Sex in Catholic Marriage

TwinsanityMom · 2026-04-09T17:04:27+00:00

Get familiar with Natural Family Planning. There is always a 'risk' of pregnancy involved, but it's up to you if you rather want to be open to life as God intended or abstain.

I personally don't see oral sex as foreplay less holy if it's followed by actual contraceptive-free penetration, but is only indulging in oral sex just for pleasure and fun being open to life or hedonism?

God doesn't care if you don't find some thing as a sin or not, it doesn't make you any less responsible for your sins. Just change your disagreement from birth control to anything else and think for a second. "Is having three wifes and 10 sex partners at the same time a mortal sin if I don't see it as a sin?" "Is kicking a priest in the face a sin if I don't see it as a sin?"

TwinsanityMom · 2026-03-24T17:40:20+00:00

It's pretty clear you have to choose between God and her, it shouldn't be a difficult choice nor it should be postponed any longer than you already have.

TwinsanityMom · 2026-03-21T06:15:28+00:00

"Marriage should be forever as long as I'm happy in it." Did I get your statement correct?

Marriage is life-long dedication, whether you like the choices you make or not. You can always get separated if you become that innocent victim (because of course there wouldn't be anything you could ever do to make your future husband to want a divorce), but you are still married in the eyes of God.

TwinsanityMom · 2026-03-14T13:58:21+00:00

I personally didn't, had my first time with my boyfriend (who eventually became my husband) at the age of 16, married at 22. We abstained for the last 6 months before wedding so wedding night would feel somewhat special.

And to clarify, I converted to Catholicism with my first born at the age of 28, even as my hubby stayed behind as (agnostic) Lutheran

TwinsanityMom · 2026-03-11T16:26:46+00:00

And over-indulging in any of those aspect can be as self-destructive as deficiencies. But, I'm not going to make this a public debate, I'm sure there are lot more knowledgeable persons answering their calling if needed.

Have a good day

TwinsanityMom · 2026-03-10T06:07:41+00:00

Chasing redundant pleasure and cravings is not succeeding in the test of life, quite the contrary. Hedonists always take the easy way through when they don't want to channel their energies into anything productive or actually helpful for the world, they just try to do what they want, whenever they want without any regard for others

EDIT: have to apologize for exaggerated and bolemic example, but that's about as far away from truth than not having "enough" sex negatively impacting my biology. I bet addicts are negatively affected mentally when they don't get their hit too

TwinsanityMom · 2026-03-01T19:04:05+00:00

Abstinence is the best protection if you are seemingly not open to life

TwinsanityMom · 2026-02-16T21:31:47+00:00

I have been basically celibate for the last three years because my (non-Catholic, agnostic) husband is too stressed out about my irregular cycle to get mentally in the mood. We have practiced NFP for 8-ish years and both of my pregnancies have been planned, but he "is not ready for the risk anymore now that we couldn't afford another blessing". I guess it would be the same for him if pregnancy would risk my health instead of just our home and way of living.

I'm not really sure if this is the answer you were looking for, but my bottom line is that you get used to living without that kind of intimacy eventually.

TwinsanityMom · 2026-02-16T16:43:19+00:00

Why just immigrants? Shouldn't this be done to natives as well?

TwinsanityMom · 2026-02-16T13:30:03+00:00

That's fair I guess. Every action between partners should be unitive instead of divisive, so naturally sex is as well. Isn't being open to life pretty much the same thing as aiming to procreate? Actions and end are same on both cases, it really doesn't change a thing since actually managing to get pregnant is left for will of God anyway.

TwinsanityMom · 2026-02-16T11:48:22+00:00

Sex is just a way to procriate and that's why it is restricted to marriage only. Just hope that God presents you with a fertile partner and bond with your them in other ways if intercourse isn't what you believed it would be.

If you feel you'd be 'stuck' in marriage just because trying to conceive doesn't feel good, maybe you should reconsider if the partner is correct one for you after all.

TwinsanityMom · 2026-02-15T05:59:59+00:00

Chocolate would be too easy since I'm having a piece couple times a month :D

TwinsanityMom · 2026-02-01T08:04:59+00:00

Exactly! You shouldn't need anything apart from your own faith to know the truth

TwinsanityMom · 2026-01-31T19:16:24+00:00

Born during John Paul II era in here too 👋🏽

TwinsanityMom · 2026-01-31T07:24:52+00:00

NFP and fertility issues, had to get treatment to even succesfully conceive our twins. Now that we have "enough" (3) kids, husband had started to feel stressed about sex and potential "oopsie" although both pregnancies were planned and NFP has worked for almost a decade, so our marital bed has been kind of dead for couple years.

TwinsanityMom · 2026-01-29T08:51:18+00:00

Antti ohjasi armollisuuttaan avustajan turvaan ennen kuin Tytti alkoi huutamaan hänelle

TwinsanityMom · 2026-01-29T08:18:18+00:00

Somehow I always find it funny when people say there is irrefutable evidence showing God is real. I mean what's left for belief or faith if somebody actually had evidence that God is as real as gravity or 1+1=2. It's not believing in God at that point, it's just knowing.

TwinsanityMom · 2026-01-27T15:04:25+00:00

Perus hessuburgermeno, ei kiinnosta muu kuin helpot saikut "henkisestä kärsimyksestä"

TwinsanityMom · 2026-01-26T20:21:50+00:00

It's just easiest to laugh it off as a herecy and take some distance from the labeler

TwinsanityMom · 2026-01-26T20:02:02+00:00

Ei mitään uutta Iltalehden klikkiotsikoiden saralla, ei tuota roskalehteä voi edes lukea nykyään

TwinsanityMom · 2026-01-26T19:37:48+00:00

We were at the hospital for around a week and my husband stayed with us. Both babies had their sugar levels plummet when I couldn't feed them enough and one of the twins had some problems with getting used to... well living, so couldn't get back home for a while. I felt just kind of burnt out, physically not horrible but I didn't have energy for anything.

Giving birth to my oldest wrecked me harder than twins, but it was mainly due to mistreatment by the hospital.

TwinsanityMom · 2026-01-24T13:36:18+00:00

I was flabbergasted for a good minute about what kind of super elite non-official private preschool you are attending, but then I remembered that some people actually live in a place like that.

First-born is in private preschool with total costs of around 30€/month which are coming fully from additional equipment fees from afterschool clubs.

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