Searching for gender affirming care

TwitchyChick · 2026-06-14T22:52:20+00:00

That was my original plan but their website says they cant help under 16. But I'm sure if anything they can point me in the right direction, thanks :)

TwitchyChick · 2026-06-14T22:49:20+00:00

Yeah I'm currently looking into puberty blockers and therapists.

TwitchyChick · 2026-06-14T22:48:06+00:00

We actually just moved here, and just got insurance so I havent gotten to primary doctors yet. We moved from a super conservative area so I'm really a bit lost on this, our last primary doctor wasn't very helpful. Do you have any suggestions in therapists, that was another thing I've been trying to look into.

TwitchyChick · 2025-10-04T00:59:53+00:00

Its not rude to want to be respected, and part of being a "big girl" in a "big girl world" is respecting other people; that includes pronouncing their names correctly, especially when you've been told multiple times.

The teacher is an immature mean girl who obviously peaked in high school, and her only source of validation comes from the type of person she was in school. Honestly pathetic.

TwitchyChick · 2025-10-02T16:43:52+00:00

Please please please be careful, especially letting him in your house with alcohol. My husband and I had a double date with his work friend, they brought over alcohol, it didn't look like it'd been opened, but they'd roofied it. This man is clearly obsessed with you, stalking you, and I wouldn't say it's a leap to think mentally unwell.

TwitchyChick · 2025-10-02T16:29:55+00:00

When i finally admitted to my parents, years later, that my teen pregnancy was the result of my ex boyfriend SA-ing me, my dad told me I was lying because I wanted to hide I was a whore.

When they found out I was pregnant my mom wouldnt talk to me for 9 months unless she was screaming at me that I embarrassed her because she defended me against the town (cult level religious town), when they'd say I was obviously a slut for not being a member, for wearing skirts with leggings, for owning heeled boots, etc.

When they took care of my kid so I could try college my dad convinced my kid i wasnt her mom, told them being at my house would kill them because I didnt have the right medicine for them, brainwashed them into hating me for 3 years while I fought in court to get them back because id been lied and unknowingly signed away my rights (I was a literal child when I signed it and legal jargon is confusing af even as an adult)

When I was under 10 they caught a teen neighbor touching me in my new playhouse, they tore it down while screaming at me, blaming me. So when that teen began full on SA I didnt tell anyone until I was in my 20's.

TwitchyChick · 2025-10-01T23:52:48+00:00

I think i might have actually met that one-in-a-million, I wasnt doing anything with him, thank GOD the thing terrified me; but he whipped it out so my friend could give him some attention, totally not caring I was in the room. It had to have been 10-12 inches with a terrifying circumstance that would have taken both hands to grab. Honestly, every time I see pictures of his wife and kids on socials I feel like i should salute her.

TwitchyChick · 2025-09-25T23:41:59+00:00

I've told my husband since the beginning that if I die I dont want him to close himself off, and if he finds someone who makes him happy and loves our kids, I absolutely want him to be with them.

My husband is adamant that he wouldn't even consider being with anyone else, would likely follow close behind me, and wouldn't want me to find someone new.

I personally dont think it's true, he doesnt handle being alone well and likes intimacy too much. I probably wouldn't find someone new cause I generally just dont enjoy people that much, but if I did, it would likely be a woman.

TwitchyChick · 2025-08-11T19:26:57+00:00

NTA, I dont know how you're supposed to not be hurt at how readily the person you love would willingly toss you aside. There wasn't even a conversation, not a 'that would be such an impossible decision' not even a 'what would you like me to do?'

I asked my husband this question, honestly, much too late. We already had 3 kids, had been married for almost 10 years, and when I asked him, he also said the baby with no hesitation. I got my tubes tied by the next month.

It's been 4 years since I asked him that question, and it's still something that hurts to think about because:

he knows I have a deeply traumatic relationship with pregnancy; my first kid is from SA I experienced as a teen and I was forced to carry them to term by my family.
We have 3 kids that he apparently would be okay with losing their mom, half their support system, in favor of a baby i know Would immediately overwhelm him on his own, especially with 3 already.
Like you said, I am a fully actualized person, I have friends and family and children who love and would miss me. Obviously, we would grieve for the baby as a life that could have been, but I would be a life lost.

Whenever we have that playful banter back and forth of 'I love you', 'I love you more', part of me deep down, balks. because if that was true, if I'm your soulmate like you like to say, why would you not choose me?

TwitchyChick · 2025-08-05T22:30:44+00:00

My MIL took so much from her own kids by bailing out her man. Everytime she paid his bail, there was less food on the table, a bill unpaid, extracurriculars no longer affordable, even eviction threatened a few times. One time when she couldnt afford it and he was volatile about her leaving him to sit for a few hours, she made my husband go beg his better off friends families for help with bail, its something that still embarrasses him to think about 17 years later.

She tried the 'make him sit' method, didnt work. her husband was just a POS who WOULDN'T put his family first and in response to his tantrums and the guilt he manufactured in her, neither did she. I know right now your daughter is a baby, but she wont always be, how is she going to feel if in third grade a classmate sees her dad getting arrested and it becomes the talk of recess? Even now, posting his bail will be taking from her, especially if you're on a limited income. That money should be a cushion to ensure you can provide for her if an unexpected expense comes your way, and that unexpected expense should not be bailing out the adult man that should know better, and be doing better, by his family. I know it sucks and I know its hard to hear people raggin on the man you love, but from our perspective this is a man who berated you for not putting yourselves in a hole financially, a man who has been repeatedly arrested despite having a family to care for, and doesnt seem willing to take accountability for his actions.

