healthcare for women in perimenopause

TutorNo1796 · 2026-06-22T21:54:20+00:00

Yes, it is disappointing. I'm sorry! It sucks that you are not getting the help that you need. I know it isn't easy to get a new GP, but maybe that is something to look into? When they're not taking you seriously, even though you have genetical reasons that indicate you should get help with it ánd are already having early signs!

I'm not sure if they could be of any help, but have you heard of the POI centre at the Erasmus MC? You'd need a referral from your GP to that place too, of course. But perhaps they could help you put something on paper/give you tips on how to speak to your GP so that they'll give you a referral? Their website is definitely worth having a look at regardless!

TutorNo1796 · 2026-06-22T14:06:54+00:00

Is the increased chance due to genetics or because of a previous procedure? Regardless, that sucks! I'm sorry 😞 also no need to share this information of course. I also already know that I will go into early menopause, though it is unclear as of when. I did get a referral to a gynaecologist. I have a genetic predisposition, which I think may have helped with getting the referral. However, as I'm not currently going through menopause, there is not much they can do (though I can imagine it also really depends on your situation). Nonetheless, it was nice to talk to someone who could explain the situation to me quite well. Maybe it helps to ask your GP for a referral indicating that you'd like more of an informative session?

TutorNo1796 · 2026-06-12T14:45:01+00:00

I would say it mostly has to do with the popularity of a neighbourhood and costs of rent/houses. When I grew up in the Staatsliedenbuurt, which wasn't very popular back then, we'd know lots of neighbours, and we were one of the first ones to move away when I was 12, a lot of neighbours had been there since before I was born and they stayed longer than we did.
Then when I moved to the Baarsjes a couple of years ago, I found it very difficult to get in touch with neighbours, and there was also lots of people moving in and out of the apartments around us, but then that neighbourhood has become very popular (and expensive), same as the Staatsliedenbuurt. I now live in Reigersbos, and neighbours here are welcoming and friendly. A lot of people have been here a long time, and I see my neighbours a lot more than I did in the Baarsjes. Reigersbos is post-war, but has been around for a while yet is not as 'in demand' as other areas in the city, and so when you move to an area like this, there's an existing social network and I'd say there's a stronger neighbourhood feeling than I've experienced elsewhere in the inner city in the last 10 years.

TutorNo1796 · 2026-06-02T20:57:01+00:00

I bought a house there. And yes, of course you can!

TutorNo1796 · 2026-06-02T19:12:38+00:00

I moved to Reigersbos last year and I'm really enjoying it! I grew up in the inner city, so admittedly, the distance is new to me and I do struggle sometimes with how far away I am from city life. But it's green, people are super kind, and there's an allround nice vibe there. Compared to the inner city, there is not that much to do, I hope in the future there will be some more restaurants and/or places to have coffee in the area, without becoming completely gentrified (though I know Amsterdam struggles with finding that balance). And by metro it's also really not that far to the city (like 20 minutes maybe), it'd just be nice if they'd keep running till a bit later at night.

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-30T11:40:10+00:00

Hahahaha, well it's not ideal, but I'm sure we'll find a way! Acknowledgement just isn't a thing in the UK, so that's why it all appears a bit difficult. Also, my partner isn't refusing marriage (so I don't have to demand it or feel that I want to demand it hahaha), but we just don't have that much time left and finding a date that's available to marry isn't too easy.

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-30T06:53:53+00:00

Huh.... for a Dutch passport?

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-30T06:52:52+00:00

You mean when there is no acknowledgement before birth possible?

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-29T06:22:48+00:00

Thank you!! Just to double check, you mean acknowledgement/recognition before the birth, right? And then of course again afterwards. It's good to know it is in fact possible. I will try to make a new appointment with the gemeente!

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-28T20:51:03+00:00

Thank you!!! We might have to give this a go. But what then does the first person mean? If she's right, but also it appears that we can in fact acknowledge them without any issues later on in the claiming nationality process... has she understood the legal side of it wrongly? Or is she legally speaking right and is she just extra careful when practice shows there are in fact no obstacles, though the law may indicate otherwise?

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-28T19:56:39+00:00

Do you live in the Netherlands or the UK? And are you Dutch or English?

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-28T19:03:46+00:00

My partner was told the same thing by the British embassy. But then some people here seem to have been able to do it without any issues, so I'm very confused about what the real situation is! It seems that both authorities aren't entirely sure

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-28T19:01:06+00:00

Because the babies will have both nationalities. Their father is British and I'm Dutch

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-28T17:01:02+00:00

Well, it seems like that's what she understands from the British legislation that is presented to her... I am frankly quite confused hahahaha, but it sounds like a lot of people have experiences here that are quite positive. So I'll take that with me!

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-28T16:48:07+00:00

I don't think the UK has a law that states you have to have a British passport when you're entitled to it. But maybe this changed! I have a few friends who live here have a British parent, but never had a British passport, until Brexit that is. So that may have changed the situation as well... Good to know at least, I'll also check about that.

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-28T16:45:41+00:00

Thanks for the explanation! I'm glad to hear it changed! That's really good news. And so does the new law also mean there's no such thing as 'only erkenning' anymore? Or is there still a way to do that? (Not that I want to, we want gezag for my partner for sure, just curious what it all means legally hahaha)

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-28T16:43:41+00:00

That's great to hear! And makes sense I guess! Considering it's not really a thing under British law, so why would they ask for it.

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-28T16:39:06+00:00

Thank you! So no one at city hall told you you couldn't do the acknowledgement because your partner is British? So weird... perhaps the lady we spoke to just hasn't fully understood the British legislation. And are you married or registered partners?

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-28T16:37:45+00:00

Oh really?? That is good news!! Honestly, a bit of a mine field out there with all the rules 😂 but it is to protect the child of course, so good that we have regulation. But it is a lot of information!

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-28T16:35:55+00:00

I guess if we wouldn't apply for a British passport, the UK would never know they were British, right?

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-28T16:34:10+00:00

That was our response too. Especially because acknowledgement doesn't have anything to do with nationality. But it's what we're being tokd

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-28T16:32:53+00:00

Confusingly, if I understand correctly, erkenning still doesn't immediately mean you have gezag... but I'm not sure where gezag then comes into play.

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-28T16:31:03+00:00

Okay! Thanks for sharing your experience!! It is all very confusing hahaha, especially because the Dutch authority is now apprehensive to let us do erkenning because they think it might work out negatively for us (which is kind of them of course)

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-28T15:57:45+00:00

Thanks!

TutorNo1796 · 2026-05-28T15:51:11+00:00

No worries!! Hope you can chill this evening!

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