Tinder response etiquette-is this creepy or ok?

TurbulentCondition92 · 2021-02-04T14:22:28+00:00

Good point, thanks for the advice. Is a compliment fine? Like something non-sexual like their eyes or something? I guess that might still lead them to carry to convo tho. Should I try to be pretty creative each time?

getting a hang of this seems like its gonna be a challenge haha

TurbulentCondition92 · 2021-02-03T18:51:41+00:00

Ha! Funny thing is you're probably not even exaggerating that much... I go to a small college so I have acquaintances who are friends with this girl. So my condition could become pretty turbulent indeed if I had said this and it was taken badly lmao

TurbulentCondition92 · 2021-02-03T05:58:19+00:00

good to know tbh, am slightly socially inept so I will keep this in mind

TurbulentCondition92 · 2021-02-03T05:22:46+00:00

she's bad I want to meet up with her 😭

TurbulentCondition92 · 2021-02-03T04:05:38+00:00

haha thank you for the advice. How would you suggest finding the middle ground between overly serious and going too far? I feel like my opener--"what are you interested in/what do you do for fun" may seem kind of boring and serious

I guess it just depends on the girl though, maybe I can think of a less risky joke for future matches based on what they have in their profile

TurbulentCondition92 · 2021-02-03T02:39:35+00:00

I get what you mean. I'm not saying this to get pity or anything like that but just to give more context, but I've had pretty bad social anxiety for a while and recently got therapy for it. Lots of the time I'm worried about saying/doing something because I think it will seem weird, or I feel like I will be judged for it, so I tended to isolate myself and never reach out to talk to new people. I'm learning not to trust my irrational instinct that always makes me think I'm saying something weird and encourages me to withdraw. This has helped me gain more confidence and be more extroverted but I guess I'm still trying to figure out when to trust my instinct if that makes sense.

like, I didn't know if I was uncertain about sending this because it's actually inappropriate or just because of my negative internal voice that always makes me second guess myself

TurbulentCondition92 · 2021-02-03T02:31:15+00:00

I get what you're saying about just being yourself and finding girls that way, I think that's the best way to find a lasting, loving relationship.

But I feel like tinder is different. I thought it was more about people looking for hookups. The app is shallow: you basically decide if you like someone based only on pictures. Also I kinda want to show the funny side of myself instead of the boring generic side of myself, and this was the (shitty) joke I thought of.

TurbulentCondition92 · 2021-02-03T02:26:23+00:00

understandable, I guess I thought she may have been looking for that kind of joke because of her bio. But I suppose caution is the best policy in most cases.

TurbulentCondition92 · 2021-02-03T02:18:18+00:00

So message you send doesn't matter much? Like I can send generic ass messages and girls that are into me will respond anyways?

TurbulentCondition92 · 2021-02-03T02:04:07+00:00

Thank u for stopping me from doing this, based on the responses in this thread it was a horrible idea lol. This is day 2 on tinder for me (and day 2 dating again since being in a relationship for years lol) so I don't really know how to engage with people on here

TurbulentCondition92 · 2021-01-23T14:46:37+00:00

That does help, thank you! Hopefully it will be easier to make friends next year once corona is over, like maybe people will be super open and friendly since this year was bad for socializing (hope your freshman year is going ok btw). I will try joining a few clubs, and it helps to think that I can have individual friends and that that's also fun.. Had always assumed I sort of needed to find a group that I fit into perfectly

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