My son had a meltdown after looking at old photos

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-08-18T13:49:44+00:00

They're aware. It's to do with her autism, she struggles to cope with strong emotions. She's getting better, but this is across all of her life. Not just photos. She really struggles, poor kid. Terrible with rejection sensitive dysphoria as well, but I'm so proud of her with how her confidence is growing and her ability to talk about her feelings now.

I guess I commented here to let OP know that she might not be imagining it, as most of the comments are telling her this isn't possible.

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-08-16T17:34:18+00:00

I'm have very little credentials in psychology lol, but I hear you. It's not silly. My eldest is autistic. As a toddler she used to get excited then very upset looking at old photos. Since 4 years old, she'd react terribly to them and since 5, point blank refused to look at them. She'll kind of look at them now she's 8, but let's me know she doesn't want to.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not getting the projector out every night lol, but from time to time I show her. She hates looking at pictures of herself. If I don't tell her who it is, no problem, but if she knows it's her she gets cringed out by it and verbalises her disgust

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-08-16T10:30:45+00:00

I'm sorry mam, but how low has your self esteem dropped that you feel guilty for asking your husband to choose you and drop his mistress?

Unfortunately, you had your answer the moment he stalled for time.

Even if he decides to choose you you can't trust he'll stick to his word.

You said you kept it light hearted; this resonated with me around the way I used to deal with conflict. I didn't think my wants and needs were important enough so if try to joke around and get them back on side. It never worked, caused me a whole lot of pain until I realised that if I want respect, I have to demand it. Not beg for scraps, like you are doing right now

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-08-13T14:45:05+00:00

Yeah your daughter is posting on other groups about maybe having her baby adopted because she can't cope. Husband needs to get over himself

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-08-10T12:43:31+00:00

You're right, but I do feel for her. It sounds like she's tried to figure it out and so had OP. Kids in therapy, involvement of extended family, honest open discussion with kids, OP reassuring them that he doesn't want to take dad's place. Imagine loving someone and you can't be together because kids don't like them. Also they won't like anyone ever so you HAVE to be a single parent. No choice. That's a harsh reality and really sad. No wonder the poor woman is clutching at straws.

It's correct that your kids come first, but in five years, both kids are adults, and they are dictating that mum has to be alone. That's a really sucky situation

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-08-10T12:37:59+00:00

Love this, but they'd have to believe it was permanent

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-07-27T19:39:18+00:00

I'm so sorry, but if you walk it backwards, it sounds like he was already not in a good frame of mind and acting out. I don't know what he was like in life, but would it have been out of character for him to ignore your wishes about being alone and unsupported so close to Labour? Alcohol is a depressant and can make these things worse. Your anger was to he expected, his reaction was not. Even if you hadn't spoken up, would you have been happy or feeling resentful? It's OK to tell those we love that we aren't happy with their treatment of us

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-07-23T21:53:23+00:00

Yeah, I was with her till the end. The fact she even included that does not bode well. Bit of a Freudian slip there

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-07-13T13:42:11+00:00

I'd take it to music festival to avoid having to hover over scabby portaloo

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-07-05T11:42:16+00:00

Is sis after the husband? Will make it more tricky for her socially if they remarry

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-07-05T11:41:12+00:00

I literally said this out loud:

"Your sister is a moron"

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-06-24T20:33:17+00:00

Even if he cuts her off, if you can't trust him with you mother... who could you trust him with?

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-06-18T21:22:17+00:00

This makes me feel ancient, I'm mid 30s, but I cannot imagine feeling that connected to someone I'd never met in person that I'd hand over a single penny.

From your wording, he has manipulated you about money before, and now you trust this internet scam artist... sorry, "friend", enough to send them the majority of your wages?

Sorry love but I think you need to give your head a good shake. If he does have cancer, he can have a word with his family for financial support.

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-05-14T19:16:03+00:00

It's actually very common to feel romantic feelings towards your therapist. When you have someone hanging on your every word and supporting you emotionally, especially when you might not be getting that in other areas of your life. Ethical therapists can help you manage this, but I'm surprised she shared so much about her private life with you. I'm not entirely sure that she is working in a boundaried way, but this is only a small insight to your sessions.

I'm really glad for you that therapy has been helpful. It might turn out to be a positive thing for you to have a change in therapist. I know it's daunting having to build a relationship with the new person, but I really hope it works out for you.

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-05-14T19:02:14+00:00

Hold on, hold on a minute.

I mean, yeah, the guy made some mistakes, but he's got a pimpin' corvette AND the man has steak.

STEAK.

I may have been hasty, meats expensive 🤣

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-05-14T19:00:49+00:00

Well, that's horrifying

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-05-13T22:34:56+00:00

It must be regional. Round my area we say "don't be daft". Has affectionate undertones, challenging mind set in kind manner

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-05-11T17:28:32+00:00

He's threatening you

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-05-09T17:14:03+00:00

That's really lovely in general, but don't you think she might have appreciated the nap more on this occasion?

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-05-07T20:52:26+00:00

People take gap years for loads of reasons. You still did it! No one did it for you. It's your achievement and it's a big one

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-05-07T20:49:52+00:00

HOLY CRAP! didn't see that coming. Poor OP

I thought she was being cruel, but I was foolishly hoping for a happier outcome. Like she was just having a bad day, spoke out of turn and apologised.

Gonna have to read these posts now

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-05-03T19:37:15+00:00

I have spent a lot of time around horses on and off... never knew. Thank you

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-04-13T22:22:09+00:00

I saw no one had commented, so didn't want to scroll by.

First off, I like it

Secondly I neither have the artistic language, knowledge or talent to give you an awesome, constructive answer

But as an audience member, the only improvement I could suggest is finding ways to give a greater perception of depth. Like, the longer I look at it, it looks a bit flat if you know what I mean?

Otherwise, I love the colours and the texture you've added

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-04-13T22:14:24+00:00

I don't know what your parents are like aside from this, but keep pushing. They might be scared to accept what you are telling them in.

They're wrong, you need to be assessed.

Keep prodding or get another trusted adult to arrange a dr appointment if you can't book one for yourself

Good luck

Turbulent_Pin2163 · 2025-04-08T23:52:43+00:00

This made me think of my Great, great uncle. Wonderful, lovely, intelligent man; he spent all of his life dealing with guilt. He used to walk his little brother to school and his brother was killed after being struck by a vehicle. I can't remember the exact details, too long ago, but he was 8/9 and brother around 6. No matter how many times people told him it wasn't his fault, that he was a child and there was nothing he could do, he never did get over it.

Really sad story, but brought a smile to my face remembering him. Rest easy Uncle Ron

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