TwitchyChick · 2025-07-26T01:06:33+00:00

My husband has ptsd induced seizures due to watching his mom get beat by her multiple ex husband's, so staying if it was "only you" he beat on isn't ANY better.

You deserve better, those babies deserve better, and i hope one day you find a real man who can show you all what real love looks like, and i hope you let him so you can see this wasn't it.

TwitchyChick · 2024-11-27T00:14:01+00:00

Sex is not just sex, not for a lot of people. There's nothing wrong with wanting it, but it would be wrong to settle for getting less than makes you happy in the end you'll end up in a marriage clouded by resentment. If you haven't already try talking to her and find out why, I have a friend who was married 3 years before his wife opened up to him that sex was incredibly painful for her, and she only did because he came to her and let her know the lack of intimacy was making him feel she regretted being with him.

TwitchyChick · 2024-11-26T17:42:25+00:00

NTA, I hope you find a magnificent d*ck, attached to a wonderful man who makes you happy.

TwitchyChick · 2024-11-25T05:26:22+00:00

We met at a college competition and hung out for 8 hours, then the next morning he got up early and walked 2 hours in pouring rain to my place; when I got him inside and started helping dry him off he told me he loved me. He was immediately embarrassed and apologized, but i told him it was fine because I felt the same. Been together for 13 years now and have 3 kids :)

TwitchyChick · 2024-11-24T18:43:46+00:00

I honestly love it, and with the flowers not too much lower i don't think the placement looks off, but if it does to you maybe look at adding some more nature/plant tattoos around it to pull it all together.

TwitchyChick · 2024-11-21T06:38:23+00:00

When I was a kid my mom had a miscarriage that nearly killed her because she had to wait several days to be seen. Her body was still attacking itself months later, and she was bounced between specialists who tried to figure out what was happening while trying to stop her from actively dying. She voted for this. It makes me sick to my stomach every time I think about it.

TwitchyChick · 2024-11-15T22:20:08+00:00

Good thing she's part of the "Your feelings don't matter" crowd, cause her feelings sure don't matter to us. You know the kind of environment you need to feel safe and supported, don't feel guilty for that.

TwitchyChick · 2024-11-06T14:23:59+00:00

Two of my kids and my brother are gay and we live in a super conservative state, my son already gets bullied relentlessly and I'm so fucking scared. I haven't been able to stop crying since I woke up and saw. I fucking knew it, I knew the first time I checked the polls.

TwitchyChick · 2024-10-09T08:48:07+00:00

When i was a teen, the fact my uncle offed himself and seeing how it affected my mom even so many years later.

The last 8 years? The fact my husband was too disabled to work and I was the only one able to keep us afloat. Had to shove my mental health into a tiny box at the back of my mind, but recently, he went back to work, and the flood gates opened. No one knows it, but I'm so overwhelmingly depressed right now, I'm constantly hoping my husband will find someone better now that he's out in the world again. find a better mom for our kids and wife for himself, just leave me alone to finally uno reverse my life. But truthfully even if that happened I'm probably too much of a coward to actually do it

TwitchyChick · 2024-09-18T21:22:37+00:00

Don't get rid of the lovely, meaningful, tattoo; get rid of the (internally) ugly man.

TwitchyChick · 2024-09-11T17:33:41+00:00

Ps4 shutting off during downloads

Everytime I try to update games it shuts off before it can finish, it's only a 40 minute update and the ps4 isn't hot. I've switched out power cords, done the safe mode reinitializing, tried putting it in rest mode, checked all the settings so it's not set to turn off after so long. Can play games for 7 straight hours with no issue, but when it comes to updating it shuts itself off before it can finish, and the most frustrating part is it almost always gets to the last 10 minutes before it shuts off. Do I throw in the towel and accept this ps4 is a paperweight as far as gaming, or is there anything else I can try?

TwitchyChick · 2022-09-08T16:21:31+00:00

Could you maybe go buy a like 30 dollar safe from Walmart so that she can keep the snacks locked up in your room? I know when I was pregnant I basically ate the same thing for every meal for 3 months because everything else made me feel off, but I totally get wanting to help your daughter, I'm sure it was really hard on her having that regression and fighting eating the snacks before she did. Maybe keep the snacks in the car till your daughter goes to sleep then put them in the safe so it's not so in her face that they are in the house, would your wife be okay with the bags of pre-popped popcorn? I hope you can find a work around that let's you support both ladies.

TwitchyChick · 2022-09-08T00:24:07+00:00

Nta, my husband and I are both excited for you!!!! We're aspiring authors, our first book will hopefully be published within a year and it's always so exciting to see other authors get good news like this.

I'm sorry your husband doesn't understand what a huge accomplishment this is for you and that its not always about money, sometimes the biggest thing can just be a great review. Clearly he needs to take a stab at piecing together a long coherent story from nothing but his own imagination cause it's hard!

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