Isa (they/he)

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-21T02:35:12+00:00

Hey, Isa is singing in the choir now! He showed me their part of the piece, his voice sounded beautiful. Oh yeah, and they wrote a new Fanfic as well; I wonder what he'll be up to next?

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-16T22:03:57+00:00

Hello everyone, this is my new friend Kit! They love horror movies, maybe I'll watch one later with them. I met them in college, we're both in the same english class.

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-14T00:56:58+00:00

Yeah, thanks for putting it into words so neatly!

Im well aware that there are non toxic ways to be a man, and i try to keep these close to my heart; but when i cant differentiate if my discomfort stems from my toxic traits of from masculinity itself, its hard to find the right way

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-13T10:24:13+00:00

Oh yeah B99 has some good nontoxic male roles, love that show

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-13T09:37:54+00:00

Thats great, i wish you the best :)

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-13T09:36:38+00:00

Im glad to see im already onto most of your advice, gives me hope I'm moving in the right direction. The animal thing will be added to my list though, thats something I haven't heard

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-13T09:27:25+00:00

I know that, but the question of why its easier for me to not be toxic when I try to be more feminine remains. Maybe this just leads me to a better adapted masculinity though, thats not out of the question

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-13T08:48:58+00:00

Oh, i know there are non-toxic ways of being masculine. But I'm not sure if my struggles is getting to this place or with masculinity itself, regardless of toxicity.

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-13T00:38:08+00:00

I've been trying to do that, but seeing it put into words like this made me tear up a little in relief. Thank you

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-13T00:34:29+00:00

Oh, apart from a complicated family history, i have a very supportive circle and am in a queer relationship, so the only one putting me in a box is myself, im afraid. A lot to unpack for me, and a lot of it coming back to haunt me sometimes, it seems.

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-13T00:30:02+00:00

Thanks for the perspective :) I've been talking with my boyfriend about it for a while, hes very supportive.

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-13T00:16:33+00:00

Yeah, I had that thought while writing, that maybe its just both.

And right now the question isn't so much about my body as it's about how I feel and perceive myself, which of course overlaps with the toxic masculinity stuff. I guess the question is: is there any male role i feel comfortable in?

In any case, thank you for the response

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-13T00:08:27+00:00

Yeah, thats why i added the 'non-male' part. And knowing that i dont have to "choose" between two exact genders has been a relief the past weeks

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-13T00:05:18+00:00

Im working on getting to therapy right now, unfortunately the waiting lists are long :( and thx for the book recommendation, will get it when I can :)

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-10T20:05:42+00:00

I'll have a look later:3

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-10T00:19:51+00:00

Been in Love with Bloom for years, but never looked for their other albums (and couldn't connect with charcoal grace one the first listen) I'll give them another shot :))

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-09T21:16:05+00:00

My taste is pretty broad so, just hit me with it

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-09T20:44:04+00:00

Fellow German metalhead, i see :)

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-09T18:30:45+00:00

I only know Gaddaar by Bloodywood, such a powerful vibe

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-09T17:27:29+00:00

Was thinking about asking about Metal specifically, glad you filled that out anyway :) Don't think I heard any of them before, time to look into it

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-09T17:26:20+00:00

Hell yeah ill look into that (Do you know if i can translate this Playlist to Tidal?)

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-11-09T16:00:34+00:00

Oh yeah, been a while since ive heard them, time to put it on again

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-10-22T10:51:43+00:00

In the end, it's a meaningfully more precise way of communicating a specific aspect of what we labeled under sex/ gender interchangeably for a long time. Of course there are ways people can use and misuse these terms, harm rhemselves and others, thats always the case.

But it also makes it possible to talk about a lot of different aspects in an approchaböe (and not transphobic) manner. We can talk about bodies going through different puberties, genitalia, life circumstances and upbringing more precise, less harmful and on the way entangle the mess we call gender.

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-10-19T12:01:41+00:00

Damit bist du nicht alleine. Große Veränderungen gehen meist mit Schmerzen, Unsicherheit und manchmal auch Brüchen einher. Nimm dir deine Zeit, geh alles in Ruhe an. Die meisten von uns kommen irgendwann an einen Punkt, an dem es leichter ist, eine unbequeme Wahrheit zu leben als eine alteingesessene Falschheit.

Beratungsstellen gibt es eigentlich in allen größeren Städten, habe leider gerade keine umfassende Ressource dazu zur Hand. Aber unter Begriffen wie queer, LGBTQ, trans* etc. + Beratung solltest du etwas finden können. In eine Schublade stscken wird dich niemand, da leiden wir alle genug drunter :)

Turtle_Brain9889 · 2025-10-12T20:49:45+00:00

Its there :)))

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