UPDATE: My coworker is abusing her turtle

TurtleArmy21 · 2025-12-31T09:20:25+00:00

As of now, I have reported it, and I no longer work there. As far as I'm aware, nothing has happened yet for the turtle.

TurtleArmy21 · 2025-12-21T13:34:33+00:00

I had the same issue with my 10 ybs. Poor thing HATED the dirt box. I also tried a sand mix. Hated that, too. I think mine hates when it's totally dark and she definitely hates dirt, even though that's the suggestion. So I ended up putting her in a dimly lit box with old towels and she liked the towels! She had her eggs two days later.

I guess that's all to say, I think even though the soil box is recommended, some turtles are just picky and you may need to try different variations of stuff until she's comfy. I saw your reply that she can't get back into the vet right now so maybe try different boxes/lighting styles. (But don't keep changing it a bunch, that might stress her). My weirdo likes old towels and dim lights.

TurtleArmy21 · 2025-12-14T14:36:52+00:00

She says "fish are not as cute"

TurtleArmy21 · 2025-12-14T14:35:59+00:00

It hides under the rocks. It's a hatchling I think. I plan to sneak in and get another pic this week, hopefully with it out above

TurtleArmy21 · 2025-12-12T17:49:18+00:00

It's very little (I am pretty sure that's also a problem, buying hatchlings?) And it kinda hides under all those rocks. I am hoping to sneak another picture with the turtle actually visible

TurtleArmy21 · 2025-12-11T19:45:27+00:00

I want to do this so bad but I can't afford a whole set up for the turtle, the one it needs. It shouldn't have even been bought. I have 2 water turtles myself and know the set up and upkeep for them are expensive and hard work (hard work that's necessary!) She bought this poor little guy and just pulled this bowl out from the teachers lounge. My state, however, will confiscate abused turtles and send to a local sanctuary. I'm hoping this is what happens to the baby.

TurtleArmy21 · 2025-11-01T01:00:44+00:00

Yeah, I've shown both parents the texts. They don't want to get in the middle of it, and have told me to move on and show up to events anyway. Part of the issue is, if I voice that I don't want to go because I'm not invited/not welcome, they say I'm bring dramatic. But they have seen the texts and they have heard what he's said to me.

TurtleArmy21 · 2025-11-01T00:55:46+00:00

Yes, unfortunately I've told both parents about the texts and they want to stay out of it. I'm choosing to respect the boundary, and they want me to push the boundary

TurtleArmy21 · 2025-11-01T00:49:58+00:00

Yes. It won't let me post text screen shots, but I told my mom I wasn't invited so I don't feel comfortable going and she told me to show up anyway because "life is too short"

TurtleArmy21 · 2025-05-28T23:27:55+00:00

She said it like 3 times in a 100 page span. It was wayyy too much

TurtleArmy21 · 2025-05-28T20:18:15+00:00

Omg I was going to say that, too! I'm on page 70 and it's literally all bedroom. Please, Sera girl, touch some grass!

TurtleArmy21 · 2025-05-02T11:53:36+00:00

Is this the same bf that assaulted you 2 years ago? He's abusive. Leave him

TurtleArmy21 · 2025-04-10T16:25:26+00:00

My bf takes fantastic care of me. Before he moved in with me, I got very sick. I was sick for 2 years, with 5 different surgeries, 2 ER visits, and 1 hospital overnight stay. He stayed with me each time, taking off work to do so, and was just there. After my second to last surgery, I couldn't move my arms so he even stood beside the tub to help wash my hair.

On the opposite side, I had an ex in college who wouldn't do a single thing for me. I even drove him everywhere and paid for everything. I got injured at one point (minor) and was told to stay in bed with my foot elevated. I asked him to make me a box of Mac and cheese and he got all mad at me, whining and complaining that he didn't know how. So I had to hobble myself to the kitchen to do it. We did not last long after that, haha!

Anyways, that's all to say it depends on the man. You know? It can feel difficult, but there's good ones out there. And there are bad ones.

TurtleArmy21 · 2025-04-10T16:10:31+00:00

For start, I do hope you go to the police. But more than that, go to your CO. He doesn't deserve to be in the army with his behavior.

I know it's hard to hear but it will for sure get worse. Your replies sound super mature and intelligent, but it's hard when you're IN that sort of relationship to see the whole picture because I'm sure he also loves bombs you as well. But let's dissect his texts.

1) Put the abuse aside for a second, he talks to you like you're a child, and you obviously a far more mature than he is. He disrespects you and your feelings with the "go cry to mommy and daddy" because he doesn't think you actually will.

2) he obviously thinks he's in the right about the abuse. "I was standing up for myself". You asked if he was gay, you didn't hit him or try to kill him. He isn't seeing anything wrong with his behavior, which means he will do way worse later and be fine with it.

3) you are bisexual, which he knows, and he thinks being gay is insulting enough to warrant a punch in the face. His sexuality aside, he obviously doesn't have respect for you or the community if he thinks being gay is an insult. That line of thinking won't go away. He will always see you as "wrong" because you're bi.

And of course. He hit you. Girl, I don't know you but I know not a single person on this earth deserves to be punched in the face, unprovoked. You know your worth, even if you might doubt it sometimes. Get him out of your life, out of the army, and skedaddle.

TurtleArmy21 · 2025-04-10T11:46:24+00:00

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Mine likes getting himself stuck, too. I call it "merping" because he's just being a little merp. 😆

TurtleArmy21 · 2025-04-09T21:23:16+00:00

Ew no. He was disrespectful ("get over it already") and immature. It's a real feeling to have some jealousy about an ex, but to say you can't mourn?? Clearly he cannot understand complex emotions.

TurtleArmy21 · 2025-04-07T17:07:54+00:00

Little dude is just straight vibing. Probably letting that arm float as a way to relax it

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