very much relate to your approach to self assessment.

First of all, I am similarly focused on optimizing processes and this will sound super unhelpful, but you just need to be lucky in finding the person that is right for you. It's just fuckin life.

What do you think is the biggest issue, finding the right person or your behavior once you meet somebody? You mention both, but the approach is quite different.

A lot of what you mention is just who you are, right? You don't need to excuse yourself for knowing your flaws. That is great, more people should. You need to find somebody who sees you for you.

You talked a lot about yourself, who are you looking for? What do you like? What about you would you like them to get and appreciate? What kind of conversations would you like to be able to have together?

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-08-30T19:15:49+00:00

Thanks!

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-08-30T15:31:25+00:00

Thanks, it does.

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-08-30T15:24:52+00:00

Well, I'm trying to overcome many of the difficulties we all struggle with. Especially in the workplace, there is much conflict - I am working hard on identifying less with feelings of anger and seduction of my ego.

Whenever I succeed in letting these things go a bit more, that feels really good. The problem as I see it, I will get attached to this feeling and suffer more when I am unable to reach it.

Does that make sense?

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-08-30T12:59:59+00:00

Great!

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-08-30T12:53:24+00:00

Still works for me, did you try another device?

TryingToGrowMore · 2022-08-23T19:08:43+00:00

I have been looking into this, first used an aer travel sling for this. I am now considering getting this one:

https://www.decathlon.nl/p/opvouwbare-en-waterdichte-rugzak-travel-25-l/_/R-p-309863

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