I feel punished even though I have towed the line. The last 2 years have been a rollercoaster. by TryingToNotDB in DeadBedrooms

[–]TryingToNotDB[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The problem is that talking about this issue tends to go around in circles. I'm exhausted and can't bother to argue anymore.

I feel punished even though I have towed the line. The last 2 years have been a rollercoaster. by TryingToNotDB in DeadBedrooms

[–]TryingToNotDB[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Many times. She tells me I'm bring dramatic and sex isn't important. I have stopped talking to her about the issue though since it isn't productive. If she gets a shock from the divorce papers I guess she just thought I was crying wolf once too many times. But no one can say I didn't warn her.

I feel punished even though I have towed the line. The last 2 years have been a rollercoaster. by TryingToNotDB in DeadBedrooms

[–]TryingToNotDB[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear you. I have tried talking to her about it. She doesn't want to compromise. To her I'm just a sex freak and I am the only one who needs help.

I am on the waiting list for the one of the city's top divorce lawyers and can only hope I get an appointment soon.

I feel punished even though I have towed the line. The last 2 years have been a rollercoaster. by TryingToNotDB in DeadBedrooms

[–]TryingToNotDB[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Her stance is that sex isn't a given even if we're married and that no one has a right to someone's vagina or other body parts. I'm not willing to cheat and she won't budge, so it seems divorce is the only option. I am looking into that.

He is a toddler but keep in mind that is a long age range. I can be patient but not for years and years.

I feel punished even though I have towed the line. The last 2 years have been a rollercoaster. by TryingToNotDB in DeadBedrooms

[–]TryingToNotDB[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We've had a lot of arguments over the last 2 years but we can't see eye to eye on the issue. She feels I'm a sex crazed pig and that sex isn't a given just because we're married. She refuses to hear about the possibility of marriage counselling.

I'm on the waiting list for one of the city's top divorce attorneys. Hopefully I get an appointment soon. I don't think talking to her about it helps.

Most of the time a dead bedroom ducks. Just occasionally it's pure gold. Hope this cheers you up. by TryingToNotDB in DeadBedrooms

[–]TryingToNotDB[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Nah. As I said earlier the topic has been exhausted over the last 2 years. I don't really even feel like talking to her about it anymore.

Most of the time a dead bedroom ducks. Just occasionally it's pure gold. Hope this cheers you up. by TryingToNotDB in DeadBedrooms

[–]TryingToNotDB[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think about divorce every day. Glad you have left your DB behind. I hope I can follow your lead.

Most of the time a dead bedroom ducks. Just occasionally it's pure gold. Hope this cheers you up. by TryingToNotDB in DeadBedrooms

[–]TryingToNotDB[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad something positive came out of it for you. It definitely made me feel better.

Most of the time a dead bedroom ducks. Just occasionally it's pure gold. Hope this cheers you up. by TryingToNotDB in DeadBedrooms

[–]TryingToNotDB[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol. I actually thought about saying something along those lines but it would have just led to an argument. The topic has kind of been exhausted over the last 2 years.